‘Pure greed:’ Etiquette expert explains why tipping has gotten out of control
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Waitstaff get paid well below minimum wage; tips are required to make up the difference.
Delivery drivers - and everyone else who isn't waitstaff - get paid minimum wage. It sucks, but that's the deal.
Idk if it's actually open source, but they seem to be going on the open source financial model: make an awesome thing and then survive on the generosity of people with money who appreciate it.
iBroadcast lets you upload your music and listen to it anywhere - phone, browser, or offline access. I have like 42,000 songs and I've been using it for years. It's awesome.
To get the mp3s, I still use the website that's often referenced in old /mu/ memes/instructions.
I'm pretty sure it hits all your features - I'm not sure about lyrics though.
I'm not sure if this is what that person meant, but, usually it's on the original development team to handle outreach and building the identity of the software - in Lemmy's case, they have a bit of a not-great reputation... Even if they had the reach, that reputation hurts.
Having Mozilla - or any top tier foss-friendly company - kinda take the reins a bit would probably be good.
And why would they - if you let someone like Trump off the leash, he would disband the SCOTUS. (To say that another way: You can't weild supreme executive power with some watery tart out there having the final say.)
It's not just about Palestinian terrorists. It's about us.
I've been on the "can people stop being assholes to Palestinians" team for many years - but this recent hamas attack was disgusting - they've always been disgusting but this was recent. I still supported Palestinians - but even I took a step back and was like, uhhhhh
Israel's response has been worse. As a result, we're all back to fully supporting Palestine. For as long as Israel is seen as the victim, they'll have the world's support; but if they start killing hundreds of innocents to get one person - like, did they give this any thought at all?
I don't think that's it. Mentioning the Missing White Woman Syndrome in this context implies that we should not feel disgust or concern because we're only feeling that way because she's white.
The point of MWWS isn't that we should care less about white women, it's that we should care more about non-white women; it would be more apt trip being it up in the context of the brutalization and humiliation of a non white women about whom no one seems to give a shit.
As I've said in a few posts on this thread: the point of equality isn't to treat privileged people worse, it's to treat underprivileged people better.
She was brutalized and humiliated specifically because of MWWS. To cite that phenomenon without context reads like they're trying to shame people for being disgusted by disgusting behavior. It's as if, because of the existence of MWWS, we shouldn't feel concern - when, the reality is that the reason MWWS is a problem isn't because people care too much about white women, it's because people care too little about non-white women.
A more useful invocation of the MWWS is when a non-white woman is brutalized and no one seems to care, not when it's a white woman and people do.
The point of equality isn't to treat privileged people worse, it's to treat underprivileged people better.
The politics of being an oppressed class within a class of oppressors isn't new, and there are a lot of opportunities for white women to act in fucked up ways (eg Karens), and for people to treat white women in fucked up ways. She was probably chosen to be specifically humiliated and brutalized because of Missing White Woman Syndrome, and it's playing out as they expected - which will embolden them to do it again.
Attributing our concern to her whiteness racializes and politicizes her humiliation but it's still a disgusting humiliation and brutalization.
By citing the MWWS without context, the implication is that we should be ashamed for our concern, as though we only care because she's white - a statement that is, for me anyway, and I think for more and more people these days, false - but it's irrelevant - MWWS is a phenomenon, but she was a person. Her treatment was disgusting and trying to undermine legitimate shock and disgust is cruel.
While MWWS and the politics of white femininity are important (and specifically caused this woman's uniquely horrific treatment), it doesn't help to discuss them in the aftermath of specific horrors, and trying to shame people for feeling disgusted by disgusting behavior is, well, it's why you're being downvoted. The point of equality isn't to treat privileged people worse, it's to treat underprivileged people better.
This exactly. All the things they've bought they've slowly started pushing towards monetization, away from users.
Old Microsoft was specifically fighting Bill Gates's personal crusade for IP law; now that his influence is diminishing, they're seeing the dollar signs that are written all over the phrase "free code."
("So I can just.. take it? And.. sell it?")
It's so easy for you young people. Back in my day, in order to hate Microsoft, we had to understand the virus risks of Windows, we hand to have needed to go into the registry to make some minor customization change; we had to know about Microsoft's nefarious dealings bribing game dev companies to use Directx when they saw the threat of opengl. We had to know about Bill Gates's dark side (which he did, really well - but we have Behind the Bastards now). We had to be mad about crap like how they locked down gui customization, killing litestep and bb4win. We had to deeply care about the deep innards of your computing experience (read: ricing) to understand why Microsoft sucked so bad.
Today, you kids have it so easy - they're putting ads in the operating system, their core software is all subscription, they're talking about making the OS itself subscription based. These days they make it so obvious that we're not their priority, making good software isn't their priority; their priority is getting our money.
