fine_sandy_bottom @ fine_sandy_bottom @lemmy.federate.cc

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Honestly sometimes getting downvoted to oblivion on Lemmy is a key indicator that you're not 14 and have some life experience beyond selfhosting a minecraft server.

The article is a promotion for a docudrama.

Of course what happened to her is truly, genuinely sad, but millions of young women lose or ruin their lives over drugs every year. They don't get their own docudrama because they're less pretty, or less relatable, or have less respectable abusers.

That's subjective.

If you have a narrow definition of a "normal relationship" then sure, anything else is creepy and weird and someone must be manipulating someone.

I'm sorry to inform you that there are a great many 50 year olds who would absolutely party with 23 year olds given the means. In fact I would suggest that almost all sexually active 50 year olds, who are free of romantic entanglement would knock on that door. Fewer would be interested in setting up a long term committed relationship, but still a significant portion. Bars and brothels and strip clubs are full to the brim with these "abnormals" every night of the week.

Actually, there are a great many cultures in which this type of age disparity is the norm. I'm certainly not arguing that it's ideal or even "better" than your definition of a "normal relationship", just demonstrating that your views are indeed subjective.

It's really only creepy if the 23 year old doesn't appreciate the attention, or doesn't reciprocate, or is manipulated.

Yes it would be possible for a 50 year old to manipulate a 23 year old with lavish gifts. It's also possible for a 23 year old to manipulate a 23 year old with lavish gifts. It's also possible for a 23 year old to manipulate a 50 year old into giving them lavish gifts. It's also possible for a 50 year old to simply want to impress the object of his desires with nice things.

It's absolutely fine for you to find the age disparity creepy. It's also absolutely fine for others to engage in this type of relationship.

Hah.

Firstly, I wasn't complaining.

Secondly, I suspect I've touched a nerve. Are you the fieflord of some Alexandrian repository of enlightened content and discord? Do you find it fulfilling?

You realise it's an article about a TV series which only quotes a grieving mother and a retired cop right?

Maybe take another look at the article with just a modicum of scepticism.

I'm struggling.

This sounds like the start of most relationships.

Perhaps separated by degree, but mostly the wealth imbalance.

Right 50 year old showers young desirable woman with gifts, hardly uncommon.

Because modding online communities is a huge waste of time for anyone who isn't desperate for validation.

Rage quit LOL.

And in at least one case, Ryan appears to have actually administered the drugs to Sarah himself. On Dec. 20, 2021, he'd written "If you wake up … I just went to change, after I gave you Ketamine just now …"

This message? That's not what this says.

If I asked someone to give me ketamine, and they did, I would go to sleep. If I woke up and wondered where they were, it would be nice of them to have left me a message saying they'd just gone to get changed and would come back.

OTOH if someone gave me ketamime while I was asleep in order to control me somehow, they probably wouldn't leave me a message telling me they had done so.

Can you help me understand love-and-money-bombed?

That sounds kinda great compared to my 20s, in which I had no love nor money and was ultimately miserable and lonely.

I mostly agree.

Yes the guy was criminally reckless with the drugs he had access to professionally.

The rest of this article is just a narrative really.

Plenty of people do drugs in their 20s. She was getting them from her sugar daddy. Every parent that lost a child to addiction could write a similar story.

What's more startling is that users here somehow think that 50 year olds don't want to party with 23 year old beauty pageant hotties, and that 23 year old beauty pageant hotties don't want to do drugs and live large with 50 year old dudes.

They want $100 a barrel. Russia is selling too much at say $90 a barrel. If the Saudis flood the market so it's only $80 a barrel, it will really fuck Russia's shit up.

Saudis are hoping Russia starts playing their game with the price fixing.

I’m not disputing that, but hating him, and actively trying to undermine his candidacy with a leak from your memoirs are two very different things. That’s a nutty conspiracy.

This is what I actually said. I don't really have much more to add.

This is so tedious. Feel free to have the last word and continue believing your nutty theory but I'm done.

I've been thinking about this lately.

You're right in that there's no central "authority", but lemmy has become very centralised with all the content on a few big instances in fiefdoms controlled by a few mods who seem to be weirdos with too much time on their hands.

I guess the benefit is, if an instance or a mod does something really egregious there's the potential to just move to another instance.

I think we need another few iterations of exodus from other platforms because of whatever shitstorm for lemmy to develop its own vibrance.

Repeating the same thing doesn't make it any more likely.

Billionaire learns interweb.

I'm not disputing that, but hating him, and actively trying to undermine his candidacy with a leak from your memoirs are two very different things. That's a nutty conspiracy.

Do you really honestly believe that Melania Trump has written a book, scheduled publishing for after the election, but then released these specific comments, in order to undermine her husband's election chances? That's pretty much a nutty conspiracy IMO.

Nonsense. She may hate him bit she sure as shit wants him to be pres. Why do you think she releasedbthis information at this time?

Maybe they say to someone more knowledgeable, "well I would vote for trump but he doesn't support abortion rights", and now a devout trump supporter can respond "well that's not really true, his wife is a strong supporter of abortion rights, I'm sure trump is too, it's just that he has to keep the rest of the party happy. You'll see once he's president"

in the same way they hear about anything else.