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i_dont_want_to @ i_dont_want_to @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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Can/do women use their bicep as a pillow sometimes?

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  • Yes. I noticed that my shoulder hurts when I do that so I have been making an effort to stop it.

    • What's the best type of food to eat in a shower?

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  • With your back to the water, barbecue. Messy as hell. But that doesn't matter cause you're in the shower.

    • [Bug] With username unicode filtering ON, blank (or otherwise "invisible") usernames cannot be clicked

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  • Tap on their comment, click on the person icon that pops up under the comment.

    Then you will be on their profile page and can block them from there.

    • You can play Doom using gut bacteria, but the framerate is atrocious

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  • Time to fight the cacademons.

    • anime_irl rule

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  • The itchiness means it's working.

    • If you've called someone else on the internet terminally online, you yourself are terminally online.

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  • By declaring this group of people terminally online, does that also make you terminally online by your own logic?

    • The original Pokémon with guns rule

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  • He's got pants now!

    • I'm starting to think it's a conspiracy to waste otherwise productive people's time.

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  • My new head cannon is that people like ultrawide monitors so they can more easily follow a comment chain and get into more arguments with strangers.

    • Truck breeding rule

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  • Groceries are enough cargo to need a truck, of course. You can't possibly hold that much in a sedan.

    • Which carbonated soft drink is the best?

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  • Oh man I am crazy for Jones Soda. Fufu Berry (which is hard to find in my area), Cream, and Berry Lemonade are my favorites.

    It is pretty expensive, but for an occasional treat it's not bad.

    I used to love Coke, Mountain Dew, and Monster but I cut back and now they taste gross to me.

    • Which carbonated soft drink is the best?

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  • I went to artificially sweetened sodas. I started getting these gnarly tension headaches. (And sometimes my jaw would hurt too.) Bummer. I bit the bullet and just went with drinking less soda instead.

    Ice really makes water taste a lot better at least.

    • How do you accept the things you cannot change?

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  • What would have made you feel better? My guess is that you would have been happy if the other person wasn't upset with what you said and didn't disagree with you, right? Do you think if you were able to explain yourself, then the other person would have understood you and not disagreed with you?

    It's likely that would have not been the case. There is a very good chance that they still would have disagreed with you even after elaboration. And you know what? It's not your fault.

    You will have a large set of views about different facets of life. Even if they were all the most sane, rational views, many people will disagree with them. (And in different combinations. You may have Andy agree with you on X, Y, and Z but disagree on Q, R, and S. Brad may think you're right with X, R, and S but disagree on the rest.)

    It is inevitable. So, what is someone to do?

    First, is it something that matters? If it's something like an opinion of which celebrity has the best smile, remind yourself it doesn't matter.

    But if it's something that does matter? Make sure you educate yourself. Accept evidence to the contrary to what you believe (from reliable sources). Keep an open mind. Accept input. Be aware of your own bias. If you need to update your own viewpoint because you found out you were wrong... Then do it! Yes, it sucks that you were wrong. But it's better to have been wrong then correct yourself than to stay wrong. This is important... If you're wrong, act the way you would want the other person to act if they were wrong. (You will make the world a better place doing this.)

    Now, does this person still not agree with you (and you updated your own viewpoint based on facts)? Can you change their mind? Probably not. Is this a failing on your part? No. You can't control other people, just like they can't control you. But you can control yourself.

    Being told we're wrong sucks. But if you do not have sufficient evidence that you are wrong, then you should be confident in what you think. Instead of framing this scenario as "this person disagrees with me," frame it as "I disagree with this person." With time and practice, you will more easily move to "I disagree with this person, and I am ok with it."

    One last note. If it's something that is very important to you, make sure to do what you can to make the change you want to see in the world. If you were very concerned about pollution for instance, do things like trash tag, buying less stuff, and advocating for your cause. This specific person may not help, but you can still live your life as a reflection of your own values to the best of your ability and maybe even collaborate with others as well.

    I hope this helps.

    • I like to take a walk after my workday, just to change atmosphere and clear my mind. What is the daily thing that make you happy?

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  • Every day in the morning and after work and work days, I take about 15 minutes to myself. Just quiet time.

    It really helps to recharge my batteries from all of my responsibilities. When I don't do this, I find I get stressed more easily.

    • Number of natural waterfalls in each state

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  • Neat, thanks for sharing.

    For instances like Rhode Island (5) and Florida (4), the map groups them in the same range, even though Florida is far larger than Rhode Island. I wonder how it would change the map to have the scales be determined by density, like waterfalls/km^2.

    • 1 in 10 restaurants in the US serve Mexican cuisine, reflecting expanding population, study shows

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  • My friend is from a smallish town (~4k) and they don't like Mexican food much, either. (And the southern US cuisine is also something they are "meh" on.) Not a whole lot of restaurant food they like around their neck of the woods.

    Oh lordy when they come visit me in the city, they chow down on what we got. It's always fun to have them help me order something I've never tried; I'm not nearly as adventurous when they're not around. (I usually experiment in the kitchen or order something familiar when I go out.)

    • Ironic

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    • Bewarebof the computerule

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  • The computer is taking the drugs for us now too? Damn AI is coming for my job now.

    • Student loan repayment problems frustrate borrowers, prompting federal response

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  • Most definitely, will spread the word when appropriate. I want to hope it will do some good, but I have my doubts. I figure the worst that could happen making a report would just be a small waste of time so why not try.

    • Student loan repayment problems frustrate borrowers, prompting federal response

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  • I wish I knew that three years ago. I had a Perkins loan with Heartland ECSI. At the beginning of COVID, they kept screwing up how much I owed them. I would log in a few days before payment should have been due, and it said I owed them $0. So I thought this loan was on the same thing my Stafford loans were on, where I owed no payment temporarily due to COVID.

    I log in a few days later then it says I owe my normal payment + late fee and it says I am overdue. I call their customer service and I explain the situation. The lady seemed to not believe me. "No, it says you owe X amount. I would not have said 0." Given that I caught this fast enough, if I paid it now it wouldn't have affected my credit. I just paid the payment plus the small fee because I did not have the energy to fight due to dealing with the world's crisis and my own added problems at home.

    The next month, I see that it says I owe nothing again. Well, maybe they finally got the student loan pause stuff figured out. Nope, same thing. Not knowing if I was just going nuts, and factoring in my intense burnout, I just paid off the whole thing. Fortunately it was not much, but enough that my savings for a down payment was wiped out. I really could have used that money but for a finance company to just screw up so badly on a simple thing I just did not want anything to do with them any more.

    • Impo(rule)tant

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  • Pretend this is an insightful, yet misguided rebuttal that misses the point of the OP.