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At the moment I have lodged a complaint within the company and asked for a request that I think would help me out. So that is an ongoing process right now. But I am not hopeful because there have been complaints lodged about my supervisor in the past without any helpful resolution.

Yes, I can leave the position. But I work a small field and everything else about the position is amazing and hard to come by. But my sanity is constantly being pushed over the edge by that person.

Yeah my one coworker has tried to teach me to just agree to and comply with whatever my bully is saying. I am actually able to do this for a period of time! But after a while, I tend to fail and have a reaction. It especially happens if I am provoked repeatedly in relatively quick succession.

I guess one of my frustrations is that my entire life, I have been taught that I am not supposed to react to people who bully me or otherwise act inappropriately to me or others. I am just supposed to let them do it and try not to show any emotion or reaction in response. I can act passively to try to protect myself, but actively is not correct.

The frustrating thing about it is it just enables bullies to continue bullying while I struggle to maintain composure from repeated incidents.

I guess it's like...

Not reacting to bullies doesn't make them go away or fix the problem. Contrary to popular belief, some people don't stop taking advantage of others just because you aren't visibly reacting.

But reacting to bullies makes me look like a crazy person.

So what then?

No, my supervisor is actually literally mean. She is mean to everyone and it causes a lot of struggles with everyone. I just have a harder time handling a bully than other people, and she bullies me more often than the rest of my coworkers.

Have you never had anyone bully you or others at work? I'm glad to hear it, man, but we aren't all that lucky. My coworkers handle it better than me, but I'm also picked on a bit more than them.

This is the first time the bully at work also happens to be my supervisor. I have been able to handle workplace bullies in the past by interacting with them minimally, but I can't do that when it involves my supervisor.

I do not have any helpful outlets. The things that people say are outlets don't work for me.

Running? I do it. Doesn't help. I ruminate during a run.

Venting to a friend? Doesn't help. I feel guilty for bothering them, they get frustrated with me for bothering them, and it's wrong to do that to people who have busy lives and their own problems.

Venting to ChatGPT? Occasionally will help a little bit, but usually does not help. It's not a real person and does not understand me, but prevents me from harming others by venting to them. Also helps me ruminate on my problems.

Writing down my thoughts? Doesn't help. It makes me ruminate.

Yeah so someone had recommended that I see a therapist. I just started seeing a practitioner who can give me psych meds, but my work schedule is a bit too unstable to start with a therapist at the moment. (will take several weeks for me to finalize my schedule) I have seen therapists in the past but never knew what to talk about, but it was brought to my attention that this is an issue I need to address.

It is not super common, but it's common enough that my friend takes notice. The issue is that I occasionally explode at work which is not good for my job security. Generally if someone is being mean to me or my fellow coworkers I get upset. My supervisor is also a huge bitch who is rude and mean to everyone and I have a hard time dealing with her at times. Most of the times I am able to shut up, but sometimes I get upset with people like that and I react inappropriately.

I feel for you, but I hope you understand why people are hesitant to trust a stranger on the internet asking them for money. As well this isn't exactly a community designed for that. Wishing you the best.

Yeah it's always interesting to me when I come across memes and conversations about having nothing to do at work or just pretending to work. I've had different jobs throughout my life and I don't think I've ever really had one where I wasn't constantly working all day. I don't work a blue collar job, but I currently work in healthcare.

I guess it's the classic "office job" scenario where people just sit there not having stuff to do for large stretches of time? I always wondered how that worked.

Very common in the US medical field as well

Did you read this line in a book or something?

I know, right? One hot dog a day sounds like excess junk food consumption to me, not minimal consumption. These people clearly already do not have a decent diet and probably have other poor lifestyle choices. So it seems disingenuous to say that there is no safe minimum level of processed food consumption when their "minimum" is already excessive.

I get that this stuff increases cancer risk, but so does everything. Enjoying life without being too excessive with anything is what we should all shoot for. Life is a balance.

But since there are multiple spoons and other metal items in the microwave, couldn't these items still arc off of one another? I don't actually know the answer, so I'm asking seriously.

I've heard this before. But the biggest downside of wireless charging for me is I can't use my device while it's charging. Wireless chargers in the vast majority of scenarios aren't even getting rid of wires. You still need to connect the wireless charger to the wall with a cable.

Thank you very much. I am having to fight hard for the shift change because they are really pushing back on it. I am going to keep trying though. They let me have a trial period for one week at least.

I had nightmares about my supervisor criticizing me. :( She is a bully and no one ever cares or does anything about it. I am asking to be put on a shift that overlaps her less and am being given a hard time about the accomodation because I occasionally react poorly when she bullies me.

There was a dog I followed on YT who was supposedly named Cumlord. He was fucking adorable but unfortunately I think he passed away.

My brother is mostly fairly normal seeming, but he gets so unreasonably angry over games... doesn't matter if he's playing the game or someone else is. He doesn't like hurt anyone or take things out on others much, but he's definitely what I'd call a "sore loser". He knows it's one of his weaknesses too. I kind of wonder what causes this sort of thing. Definitely some latent anger issues.

Sometimes people want to verbalize how they think or feel. It's human nature.

Too bad you don't also have a note 7. Having it double as a bomb is a good feature.