cobysev @ cobysev @lemmy.world

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I tried Warhammer 40K once, but I got the cold shoulder when I mentioned I didn't have any minis to play with.

They also took 3 sessions to finish pursuing a suspicious character across an alley. I nope'd out of the group after that.

I enjoy the imagination and storytelling most of all. Coming up with an adventure for all of us to discuss and enjoy is fun!

But most of the groups I've played with take forever to do anything. We'll spend like 4 sessions just trying to wrap up a scenario in a tavern and move on. I need to find a DM who can keep the action going and not just give people all the time they want to talk their way through a situation before acting. And I also need to find players who are more decisive.

I've played with five completely different groups in the past 20 years, and all of them were exactly like this.

Not at all. I believe the game was actually made for English audiences because the speaking animations seem to match the English subtitles and look like a bad dub in French. There is a lot of French in the background, but it's more like immersive world details. The important stuff is either place names that are explicitly mentioned, like the Saint-Michel Rotunda in the first screenshot, or written in English. Heck, I think there's more English in that first screenshot than French.

I love the idea of DnD, but every group I've ever played with just made it such a drag. I've never had fun actually playing it. So now I follow the memes and that's about it.

Oh, and the Mann Shorts videos about DnD. I would totally play with those guys.

I suggest that I'm going to have sex with someone. Then, as a form of retaliation, I tell them I'm not going to have sex with them. By your logic, this is not punishment.

I think I see the problem with your logic here. This whole 4B movement is about women taking back control over their bodies, especially in an upcoming era that's allowing misogynistic men to be more vocal and accepted in society.

It has nothing to do with punishment. Claiming that women are "retaliating against" or "punishing" men is making the topic about men instead of what it's really about - women's rights.

No women is required to date a man, or sleep with a man, or even associate with men. Period. 4B is just a way for women to protect themselves from the incoming onslaught of openly misogynistic men that Trump's presidency is justifying.

Will women dump their current partners and/or spouses to join this movement? Doubtful, unless there are already some red flags there that they're just now picking up. But that's inconsequential because again, this movement isn't about men.

As men, it's so easy for us live our lives without fear. Almost no one tries to rape and/or murder us because they thought we were hot. We hardly ever have stalkers. So we don't realize just how prevalent that scenario is in a woman's life. Even my own wife, who I always felt was tougher than me, is still terrified to go out by herself at night because she's already been victim to sexual harassment and assault, multiple times. That's not something I've ever had to deal with in my own life.

And the crazy things is, women really don't know who they're getting involved with until it's too late. Sure, to us men it seems like most men are fine and harmless. But that's because we're not the sexual target of most men. A dude who seems like a fine gentleman might have some fucked-up desires or views on women's autonomy behind closed doors, and they can be really good at pretending to be a decent human being in public. It's only once a woman is alone behind those closed doors that they might truly learn the awful plans a guy has for her, and at that point, it might be too late to get out without danger to life or limb. Or worse, surviving a situation like that and then having no one believe you in court, so you can't prevent that person from stalking you.

Preventing that scenario in the first place is the whole point of 4B. Women always live in fear of dating men because it's always a gamble. Truly kind and respectful men who understand boundaries and never push them are extremely rare. Even "decent" men still think with their dicks from time to time and push boundaries, hoping they can convince their partner to cave and give them what they want. With the surge of misogynists coming out of the woodwork and being openly threatening to women, it risks spreading acceptance of the mindset that women don't get bodily autonomy around men. So abstaining from men entirely is the safest thing they can do right now. It's too risky trying to figure out if someone is truly a gentleman or if they're just putting on a mask to get laid.

Basically, women are saying they're trying to protect their lives and you're trying to turn the discussion toward men's rights instead. The topic isn't about men. And treating a women's decision to retain bodily autonomy like it's a reward or punishment for guys is honestly super misogynistic in itself. No man is entitled to a women's body; it is not punishment for a woman to decide not to associate with a man.

I actually prefer Lemmy because my voice isn't drowned out like on Reddit. Anything even remotely interesting already had 10K+ comments on Reddit by the time I found it, and my own little addition isn't going to be noticed by anyone. But here on Lemmy, the most popular posts have like 20-30 comments, tops. I could add my 2 cents, three days later, and still get up/downvotes.

