I have a lot of them. Sleep and I are in an... enemies to lovers kind of relationship.
There's hate-fucking, is what I'm saying. I hate it so much and it's all I want.
Some of my advice might be bad advice due to my ADHD but I can't tell what might work for you so.
Also, I have left off a lot of stuff that I have done that is... not good. If you need harm reduction options, let me know.
I wear an eye-mask. The gentle, soft, cool (not cold!) pressure is a reminder to my brain that it's bed-time.
Don't eat too close to bed.
Make sure there's nothing uncomfortable (like a tag from the sheets) touching me.
Play a TV show I find comforting but that doesn't need my 100% attention, at a low enough volume that I can't quite hear it unless I'm very, very, very quiet. This helps make me some moving/jittering/jiggling. (I play Futurama. Can't get a nightmare from Futurama.)
I take l-theanine. It's supposed to make people "alert" and "calm" but my doctor recommended it to me and it's sedating effect is so strong it significantly drops my blood pressure. (Very useful if I have to take stimulant medication.)
Which leads to I take prescription medication. It doesn't quite do it, and is hit-or-miss, hence the list.
If it helps, there's also documentation saying that people who are neurodivergent can take an additional 10 years to finish developing. I don't know how true that is, and it needs further research, but I definitely wasn't fully developed when I should've been.
Yes. I did. I'm the first person who said, "this wiki link doesn't support that."
And another non-US source says that it isn't. All from the same link. The argument that the top drop down is somehow valid enough to make a blanket statement when there are equal sources saying it's false among their demographics is disingenuous at best.
ETA: you might not remember but you directly replied to my comment where I pointed out that the wiki article doesn't support what he's saying in his post.
I typed "lesbians have a higher divorce rate" and got a bunch of right-wing sources all quoting each other with no actual data.
Seriously. I followed like 5 links where each person was supposedly posting their source, and it was just some other asshole making the same claim. I gave up because it seemed to be going nowhere and I have the wiki right here.
If that asshole downstream here in the comments congratulating the dude higher in the comments for "posting statistics" in which the wiki article does not confirm what he says is any source, I wouldn't be surprised if guys like these pop up and make that same claim all over the internet.
Which part of that wiki article are you trying to cite? The US part says that the divorce rates are the same among homosexuals as the general population?
Personally I think a lot of weddings end in divorce because people get them before they're 25 and that's when the brain finishes developing. Society rushes people to marry but I don't think that's a good move for the health of the people involved- only for the crowd that wants you pumping out babies as fast as possible.
I'm a woman and my absolute dream wedding is less than $10k and by a lot, and that includes the two-day on-site cabin rental for the guests (who will be sharing a single big-ass cabin because they're not just a wedding party, they're a LARP adventuring party.)
And now I'm here to fight with both of you, not about what you're arguing about, but I'm going to police your tone and call you both stupid because you didn't argue in the arbitrary fashion I've determined is "correct!"
This is the least helpful contribution I can make, while simultaneously attacking you both!
I told a story about how one of the only time I stood up to my awful mother was about this very thing.
I spent time complaining about Bush, and my mother would always whine that you "have" to support the president.
The minute Obama won, she came to me parroting some sort of Fox nonsense, and I engaged her for a while before realizing, "You have to support the president!" She pointed out that I didn't blindly support Bush, and I answered that I believe it's the job of all citizens to question their government (as I openly criticized Obama many times), but she believed you have to "support the president," so when she didn't, she was a hypocrite.
One of the few times I pushed back, and one of the few times she was actually silenced by logic. A memory I hold dear.
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