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This helped a lot with the meme format... Less so with the joke itself lol.

The irony of not being able to tell if it's a self deprecating meme about enlightened channers or legit incelism is moderately scary lol.

Accepting that basic bitch games are actually great helped me a lot. They're fun and have shitloads of people playing them for a reason. Looking at you Fortnite and Diablo 4.

Also line up your installed game icons in the order they should be played in on the desktop helped a lot. If I'm not sure what to play I load whatever is furthest on the left. First row is single player games. Second row is multiplayer games.

It's currently Dave the Diver, Diablo 4, and Osu! is permainstalled these days.

I always heard one of the main reasons for it was moisture protection. Unsealed batteries means they go bad more often from drops in water, taking them in bathrooms for showers, dropping them into dog bowls or rivers...

How much the IPA or F protection really matters... I dunno. But it makes sense on paper. I see some people discussed it below without good sauce though.

Absolutely not. I upvote all the people I agree with initially then down vote the dumbass who tried to go against us in our own thread!

Get your own damn thread down lower! Quit mooching our beans way up at the top.

The power of Wallpaper Engine, bitch.

Ya rly!

Nah that's how debate club is everywhere. Middle, high school, and college.

The debates you see on TV are designed for whatever channel it's on though.

Local councils are basically what you see on Parks and Rec. It's where the OG crazies shine since they've mostly been banned from the internet lol.

He used socks instead of bare feet because his patreons didn't pay for feet pics too. They really wanted him to slip... Lol

What a dumpster fire for an article on mobile. Why the hell there nonsense tweets chopping the article up every paragraph lol?

Also once some of the larger subs get made here and actual content creators start coming this way, it'll be nice.

Comics, dataisbeautiful, and anime were my jam.

The fediverse memes are so lame right now too lol. We also need way more spammable quippy advice animals for those quick scroll smiles.

/me laughs in Security.

Now answer the damn on call phone!

Abortion has been a staple of human civilization since antiquity.

The only place they belong is today, because it's literally the only time almost any civilization has had them.

Don't let conservatives fool you into thinking this is how it used to be in the good old days. Nah. This shit is only possible today through a huge, multi decade concerted effort by regressive Fascist Nationalist Christians and Islamists.

Their Baptist 'religions' being a whopping 100 years old. Made up by a bunch of woman hating, racists after losing power during the civil wars over a states rights to own people and women lol.

The Overton Window is a thing for a reason.

Businesses operating by lawful subpoenas...

HOW. DARE! THEY!?

Dm;hs

Thanks. I'll look into the szpd stuff.

His weird humor and odd comments occasionally were less ADHD shutin and more quasi-narcissist based, but it's kinda typical for all teens so it's hard to judge. Might be related.

Mostly it was him speaking through memes and when he watches spooky shit he thinks it's funny to pretend to be schizophrenic or weird weird. Like dude, you have to speak up if that shit is real for you or getting to the point where it's actually blending with reality vs just being a joke lol.

He's honestly gotten Waaaaaaay better with joke timing after I had a long talk with him about it now though lol. His delivery when trying to be social was just... Shit. It was shit lol.

Honestly it didn't help that mom and dad are both very much stay in the house and play on the PC or watch tv types. Very little friends with kids his age. They also had TERRIBLE social skills themselves. So much of that stuff is taught by observation and when you don't have good role models to see how people are SUPPOSED to interact with friends or family, then you lose of lot of that innate ability.

I unfortunately got to my stepson what feels like YEARS after that tipping point where it was already ingrained into who he was which just makes it a constant uphill battle after unless you get lucky.

Yeah the boundaries thing is a big issue since he's still finding his. He genuinely doesn't have the ability to find out what he's REALLY feeling until after arguments and blowups. Generally I can find out what IS bothering him by just paying attention in the background but it's like pulling nails even when we ask. He knows his mom is going to sass back with her voice if not necessarily her words since she's also upset. Part of the boundary thing is that he just straight up wants to 'manage himself'. But he doesn't see what we see. He thinks staying shut up in the PC room for 18 hours while drinking only kool aid and eating a can of green beans is taking care of himself.

Like no dude lmfao. Just like if you call your mom a bitch, break shit around the house. No, you're not getting grounded for a day or given a warning. That stuff is A BIG FUCKING DEAL. That shit is weeks or longer until your behavior makes CLEAR improvements or we see you're ACTUALLY TRYING vs just doing your time. He's always had issues with flagrantly disregarding clear and reasonable requests with PLENTY of time and having to ask MULTIPLE times. He waits until you're having to YELL at him the 3rd-4th time vs asking nicely. He's learned long ago that YELLING is when he ACTUALLY HAS TO DO THE THING then gets upset he only does the thing when his mom is having to go that far. Like dude, we've gone over this repeatedly, both her and myself. Eventually your mom stops asking nicely and immediately goes to yelling since that's the only time you respond lol. People get tired of that shit and having to yell constantly to get someone to do something makes people throw their hands up in frustration and give up until they summon their mettle again.

