𝑔𝑎𝑙𝑎𝑥𝑖 @ galaxi @lemm.ee

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Even Facebook knew better than to rename Facebook or Instagram to "Meta" on the front-end.

Please write for black mirror!

My favorite post on here so far, tbh :)

I had something similar happen a few years back. I had matched on tinder with someone from a different state that I actually met years ago in high school. I hadn't really been interested in him that way back then, but we reconnected and it was intense. We talked everyday and our birthdays both fell on the same weekend, so I went down there to visit him and celebrate together. Only a couple days in, he told me one night that he was falling in love with me. We built a pillow fort, partied, and went hiking together. I was absolutely smitten and so excited to start something new.

I ended up putting off the rest of my road trip to stay longer with him. However, when I finally did leave, I was driving through miles of desert when he texted me and said that he actually didn't see anything happening between us. He said that he wanted someone who knew when to "leave him the f alone" and wasn't looking for someone who wanted something super deep, but more so just companionship. It felt like such a rejection of who I was and I was gutted. I felt like it was somehow my fault. Since I didn't have signal, it was a rough drive alone with my thoughts.

Towards the end of the night, I ended up texting with a friend about it while I camped out (still on my road trip). It sucked at the time but looking back, he was kind of a prick. He had no shame about leading me on and he picked on me for little things while I was visiting him.

It's usually a bad sign when things feel so intense right off the bat. It's only easy for this guy to leave because he really doesn't know you well enough to know what he's missing out on. It might feel like you missed some chance, but it isn't your fault that this happened and there wasn't more you could do. Be gentle with yourself. ❤️ This guy wasn't honest with himself or with you about his feelings, and he ended up hurting you for it. It's clear to me that he likely isn't mature enough for you. Remind yourself that you were willing to go the distance, right? You did everything you could have. You want someone who will go the distance with you and follow you to the ends of the earth, and tbh, it's much more likely something to do with him, not you. Meaning that even if the distance wasn't an issue, you don't know if it would work either.

And you don't have to get over it right away. It's okay to just kind of drag through the days for a bit. But keep socializing, because other nice (and even attractive!) people will remind you that you still have something left and you're worth kindness from others. And do things for yourself. When I get lost after heartbreak, what has helped a lot is going for walks or hikes, sometimes on trails where the signal is iffy (so I don't expect a surprise text), with an audiobook or some music. I really wish you the most kindness. Feel free to shoot me a message if you need any extra support, I've been there.

Not that I'm recommending anyone give reddit any more traffic or leverage, but I've been using Stealth app at the recommendation of someone else on here. It's downloadable through f-droid and specifically is meant to keep you anonymous and avoid any trackers and other trash normally found when opening reddit links. You can't even log into an account. I use it on the rare moments I'm looking for stuff on there, it makes me feel a bit better about it.

Perfection.

I used to love Bill Nye and I dig it if he's supporting the movement, but isn't he actually quite a jerk in real life? I've heard that he's said things that really aren't nice.

yuck at musk's reply though 💀

I'm not the person you responded to, but I'll throw my hat in with them and say that running helps my mental health too! I've had a terrible history with exercising consistently, but I've been running at least a couple times a week for over a year now and the thing that helped a lot was getting away from "my goal is to run X number of days" and focus on rather "my goal is to make the idea of running less painful." I didn't want to get super active, I just wanted to lower the bar for action so that it was something I would continue to want to do. I never shame myself for not going, it's always an open choice for myself to help me feel better, and I let myself even just "go for 60 seconds" or "down the block and back."

And one thing that helps a lot is if you can figure out a time of day that works the best for you. I have a harder time going on weekends because I normally run during my lunch at work. On the days I don't run, I walk, because I sit a lot at work and it drives me mad to spend lunch sitting around too. Plus running is a lot more fun if it's literally taking you farther away from responsibilities, lol. Also, if you tend to do better forming habits with the buddy-system, don't be afraid to look into trying to use that as a motivator too! :D

I have two different kinds of bulbs at my place. I have the IKEA bulbs everyone is mentioning, which have a nice range of hues to them, but actually their connectivity has left something to be desired (sometimes they'd need to be reset). On the other side, I have tunable white 2700-6500k Sengled bulbs that come in a 4-pack. I actually bought 12 of them when I started with HA and I've been incredibly happy with them. Highly recommend if you can find them for the price I did, which was $37/4-pack. The only downside to them is that they are a little squarish on top and a bit heavier since they have a glass top (but you don't notice it when it's installed). They're a good brand to check out.

Edit: I can never reply to kbin posters and I see roofus' point but OP did want a cheaper option. I appreciate looking at the pros and cons but I will still say I'm happy with Sengled bulbs. Bulbs aren't the only zigbee devices to act as mesh e.g. plugs. Their bulbs might not act as repeaters but they're inexpensive, unlike Hue, and reliable, unlike IKEA. Do be sure to do a lil bit of your own research OP! You can always buy a couple and decide if you like them.

I've found that learning about and practicing DBT has offered me more of a skill to do this myself. I know what you mean about wishing you could see outside the frame of your emotions and past. In DBT, we have something called the "emotion mind" and the "reasonable mind." But we need both in order to make decisions. Rationality is great, but emotion provides direction, desire, goals, and a "why" for everything we do. The idea is that when you use emotion and reason together, you can use your "wise mind" which can help you see outside your experiences and gain perspective in new areas. I think I know what you mean because I also crave further neutral 3rd party understanding on my past too, and use ChatGPT a lot for that myself. Thought I would just throw in a couple more cents if you hadn't heard of the concept. :)

Well then, I guess if I buy the same box of cereal at the store each week, the price should be the same too, right? I mean, they haven't created any revolutionary deli slices or canned tomatoes in the past century to my knowledge. Yet the price goes up. I guess corporate never got the memo eh? :p

Reminds me of this :D

Really leveling up the content in this community. Looks sick!!

.__. uhhh... This content is questionable.

http://starmen.net/cult/

Not entirely surprising. If you think about it, that's only .13% of the time since it came out. Also, it's Sims, I don't blame her lol.

It'd be cool to have a companion just like chappie :)

Would you mind sharing what you shot this with? I love it! It's so unique :D

Reminds me of still using spybot search & destroy :p

Damn, talk about being on a roll!