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  • Lemmy is seriously not large or organized enough for anyone to consider it. An evil fascist organization has shit to do, like real oppression - not piddling about with a bunch of autists who call for revolution from their moms basements.

  • I’m afraid to say anything. Think I should?

    Yes. Of course, you shouldn't be a dick about it. But you're married. You should be able to talk about what you find attractive and unattractive about each other.

  • But if there was someone I trust enough to be in my bedroom, I’m not going to waste my time convincing you that I do not, in fact, sleep in my bed.

    If this is really how you feel, then I suppose I can't dispute you. But this is like saying, "why would I comb my hair? Anyone I want to talk to is okay talking to me as I am."

    Sure..... But most people care about things like this. Maybe not explicitly - most people don't explicitly think to themselves "ugh, an unmade bed. What a loser." But on a subconscious emotional level, this is essentially what is happening. As a society, we've decided a made bed looks better than an unmade bed. That you have failed to make your bed prior to someone entering your bedroom indicates a lack of willingness or ability to confirm to social norms. This, then, typically corresponds to individuals with low social status, and lowers others' opinions of you. Again, this happens on an entirely emotional, subconscious level for almost everyone most of the time. But the fact is, it happens.

    Hence, when I'm going to have guests in my bedroom, I make my bed. I don't make my bed every day - I just don't care that much. But I will 100% make my bed if I'm expecting someone else to see it, just like I would sweep the floors and comb my hair.

  • I mean, the burgers are the healthiest part of a McD's meal. The fries and soda are far worse, as they are unsatiating, drive hunger later in the day, and have almost no nutritional value beyond pure calories.

    For the burger itself, remove the bun (bleached white flour), the ketchup (hfcs), mayo (vegetable oil), and cheese (whatever tf is in that cheese), and what you have left is pretty healthy. Fresh veggies. Some grilled meat.

  • Lots of gyms have need-based discounts, or will hire you to work, like, 2 shifts per month in return for a free membership. If you already have friends at the gym, they can often give you a guest pass. And some gyms give out free days for meetup groups, or classes that happen at the gym.

    Unfortunately, more and more we are in the age of the corporate climbing gym, where they jack up prices but brag about "diversity". The grungy old gyms where a lot of the real community building in climbing happened are slowly fading away.

  • This is correct, but, imo, incomplete.

    The fact is, some of these groups kind of suck. Maybe they're cliquish. Or maybe they are all dicks, or are judgemental about people who arent in the group. Or maybe they just aren't your vibe for whatever reason.

    If you are trying to make friends, I think the advise shouldn't be "join a hobby or club for something you're interested in" but "try out every hobby or club for everything you might be interested in"!