jeffhykin @ jeffhykin @lemm.ee

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time to downvote boring questions

I download the CSV of transactions from my bank. If I make amazon/walmart purchases I make a note in my phone of the date and what it was. If I forget to make a note I just try an remember what I got.

So I most of my life I would agree this is impossible, and I STILL agree "write every day" is terrible advice. But I established a morning routine (hardest thing I've ever done but it's been going for 3 years now) and followed all of the steps in the book "Write no matter what" which are mainly:

• LIMIT writing time to 15min; treat it like a sprint of how many words I could get on the page (including 0) and then timing out even if I'm on a roll.
• Keep "here's what to do next" note every time

It feels like riding a unicycle for the first time; there is this really specific perspective that makes it work. It's easy to fall in any direction, and there's no real advice, you must feel it yourself and make the balance work for you.

I thought I'd never be able to, but I was/am able to write for 15min a day and it ends up being a shocking amount of useful content.

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I feel dumb for having to ask but what exactly is "active users half year" vs "active uses monthly"?

Is half year just mean one or more comments/upvotes in the last 6months?

Weeding the grass and feeling good about it

Actually, that's my point we CAN'T rank them.

• on reddit for every 1 post there are 100 or 1000 lurkers voting/ranking the post
• but on Lemmy: there are so many bot posts, that every 1 bot post has like 0.1 Lemmy users voting/ranking it

It is totally impractical for us to correctly/effectively rank the absolute torrent of posts coming from reddit, and the result is that every high quality 1000-reddit-upvote post is surrounded by an ocean of straightup-spam 1-reddit-upvote posts.

Real Lemmy posts in a community are completely drowned out by bot posts. I can't even find real users posting in a community because there's so many bot posts.

Yeah it looks like I didn't do a good job explaining myself since I have so many comments looking for clarification.

I thought it would be easier for people to talk about a service/similar services, compared to me just describing something that might not even exist. Oh well, anyways, I edited the post to reflect what I actually was looking for but I'll paste it here too:

I'd like a small group with strict/well-defined meeting times that has a coach/conversation-conductor to keep topics on track. I feel like it would work really well to give and receive real-time advice from others with ADHD, while having a leader do stuff like

• make sure 1 person doesn't dominate the conversation
• keep meeting notes
• call/text people that miss a meeting
• follow up with people who said they were going to do something

But I've never really heard of such a system.

Thanks I appreciate the opinion :) And I'll let you know if I end up trying them.

Also fun tip for autobill stuff: I never have to remember to cancel stuff because I always use virtual credit cards (I got a privacy.com account back when it was fully free). Just create a virtual card, add a $ limit, and after the first transaction it'll decline every charge automatically. And for things I actually do use monthly and then eventually want to cancel, it's also awesome; it's 2 clicks to cancel the card for any website.

I feel like that expensive coach would be viable if split between 5-10 people. And I would want the advice from those people as well. Alas, I don't know of a service that works like that.

Life.

I mean that both as a joke, but also entirely literally. And I don't mean this as a way to brush off your comment (I'll explain) but there isn't "an area".

But also it's not a "need". If it were a need I'd look for a therapist. I've been officially diagnosed for +15 years, but I'm high functioning (an Eagle Scout, PhD student, and I'm getting married this year). I'm looking for a coach because I know I could be doing better across the board; healthier, happier, better partner in relationships, more productive at school/reseach. I keep track of missteps and their reasons; in high school I was likely operating near the best of my potential, but right now I can tell there's a sizeable gap.

The other, subtle, part of my post is I want to be able to give advice in a small group setting. I've learned a lot of things that are worth sharing, and I feel advice works best when tailored to an individual situation.

Thanks for sharing your experience, and yeah I would be interested in a group. I am worried it would fall apart without some kind of penalty for not showing up. Over and over I've had the experience:

• Volleyball club => I basically never show up
• Volleyball class (with attendance) => never miss

At least part (but not most) of it is I can tell other people "I'm going to get penalized if I don't go" and then that person is okay with me not doing their event/request.

