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Yeah I appreciate that bit a lot. This is a casual internet forum, not a PhD dissertation. I don't see why anyone should bother with trying to be so perfect all the time. Humans aren't perfect! It's ok to be casual and relax when necessary. :)

Most of my posts have a little "edit" mark icon next to them because I post things and then immediately notice something wrong or add more detail. And I know after I edit it there will still be weird typos! Oh well! Doesn't hurt anyone!

Imo mirror selfies do on average tend to look a lot better. I think a lot of it must be that the photo is taken from further away. This causes two things...

1. The picture isn't a detailed because the shot is simply further away. Wrinkles, acne, and other imperfections are not as clear or pronounced.
2. Features like your nose, chin, eyes, etc. appear smaller in far shots than close shots. In close shots, there is a bit of a "fisheye" effect due to the perspective, even if you aren't using a fisheye lens. It exaggerates a lot of facial features and isn't how you normally see yourself when you're looking into the mirror because you just aren't that close.

No, it's just just "because the image is flipped" which is what is repeated ad nauseum online. The biggest thing is the second point I mentioned.

There was a gif out there somewhere that very simply and easily demonstrates this phenomenon of how wildly different your facial features can look from this.

Lol well I generally can't stand when my nails are too long so that helps! Yeah with all of the benefits of contacts, the downsides ended up ultimately being too significant for me which is why I went permanently back to glasses after years.

Cry about the continued march of time and my mortality.

Then afterwards!!

1. Work on a project I've been meaning to put more effort into. I've had ideas for some time now of trying to "invent" a device to help me with a sometimes extraordinarily difficult task at work. Solutions for the task already exist, but are incredibly expensive (tens of thousands of dollars or more) and my workplace doesn't seem to be inclined to go that route.
2. Work up the courage to ask my work bestie to hang out outside of work sometimes soon! It necessitates hanging out with children which I'm not necessarily always a fan of, but I can go through it if it's important to my friend. Sometimes work gets a bit busy or stressful and it would be cool to make memories outside of work. We've hung out only a few times ever. Idk!

Yeah, the political shit sucks. But since there's nothing I can do about it, I'm just a bit "meh" on the whole thing tbh. It's not anything I have the power to fix. So I'm just going to do my best to ignore it! Not really on my radar at the current moment, but it definitely was during the elections themselves. Idk we'll see. Always best to just try to think about other things!

It took me an... embarrassingly long amount of time to be able to put in and take out contacts. It took multiple long, separate sessions and mental breakdowns to be able to do it. I was similar to you. Couldn't even handle drops in my eyes. But once you finally get it down through all of the freaking out, it's easy as pie. If a ridiculous person like me can do it, you can too!

Contacts are such a different experience too. You actually have peripheral vision! Never in my life have I had that. Your prescription is exactly the same the entire way around your field of vision. With glasses, you don't have any correction for peripheral vision. And if you have a stronger prescription, you can only really see perfectly outside of the dead center of the lens. Anywhere slightly off center and the correction isn't as good.

Not to mention with my prescription, I still always see lights as kind of a puff ball at night when I'm wearing glasses. It's not a matter of having the wrong prescription. There is just light distortion from the lenses themselves. With contacts, you don't get this distortion effect and lights don't have the puff ball.

I wore contacts through my teen years and early 20s. But tbh I eventually stopped and went back to glasses full time. Comfort and flexibility just won out for me...even with all the amazing things that contacts have going for them.

People say this all the time, but I've never really understood it. You can't help who you are attracted to. Do a lot of people just have relationships with people they don't find attractive?

I don't find like 99.9999% of people attractive. So I never really bothered attempting to date. I don't blame people for it like an incel would...it's just a slightly unfortunate thing that means I'm incompatible with other human beings. The few times I tried, it felt awkward and bad that I couldn't reciprocate what the other person felt. It felt like lying and I'm not really sure what I was supposed to be getting out of something like that.

Legitimately curious.

Glad they were able to censor such fowl, offensive words like "when" and "someone".

