harmonea @ harmonea @kbin.social

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It's a slow and difficult process, but yes. There are certain personality disorders that can be provably put into "remission," and if people with conditions that severe can change their personalities, anyone can.

You have to learn how you've been conditioned to think and feel the way you do, and get a lot of self-discipline re: stopping to notice your feelings, figure out why they're arising, think through the consequences of acting on them, and choosing a better way.

I hate to use terms like this since they're so often the territory of conspiracy nutjobs, but you're basically deprogramming yourself. For example, a sensitive person who's been exposed to a lot of bullying might have learned some pretty intense defensive reaction, so you'd have to stop every time you think "what did he mean by that?" and think of why that's your first reaction, then choose to believe the best possible meaning even though your feelings scream at you not to. And you'd maybe keep a journal to remind yourself of all the times you were right to assume the best, since a defensive mind discards the positive and overemphasizes the negative.

This sort of thing is best accomplished with the aid of a mental health professional, but there are workbooks you can get if that's out of cost/feasibility reach for you. You'd need to know your deal to know which ones to focus on.

I don't really understand why you're comparing these two things? One is a group of people refraining from consumption of certain goods for personal reasons - health, ethics, climate impact, whatever. The other is a group of people consuming arguably more goods than they (we tbh) deserve since we're not willing or able to pay for it for one reason or another.

A better analogy would be comparing piracy to... I don't know, a veg-eater of whatever type who still enjoys the taste of bacon and resorts to stealing it because it's better to hurt the meat industry than to pay? It's a product that person really doesn't really need and absolutely would have never paid for, yet the person still wants it and obtains it in a way that hurts the industry.

(The analogy doesn't hold up since stealing physical goods has a different impact than distributing digital copies, but it's the best I've got off the cuff)

E: okay, after reading your other comments, I'm both confident this didn't address the point you wanted and confident I don't really understand your deal well enough to do so. Both of these groups have some members who have a problem with industry practices and others who are into their chosen lifestyle for other reasons. It seems like you've made some odd decisions about which groups are most prevalent among each and are framing your premise around that, and I don't think we're going to see eye-to-eye on it when the premise is Like This.

Or are you trying to say veganism should be more widely accepted because "DRM is wrong" is roughly equivalent to "animal suffering is wrong" re: "industry bad"?

How does the change do nothing to combat those interactions when they fall under the $1 sub requirement? The idea is that allegedly bots won't pay, so they won't be able to do those actions anymore.

Corrected archive link - OP's is missing a character so it's not working

Corrected archive link - OP's is missing a character so it's not working

You said you want good faith discussions, but you preemptively dismissed one of the biggest answers because you don't think it's a good solution. Then you have people here disagreeing with you, explaining why, and pointing to examples of it being done successfully, and you continue to completely dismiss a donation as nothing more than a "thank you" - how is this in any way a good faith discussion if any opposing viewpoint is immediately met with this kind of "YOU'RE the problem" response?

I do understand your frustration in those cases in which donations fail, but it seems like you're not willing to meet us halfway and acknowledge that sometimes, donations succeed, and not by accident or luck. There's data there - test cases we could be picking apart and seeing what critical mass needs to be reached before an instance can reliably secure donations and what we can do for admins until their instances reach that threshold. But you're just dismissing it as nonviable even though it clearly works for a lot of places.

That is not good faith.

Do you think maybe being from "one of the whitest states" is why the people you know still track their descent so carefully? I've lived all over North America, and your experience definitely doesn't match up with anywhere I've lived. Which is not to invalidate your experience, but I would strongly caution you against assuming it's the norm. Most people I knew when I was still in the US pretty much settled on a color or just plain "American" for anything past about the third generation.

Using a color descriptor like "white" or "black" isn't inherently racist for those who don't care so much about which boats all our very distant relatives were on hundreds of years ago, and it definitely doesn't preclude empathy for those who are different from us.

I feel like you're describing a pretty EU point of view here. Which is fine!

But please understand that across the pond, we've been mixing people of various descents for so long that "white" is honestly the best descriptor many of us have. I allegedly have 5 different EU countries in my lineage and ain't nobody got time to get into all that, especially when my ancestry isn't interesting enough for me to know, let alone for me to inflict on others. Those details are just not that important to who I am today, whereas the experience I had over here because of my skin color had more sway over who I am now.