I'm more likely to reply and vote on posts and comments here because I feel like I'm contributing to a small-knit community, not just adding to a massive statistic. Reddit was more about consuming content. My pithy up/downvotes and comments over there hardly made a difference most of the time.

Here you go, I added some pixels to your post:

Yeah, that $950 was already 2 years of payments, which OP was complaining about "investing" in his games. Where are they coming up with an additional $200 per month?! At that point, why not just invest that $200/mo and keep enjoying your games?

EDIT: OP changed their math literally a minute after I posted this. It makes more sense now.

If I had to ask my boss for permission to use the restroom all the time, I'd probably respond the same way.

For Karl!

The Driller I regularly play with has a nasty habit of abandoning our group to go drill tunnels where we don't need tunnels. He's always looking to take shortcuts directly to his objective instead of following the caves.

Then, when we're trying to run to the drop pod, Molly will just go straight up one of his tunnels in the ceiling, where we can't follow. Then we're frantically running around, trying to find another route to the drop pod without Molly's flags.

Oh, and he fights every large bug with C4, nearly killing us all in the process.

I'll get there one day... but it'll be a while before I have the free time and motivation to slog through it again.

Good to know, thanks!

You're absolutely correct, I am approaching it from the wrong mindset. The thing is, I like my crafting games to be chill sandbox games. I have ADHD and am easily distracted, so being dumped into a world where I'm struggling just to survive, and then finding threats everywhere while I'm trying to progress on a build or something... I find myself stressed and unable to focus on progression. So I prefer games that let me go at my own pace, without distractions from the task I'm focusing on.

With Subnautica, I don't know where to go to progress without spending time exploring and getting distracted along the way. So it will take me hundreds of hours to actually complete the game; time that I rarely dedicate to any single game. And too much time if I'm not having fun along the way.

I've been meaning to give Techtonica another chance. I was enjoying it, but I tried to play it with a friend and he checked out early because the build menus and crafting mechanics were too complicated for him. Because of that, we switched to another game to play regularly and I never really got back to Techtonica. I agree with my friend that it was a bit complex at first, but I was enjoying figuring it out.

For me, games are strictly a form of entertainment. I play to escape reality and do something fun for a while. So when a game "treats you like an adult," I feel like the fun is gone and now I'm stuck working just to gain a little bit of progress. I don't get a sense of reward from that, I just get frustrated.

Especially if there are important events that you can miss. I used to be a completionist with my games (I still am, to a degree) and I wanted to explore every nook and cranny of a game to really enjoy every bit of effort the developers put into creating this world. But finding out a game takes 50+ hours to beat, and then realizing that I may have missed important details and that I'll need to replay that lengthy game to find them again... no way. That's too much effort. I mentally check out really quick.

I agree with you about The Outer Wilds. I think I've played about an hour of that game and I had no idea what I was doing or what the plot was about. Everyone kept saying it's better if you go into it blind, so I didn't read anything before playing and, well... I don't know what I was playing. That's another game on my list to give a second chance before I give up on it completely.

I'll be honest, I haven't been able to get into Subnautica. I spent like 2 hours swimming in circles, trying to figure out what to do in that game before I realized I was supposed to check messages or something on the escape pod first. I felt totally abandoned and alone in the ocean, without much of a direction to go. It was a little too "open world" for me, if that makes sense.

Pacific Drive, on the other hand, drops you right into the action, with three people in your ear helping guide you through this strange and unique world. You can always go off and explore regions on your own, but your primary objectives are always clear. I don't think I could get lost if I tried.

I've been meaning to go back and try Subnautica again. Maybe I'll do a write-up on it and see if I enjoy it, now that I'm used to crafting/exploring games.

I didn't even know Netflix had a games department, and I have a Netflix account. I'm assuming this is just another effort on their part for further enshittification of that service. Perhaps it's finally time I unsubscribed from Netflix.

Yeah, it's pretty easy. There's a little technique required for climbing/balancing on ledges, but it's not super challenging and you can always adjust your camera view to make it easier.

You're welcome! Like I mentioned, I almost didn't get to post today thanks to computer issues. Fortunately, I have a few other non-gaming computers floating around my home (I used to be an IT guy), so my screenshots might not be 4K quality, but I could technically find something else to play with if I needed to.

Actually I have a Steam Deck too! I wonder how decent its resolution/graphics would look on a PC screen...