I expanded on it a little more in my first comment, but I appreciate the input.

It's mostly an unwillingness with inability to cooperate while going through the motions for him. We use state aid for his appointments so therapy for him is less an outlet and more check ins while making sure his meds are going well. They can make time if he's going through a particularly rough spot but it's normally me noticing while everyone else pretends everything is fine.

He's had a few different therapists with at least one decent one. Unfortunately he doesn't like what he hears back from them since he's VERY sheltered due to alienating himself from his peers despite me telling him some of those people are trying to offer olive branches or be friends. He suffers from being a weird kid and not understanding that he needs to lower his standards a bit too.

He has a very poor understanding of how easy he has for his home life since he was an only child for 13 years of it. He's loved and he knows it. But he also goes through big mood swings that are exacerbated with mom. When she's in a bad mood, he immediately becomes defiant. They feed off each other and it quickly becomes a negative feedback loop. They have short fuses with each other which results in him breaking his courtesy rules and mom making it worse by calling him out bluntly with little tact.

Would more therapy help or from someone different? Maybe a bit. He is very much one of the has a great month or few weeks then one bad couple days just ruins it all due to the executive dysfunction and the teenage need to pour gasoline on a fire out of spite lol.

Totally. Just make sure you buy home insurance and take a video of everything in your house prior...

I was diagnosed as an adult even though I knew it growing up for age since my mom said we PROBABLY were from our teachers telling her... but we were just fine and being kids so no need to intervention or medication. I got along just fine until college when I dropped out after the first year since I couldn't coast by with great test skills and doing basic homework for high school...

Meanwhile the stepson is going through all of the above still despite getting the help once I got involved more in his life lol. His mom has it too but doesn't medicate.

Meds and therapy do little for teenage bullshittery, boundary testing, a lack of friends, and an addiction to electronics no matter how many clear rules and strict enforcement you have.

Being a shithead teenager knows no bounds and affect neurotypical people alike lol.

Edit: Forgot why I commented in the first place. Top center and bottom right make no sense lol. Everyone knows, they just don't know how to deal with it. Your parents are flawed humans too and spent a lifetime hearing shit from friends and society saying MY BROTHER TURNED INTO A ZOMBIE!, DOCTORS OVERMEDICATED CHILDREN AND NOW THEY AREN'T TERRORS!, RITALIN IS A FAD AND CRUTCH FOR LAAAAAZY ENTITLED NEW GENERATIONS!!!

Not only that but everyone with ADHD is so different between each other just like neurotypical people. There's no cure all. And I know how much you motherfuckers hate yourselves, you don't think other people don't like you when you're being an ass no matter the diagnosis? Of course not. Understanding how you operate doesn't mean they get to be a doormat and it doesn't mean you get passes every time because learning to control yourself while unmasked to your family is tantamount to forming healthy close relationships. Medicating sucks for everyone initially. Trying to get people literally going through puberty to find your miracle combo of meds is beyond difficult and it's mostly about getting a bandaid on it until you grow into yourself and find who you want to be.

It's not what neurodivergent kids and parents like to hear because going through it sucks, but for 95% of teens getting to adulthood is one of the quickest ways for things to settle down. Parents have a responsibility to turn you into a decent human being and MOST are trying their best in flawed ways. Most of them just want you to be able to take care of yourself and potentially hold down a job while having some of the most BASIC skills of home life. I've seen way too many regular teenagers, let alone neurodivergent kids turn 18 and just not be able to do a damn thing. No, you don't like keeping your room clean, having to do dishes, not backtalk on accident when you hear something you don't like. Nobody likes that shit lol. But it's a skill and you have to learn through routine and constant reminders about how people are going to react.

Parents can't just trust their kid to hit 18 and turn a leaf, because you won't. Those sorts of routines and inherit traits are ingrained in your body like a piece of metal being forged. While you can change yourself when you get older, you'll be surprised just how much of what you grew up with is innate to what you're metaphorically made of. Almost ANYONE can always change at the drop of a dime though. It's what being human is all about. It's just hard as fuck depending on how ingrained shit is and can take a lot of effort into changing it, or acceptance in things you CANNOT change.

The World War Z ethos to social media...

You fool! The ground doesn't get higher with more users. It only makes the pit deeper!