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In my experience with bedbugs, the way I found out I had them was my sleep schedule reversed. I just found myself up all night and only sleeping during the day.

Only later did I discover it was due to bed bugs. My subconscious responded to them before I became aware of them consciously.

The reason I say this is that you mentioned your being a light sleeper with PTSD.

Bed bugs will affect your sleep. You need to take this into consideration when planning your life.

My advice leans toward saying fuck that place and finding a new one, and the reason isn’t the bedbugs but rather your landlord’s dishonesty.

Your landlord is either lying to you (concerning) or to himself (double concerning). The fact your landlord has taken anti-bedbug measures and yet claims there are no bed bugs is a major red flag.

Bed bugs are hard enough to deal with when everyone is on board and communicating, and not in denial about their existence. One of the hardest aspects of bed bugs is they’re easy to be in denial about. If anyone is showing signs of denial, that is in turn a sign that this might be an unwinnable bed bug fight.

It takes a lot of coordinated, disciplined action among a group of people to eradicate a bedbug infestation. If someone in the group is lying, that’s a very bad indication for the group’s ability to succeed.

My advice would be to confront the landlord about exactly what the fuck is going on with the bedbugs, what the history is, etc. Then, based on how authentic and trustable your landlord presents in that conversation, decide based on that.

“We did it! An artificial 17 year old!”

1234?? That’s the kind of code an idiot would have on his luggage

Get some soylent and take it with you to the job site. You just unscrew a bottle and you can chug 320 calories in a few seconds.

Easy, clean energy. Doesn’t have to replace your meal either. Just something you can ingest very rapidly even if you don’t have an appetite.

In other news, nuts are very calorically rich for their volume. So if you’re just wondering how to get a lot of calories with something you can take on-site, a big jar of mixed nuts can’t hurt. Keep it in your car or break room.

Don’t fucking cut him loose!

What the fuck. If you’re gonna do it, own it. if you’re not clear about it being the right thing to do, don’t do it.

Friends are precious in this life.

Start by figuring out where you and your friend differ on morals. That’s what good fiction is for: gives you something to discuss ethically without it being too personal an issue to see clearly.

If you have the same values, then having different worldviews is to your mutual benefit.

I think friendship is the only context in which political change can happen, especially in today’s hyper-political climate.

Friendship is the only place people of opposing viewpoints can ever have a civil discussion (or perhaps more importantly, get un-civil and have the conversation continue).

Capitalism is a result of free markets, and not the other way around.

If you let people do as they please with their money, stuff, and time, eventually someone’s gonna hire some help and then capitalism’s happening.

But you can have people who take all the profit, ie a profiting/owning class, and that won’t necessarily lead to free trade happening.

People who question the existence of robots may themselves be robots

I’m curious. If Trump cedes power at the end of his second term are you gonna reach out and try to patch things up with your friend?

I have a hard time seeing how that’s something to “see” since it’s in the future. But you made a life-altering decision based on someone else refusing to “see” that.

Do you have a plan for what to do if it turns out you were seeing something that wasn’t there?

I’d say this is good advice. Similar to what I wanted to say but I wasn’t sure how to word it.

I’d say it’s important to clearly differentiate between values and beliefs. What you’re referring to as beliefs I think might be what I’m referring to as values?

Things like “Nobody should starve to death” is often called a “belief” but I see that as a value.

OP should get really, really clear on what his or her values are. Then, find that same clarity with their friend.

If the two friends have the same values but different beliefs, friendship can work.

If they actually have different values, at best they can be trading partners or allies. Friendship requires (among other things) shared values.

A difference in beliefs — beliefs meaning things like “I think covid wasn’t real”, or “I think vaccines cause autism”, or “I think lower taxes can make an economy prosper” — can be addressed through the inspection and sharing of evidence.

lmao leftists are so transparent oh my god 🤣

If you define people who see things differently than you as negative, then your world will only get increasingly hostile.

My advice is to spend time with people who are chill. Pay attention to which of your friends spend their time expressing hostility, which of your friends tend to define themselves by whom they hate, which of your friends spends time talking about who should be hated, who’s worthy of hate, etc. Then cut out those friends.

I mean, if you want “the world” to seem less hostile, that’s your best bet. Cut the most hostile people out of your life.

And if you aren’t sure who’s the most hostile, just spend some time noticing what people do, where they put their focus, how they choose to use their heart day to day. Hostility is an emotion, a stance, an energy, a vibe.

Therefore the way to reduce the hostility of “the world” (as you experience it) starts with regular vibe checks: “Is this person promoting hostility right now?”

Maybe it’s time to get better at researching companies before major decisions. Do you have a system in place for doing background research on future large purchases?

That shame is no use unless it helps you update your behavior. Shame about a “one-off” decision in the past will continue to nag you until you figure out how to avoid the same mistake in the future.

So how can you avoid realizing ten years out that some big purchase you made supported someone you disagree with? How can you do it in advance?

Also actual Nazis were worse than the “nazis” everyone’s worried about now.

Not as big a deal as virtue signaling to that particular British scientist, naturally, but it’s quite important to the other ones I’m sure.

Solid boundaries, clearly communicated. Giving the customer a choice without hurting their own bottom line. I agree. Excellent handling of the situation.

It has to be humanoid to live among humans, using human architecture and technology.

Doesn’t mean they didn’t give it a dick though

The latter