(I feel like I made the joke already - Microsoft's really easy to hate these days, you get it - but I'm having fun, so I'm going to keep going.)
They used to put freecell right on your computer - I'm telling you, we had to go seriously digging to find reasons to hate M$. Freecell, minesweeper, solitaire, that weird pinball game my dad liked - we had to be seriously ungrateful shits to head over to Ubuntu dot com.
And now, with one click installers, active discord help channels, eager, excited, and friendly people all over, just happy to see the FOSS community grow - engaging in a healthy relationship with computing has never been so easy - 3 or 4 clicks! Asserting your self respect and aligning your daily experience with your ethics was never like this when I was young.
We used to have to ask on the arch forums where 99% of the time we were told to rtfm (because we hadn't); we had to be super careful not to let on that we were asking the arch forums about our Ubuntu issues. We had to search for random forum threads that inevitably ended with "nvm i fixed it" - if there was any follow-up at all. We had men whose back sweat trickled down through their unkempt back hair before disappearing into their plumber crack; you guys today have stunningly beautiful men and women who are paid hundreds of thousands of dollars to be "developer advocates" - there are twitch streamers who are getting paid super well at their fancy Netflix jobs but still spend hours and hours of their day sharing their knowledge with newcomers - literally just because they enjoy helping people learn about computers.
Kidding aside Linux is pretty ok, I hope you enjoy it.
It's like arguing with a MAGA
No, I use ibroadcast, and they have an adequate free tier.
Like I said, I've never actually used Spotify - I was just taking about subscription models generally. That person said how was it a rug pull off you saw it coming and while I can't speak to Spotify specially I can speak to the current state of rug pulls.
That's great that they worked for you, but there are a few songs I always used to search for when music services popped up - a few obscure things I like - and they didn't have them. I have broad tastes but they're almost all obscure.
Holy duck, the days of slsk chat having thousands of people in the channels, having active channels for every genre under the sun - and some that weren't - those were the days. Straight up chill chat, no chat history, no scoring system, no hierarchies, no gatekeeping - and the only lists of friends you had were private, not like collections your could be evaluated by. The only reputation you could develop was by being an active member of the community - and you were forgotten the day after you stopped posting...
You were judged by how many files were in your share folder, and how well organized it was.
So wait are you saying it's still alive? Could it return?? Are we taking back the Internet from Facebook and Amazon???
Maybe for you rich people who can afford $10 for a 256gb ssd.
Kidding aside, I've been collecting digital music literally since Napster, and a lot of it is mp3 because storage was a commodity for a long time - getting flacs meant I had better quality of less music.
Now that things are changing, when I want to listen to something old, and I notice it's a lie quality mp3, I had over to see my cousin Roman. (Was that dude Russian? Does that euphemism work? How about My Friend Vlad or something. Russian torrent sites. I'm talking about Russian torrent sites.)
Imo raising the prices and reducing the quality of the service you get is a rug pull. You get on board with a certain expectation and then slowly but steadily you get less for your money - rarely a big jump, so you usually just stay on board because, since the last time, your expectations have shifted.
I know I'm just explaining 2020s capitalism to you but the point is, the days of a real, swift rug pull are over; it's death by a thousand cuts now - and whichever one feels to you like a rug pull may as well be The One, because it's only going to get worse, if this one didn't piss you off enough to leave, the next one might.
I say this as a person with 200gb of mp3 & flac. I've never had a sub to any of these "services" - though I do have a huge crush on the people who run ibroadcast.
For the most part, their interests align, that's true. And it could be copium to say that many is better than one - since that's what we have.
At least if there was only one oligarch, we could have direct communication - as it is now, all the oligarchs can just kinda shrug their shoulders and mumble something in the universal language of plausible deniability.
I would 100% spend at least one day a week as a cute young alien in a short skirt and a mod hairstyle (I didn't watch the show enough to know their species, but, like, one of the ones that look like humans with unusual foreheads). And the other 6 days as a cute young alien in Magnum PI shorts and a tshirt (but male this time).
It's not a zero sum game. We could be losing money to rich tax dodgers and also to tips.
(There's unlikely to be any tax losses anywhere near what we lose to tax dodging - but it's not a competition.)
That said - it's not the tippee's fault (yeah I'm going to call them tippees and there's nothing they can do about it). The employee (commonly referred to as a "tippee") isn't being paid a living wage, so the employer makes up the difference with tips. The tips aren't taxed (they're only taxed for waitstaff since their tips are a "part of the salary"), and don't go into the business owner's books - so they can ("truthfully") state that their business is successful at their current rate of pay, and there's no real record of the reality.