How to be supportive without being encouraging. How to stand firm without being inflexible. How to allow freedom but also supervision. There’s no manual for this stuff, and it seems like “experts” write advice for the extremes, not for the middle ground.
I appreciate your story and I’m really happy for you. I think if I was child free I would just say hell yes I support everybody to be themselves. But being a parent makes me more protective and cautious and concerned and if I’m being honest I kind of hate that change in myself. It’s so easy for me to say I support autonomy but I already know that it won’t be when my child is asserting their own autonomy. I know that parents don’t have control, only influence, but it’s hard for me to walk that fine line.
I feel the need to add to my feelings on this, because I don’t like admitting that I am somewhat transphobic. I strongly believe in bodily autonomy and I think 18 is too old to grant it. For tattoos, piercings, health decisions and anything else relating to oneself, I think autonomy should be granted as soon as it is claimed. In some cases of teenage pregnancy, the conception itself is a declaration of autonomy, unless the parents gave permission, which would be weird. I’m not sure a minimum age can be set. I think teenagers should be able to legally divorce (reverse adoption?) their own parents too. I recognize that this is also an extreme view that would frighten most parents. It frightens me too. But I kinda feel like picking out specific issues like trans rights or abortion is ignoring an overarching issue of parental/societal control. Not too long ago it was fairly common for husbands to view their wives as property. Many if not most parents seem to view their children as property. Maybe someday that too will change. It’s not as though 18 is some magical age of self actualization. Some people will be dependent on their parents well past that age if not forever, and some people are ready to face the world alone at 15, maybe younger.
Religious people control their kids through the village support system of their church. Some kids are learning things at public school which are not in line with those beliefs. This is scary for parents. Parents don’t want to lose their children, and can’t imagine loving them as somebody else. Case in point Elon And his trans daughter Vivian.
I’m quite liberal and atheist, but the prospect of a transitioning child is troubling to me. While I’d have no problem supporting a gay child, I feel very strongly about body acceptance, and I reject body dysmorphia. Transitioning to another gender is to me, not too different from a woman who wants augmentation surgeries or a man who is taking steroids. That said I could care less what anybody else does. I think cosmetic surgery and steroids should be legal. I don’t think the government needs to be involved. It’s a decision to discuss with a child, doctor, and parent.
I guess what I’m saying is, I can empathize with the transphobia of conservatives. Where we differ is in how we deal with that fear. They want the government to make society conform to their beliefs. I think it’s up to the individual parent to grow the love in their heart to accept and love whatever their child decides to be.
And weather/storage. If flour is stored in a humid environment in a paper bag (like on a store shelf), it will get heavier as it takes on water. This messes up the weight of flour but also throws off the amount of water in the dough.
That said I prefer baking by weight, not because it’s more precise, but because I don’t dirty dishes for measurements.
Who is there to vote for otherwise? Two sides of the same coin. The rich try to keep politics about anything except wealth inequality. The rich keep the good candidates off your ballot long before it’s time to choose between tweedle Dee and tweedle dum.
Omada software controller handles my wireless access points. HomeBridge lets me control various things from my iPhone, without having to use 5 poorly-made apps.
Hmm, I never suffered any conditions when I was chronically mildly dehydrated. I haven’t noticed any benefits after 2 years of being slightly over-hydrated.
It’s probably not possible at this point. If there was some kind of revolution, poor people could have access to healthcare, education, shelter, and food. You know, basic dignity and hope for a better future. But the problem is that hopeless wage slaves are better for capitalism.
I just measured my showers. I was thinking it would be over 3 gpm but my downstairs is 2.6, and upstairs is 2.25. Pretty modest actually. My guess is that they’re designed for the national standard of 2.5 gpm without a restrictor. It just makes me so mad to squeeze simple pleasures from the poor through regulation. People are miserable enough for fucks sake, if they can afford a $0.50 shower let them enjoy 10 minutes of the day.
YouTube is pretty bad. If I’m watching a video at 1.5x, it remembers this setting for the next video, so the same courtesy should apply to the ads. Avoidable in a web browser for now, eventually I’ll just have to youtube-dl anything I want to watch.
I really hate that California dropped all new shower heads down to 1.8 gpm. I feel very alone in this outrage. People are flying around in private fucking jets, and you want us all to take one for the team and suffer a shitty dribble of a shower every day. A generous hot shower is one of the few things that makes our lives far better than our great great grandparents. Taking out the flow restrictor is like having sex without a condom. A whole generation of suckers won’t even know what they’re missing.
I hate ordering a beer in a restaurant and it comes in a shaker pint (conical pint), which is usually a 13 oz pour. How can we have a government who verifies the measurement of fuel pumps, but not beer, when beer costs like 15x more than fuel. Fill lines are a simple, cheap, and good solution.
I hate metering lights. For those who don’t know they’re stoplights on the on-ramp to an interstate highway. Waste of fuel, don’t help with traffic.
I really hate advertisements. It seems the more I block them, the more offensive they are when one gets through.
As somebody with a long-tenured zombie Democrat in my house seat, I disagree. Nobody else gets traction in primaries due to lack of funding. We have had plenty of opportunities to vote for somebody better (and younger). Nobody gives a shit.
When corporations steal from their employees by wage theft, they are penalized “double damages” or twice what they stole. Seems that would be reasonable to apply to this.
They should just look at how many times the pirates listened to each song, and base the fine on the prevailing streaming rate to artists. Then the damages will calculate to like $5. Or if you really want to make them hurt look at how long they had the files and charge them the streaming subscription rate for like 3 years, then they may owe hundreds of dollars.
My friend from high school, very smart, got a technical Bachelors degree and then became a circus performer. Figured it would be for a few years max but it’s been 15 and they’re still at it.
How to be supportive without being encouraging. How to stand firm without being inflexible. How to allow freedom but also supervision. There’s no manual for this stuff, and it seems like “experts” write advice for the extremes, not for the middle ground.