hmm, well kids thatβs access controls and networking for ya! use it to your own advantage. besides, i doubt any federettiquite has beem established. remember you can always start your own instance with your own friends and block everyone else out. threβs lno reason not to.
There is identity (who you are as a user, e.g, @dipshit@lemmy.world) and there is content (which must be on a server which can be accessed by anyone on the web 24/7 in order for things to work). Mastodon has a really portable system, but importing and exporting data requires that server hosting the data be online 24/7 (or at least when you want to access it, which could be anytime 24/7).
Blueskyβs proposal is nice and clean, but it refers only to your identiy. If bluesky were to go down, you couldnβt transfer your content out of it until it came back up. I think this is the problem nostr tries to solve with relays but I could be mistaken. either way, relays are just another server that needs to be online in order for the data to be accesses.
Federation is just a protocol or a shared language so that other activitypub-federated services can act as a user on that instance. Most activitypub software include the ability to block instances for any particular reason. Further, most activitypub software include the ability to host private instances. Nothing about this is against how federation or the fediverse works. It could be considered a dick move, but I think that refers more to federetiquette than the fediverse itself.
how do you feel about who has the burden of proof? the person claiming the thing or someone saying there is no evidence to suggest that the claim is correct?
linux users when they meet mac os users.