I've actually talked to my fiance about things like this, because I noticed that I was 'handling' him, and I felt like it was demeaning to him. Luckily for me, he considered what I said and informed me that he likes that.
Consent makes the difference!
Probably helps that I'm used to disturbed and abused humans, too...
Or the highest rated anyway. I posted it to ADHD memes, because I have ADHD and love memes.
The credit goes to floccinaucinihilipilification on Twitter.
ETA: I actually don't have that reaction when someone doesn't reply right away, but that's because I once took 3 years to answer a friend and I try not to be a hypocrite.
This response vexes me because while Uncle Barry here is certainly an example, what these people are forgetting (and what this thing about Uncle Barry glosses over) is that until the Americans with Disabilities Act, and the fights from the 70s onward, if a family in the US had a child with an IQ of under 70, they were often shipped off to an institution.
Deinstitutionialization didn't really begin to gain steam until relatively recently in our collective history- here in Tennessee we still had one of these facilities open until the nineties. These people didn't believe there were people with severe mental disabilities, because our society hid them away!
Look up Clover Bottom. But don't, because it's horrifying. I've met people who lived there their entire lives. What was done to them was disgusting.
It is awful what was done to them. But it's awful that people with a greater severity of condition, a greater need for care, are often glossed over in these comment sections. It feels like they're made invisible in these conversations just like they were in those institutions! And I'm terrified that assholes like RFK Jr will disappear them for real!
I'm a ciswoman and I actually love April's ass-kicking. I'm sure it was meant to be a dig at her femininity but it's the first time in media where I felt like, yes. This is exactly how I want my gender displayed.
If you liked it enough, you could win another copy after you refined it by playing against the right people. I think there was only one card you couldn't get back again, and all the rest were fair game.
I loved Triple Triad, and loved the way it broke the game!
Shout out to all the hours I wasted soft resetting so I could eliminate the Random rule from Ellone. Honorable mention to the Laguna card, which refined into 100 Heroes and made every single fight after it complete child's play.
The stories I could tell you from my time as a caregiver for adults with developmental and intellectual disabilities...
::: TW: neglect, abuse, SA
Here is a link to a lawsuit against Clover Bottom Mental Hospital, which was one of these institutions. The lawsuit happened in 1993. This was not that long ago.
"At the defendant state institutions, plaintiffs spend their days waiting out the hours. They sprawl in ill-fitting wheelchairs or carts. They are parked in dayrooms or hallways unattended, or are left alone in their rooms. Many plaintiffs languish in hospital beds or cribs, with no stimulation except when they are changed or fed. Others are left in wheelchairs, unattended for hours, with no stimulation or human contact available to them."
"Plaintiffs' basic care needs are ignored; they are left alone for hours. Clover Bottom residents in diapers are often wet, their clothes soaked through with urine."
"Defendants have failed to protect residents of the institutions from physical abuse and neglect."
"Verbal abuse is widespread. Staff at Clover Bottom use abrupt, verbal commands to communicate with residents; often, they scream at them."
There is so much more, and so much worse. The thing is, some of these folks are still alive, and still members of our community, and they still have the evidence of this ongoing trauma writ large. The current system isn't ideal. There's never enough care, and the people who are providing care are often under-trained and under-paid and over-worked. But at least it's better than this.
ETA: I had to come back and add: I left out all the sexual abuse. There was... a lot. There's evidence. It's mentioned in that lawsuit but there are stories I can't bring myself to tell.
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That's the other cool thing about the Sailor Moon fandom. I've never once met a Sailor Moon fan who was a racist, or a bigot, or... anything. It comes with the 'love and justice' thing.
I have to say, I read your comment, then went back and actually looked at the first three links they posted. None were rhetorical questions. Are you looking at something somewhere else that I'm not aware of?
But it doesn't... Like I'm not actually interested in your fight. I just have a massive pet peeve about someone coming in, seeing a wall of links called 'evidence,' and choosing to ignore all that to start a different fight.
I appreciate your vehemence and the vigor with which you make your point, and also agree with your point. I only had issue with that particular insult because in my culture, it does initially read as misogynist. I figured I'd ask if you meant it that way because you probably didn't.
flicker @ flicker @lemmy.dbzer0.com Posts 3Comments 457Joined 7 mo. ago
I appreciate your comment.
I've actually talked to my fiance about things like this, because I noticed that I was 'handling' him, and I felt like it was demeaning to him. Luckily for me, he considered what I said and informed me that he likes that.
Consent makes the difference!
Probably helps that I'm used to disturbed and abused humans, too...