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  • Why is the onus on everyone else? Generally speaking, I believe that if something is making someone upset/hurt, it's on them to let the other person know that. Without deep, intimate knowledge of the other person (and honestly, even with that level of relationship), it's hard to know when something that is ok to you is completely offensive to the other person.

    And just for emphasis, this is my belief in general - not just in the context of misgendering trans peeps. I feel like it's not fair to stay mad at someone for crossing a line they didn't even know existed. I've applied this mentality to my marriage, and it's honestly done wonders for improving my relationship with my husband and has opened up so much room for honest communication and building respect/trust in each other.

  • But there are so many different types of people in the world. How is someone expected to know that something is specifically offensive to one person, unless that person tells them?

    I habitually refer to everyone as "dude", but I certainly would stop calling someone "dude" if they asked me to stop. I know a lot of people feel the same way that I do, so please let it be known if you're uncomfortable with certain terms. Sure, there are people that are going to be total assholes about it, but I'd say that's a great indicator to steer clear of that person.

  • Mine was "daschund". I always thought that was a separate breed from a "doxen".

    Even after being educated on how the word is actually pronounced, I still purposefully pronounce it literally "daschund". Fuck 'em - should've spelled it better.

  • Also, as a native Texan that still lives here because it's not feasible to leave, I feel no particular allegiance to Texas. This government doesn't represent anything I stand for – it's infuriating. Fuck Texas, and fuck proud Texans.

  • Yeah, no. Glad that it's worked out for you (so far), but it doesn't always work out for everyone. I agree that you shouldn't be aggressive and standoffish, but you sure as fuck should not trust the cops. All they've shown is that they are a gang that believe they're above the law. They're out to protect and serve each other — not us.

  • Nah, I didn't read the headline thinking that they were sharing links with each other. It read to me like he and his son are holding each other accountable for how often they pleasure themselves with porn, and that's incredibly fucking weird and inappropriate. While I think it's generally a positive thing to be open and honest with your children, there is definitely a line. And this totally crosses that.

  • Nah, I've certainly had a few reflective moments where I realized my missed opportunities. The reality is, unless you're really confident and self-possessed, it's hard to put yourself out there. So I can understand why these guys didn't just spell it out for me, cause they likely weren't sure I was into them. And on my end, I always struggled with low self-esteem, so I just assumed that these attractive guys weren't actually into me and were just being nice/good friends.

    Anyways, I'm glad your girlfriend is an exception to the rule.

  • For real, had to read it like 3x to understand. The amount of commas in the OP title is just unnatural. I might even do:

    No Okta, it was senior management - not an errant employee - that caused you to get hacked.

    If that's wrong, then I have no idea what hyphens are for lol.

  • I can't speak to Copeland's character, but regardless, I think you misunderstood what OP was saying. There was zero attack on Copeland. They were drawing a parallel between Hitler's peeps being homophobic to the point that they executed a close ally for being gay so as not to ruin Hitler's image, and the Republican party outing this man for cross dressing, which led to his suicide.