distractedcactus @ distractedcactus @beehaw.org

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Here's my currently-reading list. I have way more on the "waiting for enough chapters to be released to binge read" list.

• The Lazy Swordmaster
• My Senior Brother Is Too Steady
• The Druid of Seoul Station
• Legends of the Swordsman Scholar
• Cultivator Against Hero Society
• I became Invincible after Descending

Thank you for the info! I'm going to leave the space because I'm too lazy to edit it again, but I appreciate the response. 😄

I second this, and also (for those living in urban areas) recommend spending the night outside somewhere with no light pollution. Going out on clear, moonless nights and looking at the stars was a formative experience for me as a child. I'm continually sad that it takes more time and effort as I age to find places to do this and the time/money to get to them.

I think that there needs to be a discussion about what is actually needed at this point in time from a local level. In addition to the wider cultural/societal acceptance of lesbianism (or whatever -ism/-ality is pertinent) over time there were multiple other factors (death by capitalism, changes in management, etc.) that led to the decline of these spaces, and while books and videos like these are great for capturing and highlighting the overall trends I think that the solutions have to be implemented at the community level.

What type of resources and support the lesbian community in my area needs may be different from another city in the same state, likewise it may be different in rural areas vs urban, east/west, north/south - speaking from a USofA perspective.

Personally I see a need today for spaces that can accommodate teens as well as adults, so cafes or community centers could be a good start. Adults have options for dealing with negative behavior and access to places that people under 18/21 do not. There has also been a shrinking of other types of spaces that were open to teens and younger adults over time, places like arcades, non-religious community spaces, etc. that could/did provide places to express things or interact with people that might not be acceptable at school or home.

Even now as an adult I would love somewhere that I could go and feel like I could engage or just be there without having the pressure to buy something to justify my presence. The only place around my area that fits the second criteria is the library but I wouldn't consider it a safe space for meeting or discussing my issues with others.

Thank you! I didn't realize there couldn't be a space there. The markdown guide (as seen on my phone) looked like there should be a space.

Edit: Sorry for multiple replies, wefwef kept telling me the reply failed.

Thank you for posting this. It's strange and sad and interesting to watch how spaces specifically built for once-maligned people are closing down as those lifestyles become more accepted in the wider culture. It also highlights the continued need for dedicated spaces, both for people who are still not accepted and because the reasons those spaces are useful may have changed over time. There is a new book just released in June (still waiting on my copy) about this same thing - Moby Dyke by Krista Burton .

Congratulations (?) on not being pregante. The cake looks delicious.

Modal or bamboo underwear - soft, stretchy, silky, the solution to everything I hated about cotton underwear. They are usually more expensive than Walmart (or other box store) brands and take more care when washing, but to me are definitely worth it. You can find them for fairly good prices on Amazon if you don't want to splurge on name brands, but you have to do the research and check the reviews. You can get them in boxers, briefs, and thongs for men and even more styles for women.

This is good advice if your phone is actively being hacked in real time when you turn it off. Otherwise all you're doing is delaying or temporarily interrupting any data collection that's going on in the background. Any apps that are sophisticated enough to run undetected by a normal user are also going to restart themselves as soon as the phone boots up again.

Also, if you are being targeted by a hacker that is knowledgeable enough to actively get into your device (especially an iPhone) without physical access then you're better off destroying it and buying a new one, along with doing a full reset of all of your passwords, 2FA setup, and anything else you think you're relying on for "security".