Yeah new years was never a holiday for me. At my old workplace, we were open 24/7/365, so I was always happy to work on new years because of the holiday pay haha. It seems more like a thing if you go out and party. Nothing wrong with that! Just never something I did!
That actually sounds like a lovely evening even though you were sick.
I tried to go to bed early after having a rough couple of work days but I couldn't fall asleep for several hours which was a tad annoying. My coworker/friend still seems to like me and enjoy my company even though I occasionally go off the rails which is just endlessly confusing to me. I never know how to make up for being a crazy person. So we were texting a bit before I went to bed.
I've never "stopped" getting horny because I never started to begin with. Like I said, it was confusing growing up. As a teen, my peers would experience that sort of thing and talk about stuff like that and I couldn't relate. I know that if you experience a sudden decrease/lack of libido even though you once experienced it, it is often a symptom of depression. But that's not how it worked in my case. That's just how I've always been. And still others assumed I was just a "late bloomer". Again no. Early on I suppose one could postulate that but I'm now 30 lol. My body went through the normal changes of puberty at a normal age too so everything seems to be fine in that department!
I wouldn't know what intense sexual desire feels like, so I don't know how I would be able to compare said desire to anything else like you describe. I will say I have absolutely never been a passionate person about anything. So it's interesting to me when I stumble across someone who describes their passion for their career or a particular hobby or etc. I have not ever really experienced that. I have likes and dislikes, but not so much passions.
I am more than capable of experiencing other types of emotions tho...happiness and sadness are ones that I have the ability to feel very strongly depending on the scenario. Moreso than others to the point where it gets me in trouble sometimes honestly.
I'm not here to diss EVs or praise ICE vehicles, but I want to simply directly answer your question. There's one simple mantra that is applicable to a lot of things in life...the dose makes the poison. Not odd to see people extrapolate to that your scenario.
In one, although the quantity is greater, you're "diluting" the gas into the humongous atmosphere. In the other, you're taking the gas straight up undiluted.
If we're going to get real for a second, I just wanted to complain a bit.
I get that therapy is so heavily advocated for and seen as the catch all nowadays, but the mental health field itself (at least in the US, not sure about every country) needs a total overhaul. At this point I have spoken to maybe like 5-6? different therapists.
At no point did any of these people offer anything useful to me. Most simply acted like ChatGPT...repeating what I said back to them without saying anything of much substance. Then there was one who was consistently 30 minutes late to every single session (4-5?) I had with her. Once or twice, sure I get it...but good fucking lord have at least some respect for the client. Then there was another therapist who seemed to want to get a bit more practical about things, but kept downplaying any issues I have with my cunt supervisor because she didn't commit r**e or murder, so what she did and the way it made me feel didn't matter. And then there are others who utilize certain methodologies where they try to teach you that all of your thoughts and feelings are invalid and wrong...as if the only way to exist as a functional being in society is to be born a different person.
In all this, the constant feedback I hear from people is...well...you just didn't click with that one or that one is a shitty therapist. Keep trying and you'll find one out there that will help!
Therapy is not cheap and not always even easy to schedule. And then going through so many shitty ones when you're already mentally drained enough to need therapy is just even more disheartening and mentally draining.
The point I'm getting at is not necessarily that all mental health is bunk. But I am fortunate enough to have had the means to spend multiple hundreds upon hundreds (thousands) of dollars on this ultimately unhelpful and frustrating journey. Many others are not so financially fortunate.
If I can have a sample size of 5-6 random therapists and they are all literal trash, then the mental health field is not outputting what they should be outputting.
It's like I have a broken ankle and I have to go to 5 separate hospitals...yet none of the hospitals know how to fix it. So instead of trying even more hospitals, I just end up hobbling on a broken ankle which will heal mal-aligned because it's too much time, effort, and money to continue with what seems like a futile task.
This wouldn't be acceptable in the field of medicine, but it somehow is in the mental health care. I don't at all know how to fix the mental health field, but I know that it isn't at all where it should be.
I tried to look up if this was a real book because I'd def want to buy it. I came up with only one result on Amazon and the cover looks different and it doesn't have good ratings.
So I'm not who you asked, but I consider myself to be on the asexual spectrum. No, I don't get horny.
But here's the thing. As a teen, I stumbled into the term asexuality and thought I finally found others like me! But then reading through the forums, most of them seemed to talk about still getting horny and having a libido. They choose to masturbate instead of having sex with a partner. Or, some of them will even still have sex with a partner.
Confusing to me. To me, desiring sexual things at all doesn't fall in line with what the term "asexual" would intuitively seem to mean. It seems like they should have chosen a different term. Still made me feel like an outcast among both the sexual and asexual communities. So people in the community came up with a zillion other terms and sub-terms to describe all the specifics about themselves. To me, it seemed like people were getting lost in the weeds of inventing new words and not seeing the forest.
My only thought as to why this could occur is that either the person is intoxicated or has some sort of cognitive issue like dementia OR that it was deliberately done as a sketch to make a viral video. The former are scary to think about. I can understand a "normal" person making this mistake once or twice, but the fact that it's continuous and repeated would lead toward impairment.
Ah so yeah. I noticed it was at 0/0 which was odd so I did a quick click on your profile. Tbh I didn't really read any of the content lol. But the 0/0s kind of jump out.
Well for me, that's why my social anxiety doesn't really exist so much at work. I can simply do my work if I have nothing to say or if no one seems to want to interact with me. And then with the interaction with coworkers bit...I'm literally required to interact with coworkers to perform my job duties. So then branching out into casual chats isn't weird because we were already just discussing work.
If I'm at say...a coffeeshop or something...interaction with other patrons doesn't really make sense contextually...even if I start to recognize the regulars who are there. There is nothing we are doing cooporatively.
Yeah new years was never a holiday for me. At my old workplace, we were open 24/7/365, so I was always happy to work on new years because of the holiday pay haha. It seems more like a thing if you go out and party. Nothing wrong with that! Just never something I did!