bobbyfiend @ bobbyfiend @lemmy.ml

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The phrase "based off of." It's always been stupid. I'm still ahead of the curve because many people still think it's OK. It's not.

I can't say for sure, but it certainly seems like the people believing these things speak in ways reminiscent of people with delusion disorders (e.g., schizophrenia). The patterns of how they use words and concepts just feels very delusiony to me.

Depends on where in Canada. Toronto? Vancouver? Montreal? Oy, insane real estate prices. Bumfuck, Alberta? Manitoba? Rural anywhere? Much cheaper.

And regardless of the price I could afford the utility and maintenance on a condo or apartment in a major city in Canada (if I could ever afford one) much more easily than on a castle in France. Not a great comparison.

My kid would like to still have a dad. One who is, ideally, not in prison or dead.

I'm sure it's a hard problem to solve. However, I'm still not using a product missing a critical feature just because the developer found it too difficult to include the feature. Sympathy to the developer but also I need that feature.

If I believed in a god I'd ask them to save me from the baby communists who see a sickle and hammer on a flag and insist they must have represented utopia.

First, I dig this meme. I'll probably share it elsewhere.

Second... "POV" just means "hey look at this," now?

Remember, kids: Don't do genocide, or else after only two years of murdering people wholesale the UN might say something about it and let you keep murdering.

I've taught statistics for over 20 years. I flipflop on this constantly, sometimes in the middle of a sentence. Even more disturbing: I don't have a consistent position, at least grammatically, on whether it's singular or plural.

Well, this is fucking horrifying, and it won't make the news because of the other, louder apocalypses currently happening.

So this is saying Palestine originated with Nazis and Soviet-style communists. I guess some people just missed all that critical thinking we keep trying to put in the education.

Not in my experience. Liberals criticize their parties and communities constantly, at least in the circles I know. The criticism is most often about treatment if others in ways that don't affect the person themself. Sometimes it even seems like status seeking and gets obnoxious. But I'll take a movement where status can be had by advocating for others over over where it comes from selfishness.

They have access to it if they threaten/indimidate/blackmail you into giving them access. Dummy phones are a real thing; saw a post today on masto by a company... person (?) who said they keep a stash of clean burner phones for when employees travel through US borders. These are all reasonable, and maybe even CalyxOS's decoy partition (does it still have that?). The larger problem is that few people will use these things, not even bringing a clean phone. And once they start threatening your family and your long-term safety and freedom, it's highly likely you'll give them access, if they know there is any access to be had. Which they increasingly do, because universal surveillance blah blah.

This is a great list and thanks for posting it.

Also, the pixelfed guy needs to give up full control of his project (no matter how nicely or reasonably he argues "not yet"). I have asked on mastodon and nobody seems to know of anyone else who truly understands the project so if he dies or gets disappeared the project... Dies? Maybe? More concerningly, it isn't open source. He cotes good reasons for this (the massive labor to refactor and whatever else goes into open sourcing a functioning project), but he also occasionally humblebrags about being offered huge sums of money to sell it to corporations. I suspect it will become corporate at some point if he doesn't open source it soon.

I don't think that works on shared hosting (at least not without similar workarounds and tweaks), but I hear that the AIO method and snap both work really well if you have root access on the machine.

I absolutely would not trust myself, but I also feel deeply that I should be allowed to test this hypothesis with lived experience.

Speak for yourself.

Feeling this very hard. It took me a few decades to find a partner like that. Very happy you have one.

Kids with ADHD often have days and weeks and months and years in which almost every interaction with a parent or teacher is mostly negative. It doesn't take long for this conditioning to make kids feel bad about themselves--e.g., see themselves as stupid and lazy--and feel bad about the parents and teachers. They often become secretive or otherwise avoid the people they've had thousands of bad experiences with.

If there's any way to shift that balance, it will be powerful for your daughter and for your relationship with her later. Sometimes this means just letting go of certain things. Sometimes it means letting her get away with stuff. If she has siblings, it probably means looking like you're treating your kids unfairly. Sometimes it might mean reaching out with love and kindness when there seems to be no chance that will be received well. You can potentially be one of the best things in her life, but the path of least resistance--and the path that "normal" parenting leads to--is a world where you are an agent of unpleasantness or punishment for her more often than of happiness and comfort.

As she grows up she will learn lots of things adults need to know; some quickly, some very slowly. She'll need help at a lot of points, and if you can be a person she asks for help, her life will be better. When she's 20 or 30 she'll be independent and living a life, no matter what your parenting style was. At that point, the relationship she has with you depends a lot on her accumulated memory and gut-level conditioning from years of being around you.

I'm choking up as I write this because I have a daughter and I know I'm not a perfect dad. I want very much to have a good relationship with her as she grows up, and I know I don't always make that easy. It's a huge challenge. I say this because what I wrote sounds really preachy; I'm preaching to myself as much as to anyone else.

I think ADHD often does to us sort of what some other conditions do to others: beats us down. By the time we reach adulthood, we've learned from millions of experiences not to bother with certain things. At the same time, many adults I know with ADHD are much more anxious, especially in social or work situations, than they appear.