I don't want to put words in your mouth, but I think you're saying, essentially "I work better in the office with others, so others should be here to make me work better" and I would submit that a better solution is for you to find a company that hires like minded folks so you can all work together in an office.
People are understandably reluctant to donate to the core Lemmy devs, but donating to an instance is a lot more reasonable to many folks so that's why it's unfolding that way.
I've been using it with Firefox and haven't had any issues with lag or speed on a regular pixel 6. I'm curious what issues you've had or if you've used the most recent versions?
I'm typing this from the new sync, because it's more familiar to me and I prefer it's ui.
I don't want to put words in your mouth, but I think you're saying, essentially "I work better in the office with others, so others should be here to make me work better" and I would submit that a better solution is for you to find a company that hires like minded folks so you can all work together in an office.