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  • Variety is good for your brain, but it will overwhelm you after a while. You get used to it and a blind spot appears. With the information I have, I'd suggest planning your day around one activity. Be on theme.

    You start your day with a goal and imagine how you can achieve it. The planning is one activity by the way. You plan for house long you will do any given thing continuously and where the pauses will be. One hour and then fifteen minutes rest? After a pause, you can reflect upon the subject, write about it, see if you haven't stayed off course, basically process, rinse and repeat.

    It's weird being this generic,, unfortunately I see no other way.

  • I think there's something missing in this article. It sounded familiar and I remembered the old news when they mentioned Google and Australia. The issue with Google was that the news would show in the search results, which meant there's no need to visit the source.

  • We really do need more romance in games not being presented as a mean to get a prize. Maybe some randomness could be applied and the same actions would not always result in the desired outcomes.

    It was curious when I realized, not many years ago, that people found strange to play a character with a different gender. Imagining a different sexuality is probably the same. In both cases, games don't go deep in making you feel like the other, which is kinda sad.

  • Psychologists have constructed a myth – that somewhere there exists some state of health which is the norm, meaning that most people presumably are in that state, and those who are anxious, depressed, neurotic, distressed, or generally unhappy are deviant.

    The Sick Woman is a disabled person who couldn’t go to the lecture on disability rights because it was held in a venue without accessibility.

    The concept of invisible disability comes to mind. They are not so much invisible as just more easily ignored. Disability becomes invisible when your spaces don't allow our presence, when your activities don't accommodate our participation, when your solution is simply to fix us because you believed we are just wrong.

    I knew about the reality women faced when seeking medical treatment before, but the way it was framed resonated with me even more this time. We can be oppressed in so many different ways that we get separated and forget how much society can equalize us by their mistreatment. There are so many ways of oppresing our peers that we should be vigilante not to be contributing to the wrong movement. And silencing is the sin on the menu today.

    Silencing is not hearing one's story, and if we believe everyone should have a voice, we need to go after those who can't speak or find it difficult to do so instead of expecting them to show up. Make spreading other people stories part of your political acts, make them visible in the spaces you visit, in the spaces you want them to visit.

  • The cardboard boxes become common for home deliveries here. Banning plastic bags was a battle that went nowhere without a good alternative.

    People need to be educated for things to work. Expose everyone to the solutions until it becomes ingrained.

  • I had a blog many years ago. The culture around it was very curious and I wish I remembered it well. It was a bunch of blogs with links to all the other blogs that they would recommend and interacted with. Maybe blogs weren't contaminated by the thought we should be entertaining others all the time. Lurkers wasn't even a concept.

  • The reason behind the rules might help with that. Don't be a dick and be nice are more about being respectful and understanding than following etiquette. From my point of view at least. The specific way you act is not a problem until it's related to another person.

    What I mean is that the way people perceive you is the important part. If someone accuses you of being a dick and you disagree, don't defend your words, explain your attitude. At the same time, don't go around accusing people of beings dicks and try to see if it's not just miscommunication.

    The letter of the law entitle people to not care for any harm they cause if it's in their rights. Then there are the people that realize pain is what the law tries to avoid and act to correct themselves without the need of being guilty.

  • Twenty years ago, before I questioned anything about myself, I fell in a pattern of looking for queer friendly spaces when looking for nice clans inside games I played. It's a shorthand for receptive spaces that I use even today.

  • Can I vent a little in your behalf? I'm in a good place now, so it won't sip my energy.

    I would put the variation "you're strong" together with the other wannabe advices. They don't help anyone. If you are having a bad day, or specially bad bad day, you need to act accordingly. People should learn how to give your space to be down and not try to yank you out of it the moment you stop pushing.

  • Something that helped me was stop trying to fit into definitions. A word for an identity is very useful to communicate who you are, but starting by figuring out the small parts might be better in the beginning.

    How would you like to express yourself to the world? What would make you happy? What do you reppress? What do you find attractive? How many forms of attraction do you perceive?

    Question yourself, even when you think you have already found the answer. We change over time, in the sense we understand ourselves better over time, which means our truth is limited by what we know in the various different periods of our life.

    You can try journaling. Write about your doubts and the thoughts that go through your head and you might find some patterns along the way.

  • Try this thought experiment.

    A straight man kisses another straight man in public. Both hate it.

    The act itself is not sexual and doesn't represent their orientation. All the discomfort or whatever you may feel after watching it has nothing to do with them, but with you own point of view.

    All the rest I could say was already mentioned before here. This is just to reframe the problem.