"Nothing like" seems to overstate things, at least to me.
Certainly, the sound in Japanese doesn't sound aspirated the way English speakers do and expect to hear, but in listening to all the recordings at Forvo for this word, an initial "ts" seems like an entirely reasonable and fairly faithful approximation of the Japanese sound.
Granted, I would expect someone who has listened to significant amounts of Japanese to hear differences that an outsider like me wouldn't notice, and consequently to judge differences as more pronounced than I would. Even with that in mind, "nothing like" seems like quite the exaggeration.
Moreover, and back to the original point, the pronouciation with an initial "ts" in English seems pretty obvious, just as dropping the "t" to conform to typical English phonotactics does. I wouldn't see any reason to rule either pronunciation choice out.
You're not responsible for meeting this man's needs. You don't need to trick him. "Please leave me alone." If he does not do this simple thing, then you have not committed any offence and you can train yourself not to feel bad about it. You already meditate, so you might make your tendency to feel bad about this into an object of meditation.
Unfortunately, you can't control his behavior. He might still try to sit down next to you and talk to you about things that don't interest you. I don't know what more you can do than ask him to stop doing this and hope he complies. "Please stop doing this. I'm just not interested. I prefer to be alone." It is compassionate to say nothing more than this.
As for why you're like this, that's very likely because someone taught to you to care about other people's feelings and didn't teach you that their feelings are not your fault. This seems pretty common.
The stories you tell yourself about why he does this and the stories you tell yourself to explain your own behavior... they probably don't help you much, do they?
Tsunami doesn’t start with a T sound, It’s just a strange artifact of the romanization of the Japanese sounds.
Yes, and English speakers have an established collective inconsistency regarding whether to pronounce loanwords anywhere on the spectrum from (somewhat) faithfully to the original language to transliterated to entirely reinterpreted with English pronouciation norms. To declare that the "t" in that word is silent (as Ken has done, at least once) overstates the situation. At most, it's optional.
I pronounce those cities as two syllables, although it doesn't bother me when others don't. I also pronounce "Mangione" as three, even though I don't overdo it on the Italian vowels.
Typically, yes. Pronunciation mistakes are not ruled incorrect unless they change the spelling of the name or word, such as adding consonants. Ken corrects the pronunciation without calling the mistake out, usually, although he labors under strange conceptions, such as insisting in not pronouncing the initial "t" in "tsunami" and "tsar".
I have used it as a nicer version of web search, mostly for "How do I write code using this library I'm not yet familiar with?" It provides passable tutorials when the library's documentation is sparse (I get it) or poorly written (they tried 🤷‍♂️).
I maintain that Nudge not being proven doesn't change much in this situation, because as long as enough of "the right" people believe it has enough of an effect, they'll continue to try. All it takes is one well-placed person who makes the tipping screen enabled by default for a popular payment collection service and/or adds resistance to changing that setting. Dark patterns spread easily, even when they don't work. Even when they result in blowback.
It looks like we have a plausible mechanism and no evidence yet. I wonder who is trying to gather more evidence. My money is on nudging having nontrivial effect, but I might sleep better if I knew it didn't. Either way, people will try, and that's where we are.
In that case, we fall back to the impact. All the more reason to advise folks to resist tipping unless they actually want to---to interpret the requests for tips in unexpected places as little more than an optimistic, misguided, or even accidental attempt to nudge. It's the judgmental stories that people tell themselves that seem to tie them up in knots. Let others judge you for not tipping, because they were going to find some way to judge you, anyway.
No no no. The burden of proof is on you to show that people are actually tipping more.
I see. So I can understand your original reply as something in the neighborhood of "I don't believe that people are tipping more"? rather than a denial of Nudge theory?
Indeed, I don't have evidence. Let me withdraw any claim that people are tipping more, not only because I can't support it with data, but also because that's irrelevant to my point.
Nudge Theory is about nudging people by changing the choice of least resistance. The dark side of that is presenting people with an option to tip in a situation where they can be judged for refusing. Whether they actually tip more or not, this is literally taxing on the nervous system and is just another way of using bugs in the human brain against humans. It is presenting another resentment-stirring obstacle in their path.
In addition, and somewhat beside the point, I'd be shocked if people weren't actually tipping in those situations. Worse, and more troubling, I'd be shocked if they weren't consequently tipping less to wait staff who truly need it and were being tipped more before this trend started happening. I have no evidence, but I see a clear and plausible mechanism.
This is the dark side of Nudge theory. People need to practise refusing and it will stabilize. I tip handsomely when I want to and I refuse when I don't. Sometimes I feel irrational guilt. I sit with the guilt for a while, then it's gone.
Tip when you want as much as you want and no more. Refuse to listen to anyone who tells you that this is morally wrong.
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I was going to suggest turning their phone, but that's much better.