Threads has not yet added ActivityPub, so right now there is nothing to defederate from. And ActivityPub support is “a long way off” according to Meta.
We could preemptively defederate from threads.net, but we can’t even be sure what domain Meta will eventually use for ActivityPub—they could use threads.social or something for all we know. So preemptively defederating is a gesture.
So to answer your question, it doesn’t matter right now whether threads.net is in a linked or blocked column. They aren’t on the fediverse yet. Nothing is flowing from them because they have no ActivityPub support.
It’s so hard. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
I can say time will help. And that is very true, but it doesn’t help you in this moment. But it’s something to think about.
Meditation helps. I was in such a bad place after a breakup. I had a constant feeling of panic and depression. I started to meditate. Guided meditations from online. I would seriously meditate for 1.5 or 2 hours every day, sometimes twice. It helped a little and it used up the time I would normally spend feeling miserable.
My attitude was to find ways to occupy my time so I couldn’t use that time letting my mind spin. I started saying “yes” anyone asked me to do something that would use up my time. I made some friends because of that, too.
Home Assistant was the first thing I self hosted. It wasn’t until now with Lemmy though that I am hooked. I’m looking into hosting a Matrix instance next. I tried Mastodon but it’s resource needs were much higher than I needed for my usage. I may give it a try again sometime. Peertube is also on the list.
Thank you for this write-up. Your post is the only place I can find on the internet on making the transition to object storage specifically with Lemmy.
It would be interesting if when creating account on a website, along with “Signup with Facebook” and “Signup with Google” there was a “Signup with Mastodon”. Not sure if that would be good or bad.
Unpopular opinion, but I don’t want that. I don’t want to start adding SEO stuff. If we have good content Google can figure out how to index it better themselves.
You can federate with whoever you want and not be at the whim of other system admins.
You have your data and won't lose it if your instance suddenly shuts down.
Downsides:
Your instance won't be federated very well at first. You may need to use some tricks like Lemmony to get broad federated content to show up in your instance.
Thank you!