The bad advice problem is why I feel like, yes, a small group would be helpful, the advice would come from other people with ADHD not the coach. However, in my experience, a group of 5 people with ADHD takes about 45sec before the conversation goes off on a random tangent with the original topic never to be seen again. The coach would just be the conductor of the conversation. E.g. "hey joe, last week you said X, how is that going", making sure someone doesnt dominate the conversation, having a checklist, etc. That's why I feel like both combined would work well.

In terms of improvement, I'd like be able to get feedback on small things, like an email I'm hung up on that I need to respond to. Stuff that isn't really worth posting about, and may have personal details.

But also, I myself have gathered a lot of strategies, tools, and advice over the decades and I'd like to be able to share those with people. Posts are good, but with a low attention span it's best to give advice directly when it's needed instead of just "maybe you can use this 3 months from now"

It avoids the need for cloud storage.

If I'm out somewhere, with no device on me, I can still generate my passwords

The abbreviation method LessPass uses works pretty well. Its usually only a problem with a re-branding, like how wefwef changed to voyager. When that happens it's not too big of a deal, I just change it to the new thing.

What is a big problem with the URL though is login portals. Like when it's some conglomerated system that involves a million redirects, and/or a "login with XYZ". They can get some really weird URLs that have nothing to do with the actual site and those are a real pain.

#3 isn't true. There's a username field, so you just put in the username of the alt accounts.

Your point about the master password and two factor is a good one though.

In practice password restrictions are rare (like 1% of sites), but they are problematic when they happen because there's so many different ways to restrict passwords and trying all combinations is impractical. Needing the counter is exceedingly rare. Remembering the username isn't a problem, but if you don't have a consistent policy of always-using-a-username or always-using-the-email (as the lesspass username) it can be difficult to remember that. Similar situation with the URL, if it's not abbreviated consistently, then it's a problem.

That said, I still use LessPass for everything and just deal with the edgecase problems.

Despite what others are saying, I've been using it for a couple years and it can work great if you're okay with the trade-offs.

Of the three (Integrity, Confidentiality, Availability) it has better availability than cloud storage which is what I care about. Even when the LessPass site is down, there's an IPFS version, mirrors, local cache, etc so it's basically always possible to derive any password.

At a user level, it's very impractical (and a slight risk) to always retype the master password at every single login screen. However, letting the local autofill save the password doesn't defeat the point of LessPass. Why? because, if you only use local storage, and you're traveling and your phone breaks, you're now locked out of every account. With LessPass, you're fine as soon as you get an internet connection.

There are a few caveats.

• There's no global 2factor. Loosing the master password means every site that doesn't have its own 2factor is instantly fully exposed.
• I do agree there are a few sites where the default options don't work because of the character restrictions. It's about 1.2% of websites in my experience, but they are painful exceptions. Basically you have to rely on memory to be able to pick those same settings again. I recently wish there was a unified dataset of which websites had password requirements, and then LessPass would auto check the necessary boxes when the website URL was pasted in. Maybe one day.
• Changing your master password requires changing every single website. If you don't, then it's impractical to remember what password was used for what site.

I disagree. Imagine any club or group of people getting together to tackle a problem, with a common vision, a culture, and social values. It can be more than just liking the people, as the group-ideals can kept even as the people cycle in and out.

You can like club/organization for what actions it encourages, what it stands for, the benefit it provides people with, and the lines it collectively agrees not to cross.

Some good organizations have revenue, and we call them businesses.

I agree 99.9% of companies "won't love you back" but it's not 100%.

I've used racket before and I did not know about this! If you're willing to share I'd love to hear more about how you defined that assembly lang.

Linting let's you use indentation based block delineation instead of curly brackets while keeping the rest of the language functionality?

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