As a long time glasses wearer, no it does not mean there is necessarily something wrong with your eyes. Glasses can cause visual aberrations. Lights at night always look a bit like puffballs to me no matter my prescription. Not sure if it's just because my prescription is a bit stronger than most or what. Something about contact lenses makes this go away entirely, but I prefer wearing my glasses for comfort.

It's crimas

Idk I wash my laptop in the dishwasher all the time

Yeah and don't forget that some people (although not necessarily a ton in the western world) don't celebrate Christmas either. It was interesting to me because I met a young person the other day born in the US but to immigrant parents. Despite being born and raised in the US, he (and his family) don't celebrate Christmas or anything.

In line with yours, I remember always being happy to work certain holidays like new years or memorial day or whatever because they aren't holidays to me and I would get extra pay for being there.

I don't know really. It's mostly anything outside of certain scenarios. I am comfortable at work and with my parents. Anything else I am always uncomfortable. My discomfort can range from mild to severe depending on the scenario.

Yes.

But I do not experience it with my parents and I do not experience it at work.

I have seen quite a few of those because people say you're supposed to keep looking if they aren't helping you. I've spoken to maybe 5 different ones at this point. They never have much of substance to say but are very quick to deduct large amounts of money from my bank account. I don't entirely understand what I am supposed to do to get something out of that. Not sure how many more I'm supposed to see or how much more thousands of dollars I'm supposed to spend before someone actually has any ideas of what to do beyond chatting with me and giving basic advice/platitudes.

I've honestly had similar enough chats with ChatGPT for free.

I have a stupid question.

How do people "see how it goes" and ever have a positive experience? For me, even if the person is friendly and funny, I am so uncomfortable that I never want to do it again. Literally no one has ever felt any different for me. Even if I gain some level of pleasantness and satisfaction from the interaction, it is incredibly mild and doesn't ever make up for anything or make me wish to continue. I have tried seeing people repeatedly to no avail. The cost-benefit analysis never nets me out on top. I have always been a perpetual loner due in part to this. Does this mean I'm a psychopath or something? Because I cannot connect with and gain satisfaction from humans the way they seem to be able to with each other?

I think your assessment of the issue is accurate. People don't go out and do things like they did before the pre cellphone and internet age.

But for me...for the life of me if I go out and do stuff on my own, I cannot interact with strangers. It's uncomfortable, unpleasant, and I don't get anything out of it. I don't know how that's supposed to magically swing the other direction.

Hell, even with people I like and know well... interacting with them outside of our "normal" routine is uncomfortable and unpleasant for me. Over the years, I've befriended someone at work and feel comfortable there. But for the life of me, I cannot gain the same level of comfort and satisfaction hanging out outside of work.

I've had a sister in law for years and years now. Despite this, I do not have the inability to interact with her. It is uncomfortable, unlessant, and I do not get anything out of it. It's not her fault...she's a very nice person. But I just absolutely cannot ever gain comfort around people in certain (read: many) types of scenarios. I am comfortable around my parents and that's it. No matter how often I spend with other people.

Exposing myself repeatedly to these scenarios has not ever helped or made any sort of difference.

First of all, my parents have never had much if ever at all in the way of savings. Tbh not sure what's going to happen when they aren't going to be able to work anymore.

But I'm with you. I absolutely never understood why people ever feel like they are entitled to their parents money. Your parents earned that, not you. If my parents were never able to leave me a dime, I wouldn't give a shit. Even if they had a million dollars. I didn't earn that. I have no right to someone else's money.

I would feel different in scenarios where we are talking about a minor. If a 12 year old becomes orphaned, then yes, they should 100% be entitled to their parents' funds.

But why in the everliving fuck do people as adults feel entitled to money that is not theirs and they didn't earn? Incredibly bizarre concept to me.

Idk about cats, but my mom's dog absolutely never minded wearing clothes. What she doesn't like is stuff on her head. But shirts and stuff she doesn't give 2 shits.

Do you have a tl;Dr?

Get this. You have a structure in your brain called the "mammillary bodies". It's because it looks like a pair of tits.