"Ginger" as a term is not, in itself, derogatory or hateful in my experience.

Describing gingers as soulless or hot-tempered is about the same kind of destructive as describing blondes as stupid, which is to say it's a silly stereotype that's often the territory of playful insults between friends, while some small minority of people do run it into the ground and cause real hurt.

(This might be exacerbated by tensions between England and Ireland in that specific area, but... for most of the world "ginger" is a pretty harmless thing.)

The same Neuralink whose primate test cases all had to be euthanized after their procedures due to a whole host of problems that were claimed to have nothing to do with the implants? That Neuralink?

I think I'll stick with my PC, Bob.

You're not wrong of course, but I really need people to understand that this level of detail is not what a top-level reply to a lower-end technical question is aiming for. Maybe this will be helpful to someone, but I already knew it and didn't need it sent to me, and it's going to go above OP's head. For the average end user, this is abstracted somewhere in the "host stuff" layer, and that's fine.

Can't believe you forgot the usage limits on how many tweets you can view and how many DMs you can send. I think some of those might have been walked back, but I know people who were holding back from discord because twitter DMs were enough that now rarely go there.

Also all sorts of API functionality has been killed off - embeds, RSS, bots, etc

Source for fun. Japanese people discussing their favorite countries. The woman in OP is discussing Belgium!

I guess either they're slow or no one on kbin.social subscribes to them to let them filter into the All feed, then, since I don't keep the NSFW filter toggled on.

Only 22 so far.

Mostly overly spammy meme or lolrandum hotspots (196) and discussion/meme communities and magazines centered on demographics I'm not part of and conditions I don't have (no hate for those groups ofc, just leaving them alone and letting them do their thing while also pruning content I fundamentally can't engage with).

I used to block non-English communities and magazines, but kbin's language filter started working quite well sometime after I signed up, so I removed all those.

I think my instance probably defederated porn since I never see it? Meh. I have nothing against it whatsoever, but there's a time and a place - I have a separate lemmynsfw account for when I want that.

Yeah, doing that does absolutely nothing. Your image viewer still reads it as the webp it is, and it knows to do so seamlessly because it's reading the file header (the first few bytes of the file) instead of the file extension.

For an analogy, you're basically just putting a wig on it and pretending it's your girlfriend from the next school over when everyone in the room knows it's your skeezy neighbor and is just humoring you.

You snark, but unironically yes? Obviously?

If you think the professors that will be left will be the highest quality instead of the longest tenured, you're being willfully ignorant. And that loss will ripple down through every generation those passionate and skilled educators would have taught. Plus, "the olds" or whatever have families (which include young people) that would be suffering even more directly to boot.

E: I see we're doing the whole "disregard the overall point and only snark about the lowest hanging fruit you can intentionally take out of context" thing. Into the void with you, redditor.

if there’s like a step I can take to avoid it being a webp

Formats are chosen by the uploaders and hosts, not the end user.

For easy conversion of images from the web, I recommend the FF addon Save webP as PNG or JPEG. Anytime you open an image in its own tab, it pops up with a menu that gives you a quick button to choose the format you'd like to save it in.

But do we really want to maintain the current status quo?

I think if you read my comment again, you'd find I acknowledge things need to change, I just think your proposed solution is bad.

I can imagine ways to accomplish these goals more gradually, with less complete and utter destruction, but I don't think someone who proposed something so extreme from the word go really wants to discuss the moderate stance, so I'll leave it with you as a thought exercise.

You're talking about changes that will take a generation or more to settle. While these things are in flux, professors will lose their jobs, research grants and budgets will be gutted, and educational assets will be liquidized (imagine museums being sold off to private collections - this is incredibly damaging to the collective knowledge base). Meanwhile, the generations that wait for prices to come down will be left having to educate themselves on the internet, which not everyone has the motivational drive to do or the ability to spot which sources are providing reliable, accurate material they can learn from.

I get that something's gotta give, but banning loans altogether ain't it unless your entire goal is to turn Gen A's moniker into Ass-Backwards.