alwaysconfused @ alwaysconfused @lemmy.ca

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I have no idea. I only use instagram to view tattoo artist portfolios and local techno party announcements. I just need to see the latest posts without signing up so I'm indifferent to it being open or close sourced for my needs.

I use iganony.io

It has a habit or showing a couple old posts before showing the most recent posts but it works well enough for me

A couple weeks before the Reddit API changes were due, I made a post to a collapse support subreddit. I rarely make posts and preferred to lurk but I had some thoughts that I needed to get out.

In that post expressed my frustration with masculinity. I had been working in the trades recently which is very male dominated. I saw and experienced how much hate and disregard this type of masculinity has for anyone not viewed as masculine. The toxicity in these men grew so much after COVID's arrival that even the quiet or rational acting tradesmen that I had been working with for years started spewing hate.

I also provided some examples from my life where men would abuse any situation they could to take advantage of women. I also made a connection between the everyday micro-aggression towards women and the leaders of countries and corporations. It's an attitude that is so intertwined at every level of the hierarchy created by men. Those on the bottom of the hierarchy will still embrace a heirarchy because women and unmasculine men can still be below them. It's the same as a world or business leader placing other people or countries below them to justify their actions. The only difference is the scale at which their hate is spread and acted upon.

I recieved a lot of comments. Some from women who acknowledge or already understood the connection I made. Some women who were happy to just be acknowledged. Some men who experienced or witnessed the same hateful attitude of men in their respective fields of work. But also a lot of hate from other men. They viewed my post as hate speech. They attacked my post and threatened the female subreddit moderator through DM's. I broke no reddit or subreddit rules or community guidelines, just a few ego's made of thin glass.

The post was eventually removed after 24 hours. The moderator and I had a very civil back and forth through DM's and it was clear to see the hate and threats my post generated was affecting her mental wellbeing. Unfortunate but understandable.

While watching this video, that whole experience was replaying in my head. These men acting out so angrily for being called out on their bad behaviour. Inflicting more anger and pain on to others that has deep consequences. Consequences that affect everyone, including themselves.

I say all this to say that it's not a hard leap of understanding for me to see modern masculinity striking back at the environment when their power and dominance comes into question. It's been an observation sitting in my mind for some time now and it's nice to see it explained so neatly.

I do understand that all this hate and aggression comes from traumas that were in action long before these people were born. I can't blame them for being born into an already broken system. I do hate the fact that they actively refuse to do any self-reflection to better themselves and the people around them and instead inflict more suffering through hate. Because to them, it appears that mother earth, the complex being that gave us life, is yet another woman for them to exploit.

I recently recieved a bit of offhand news that has made me a lot more relaxed about an important meeting I have at the end of September.

I was speaking with a person I used to work with about a trip he and his fiancé took recently when he caually mentioned out of nowhere that the HR manager at work retired at the end of July. That random little fact sent my mind into a whirlwind for a couple days.

Just over a year ago I had been terminated from my job as an apprentice at a place that builds automation assembly lines. That termination came after I had brought up concerns and frustrations with how the company had begun treating people after covid arrived. I also brought up concerns about workplace culture and how toxic it had become.

I had been terminated approximately 10 months after the monthly employee meeting where I first confronted the GM (General Manager) about how apprentices were being treated poorly and not learning the proper skills. This is important because once people start retiring, there is going to be a huge skill and knowledge gap.

After that monthly meeting, I had a meeting with the fairness committee followed by a meeting with the HR manager with the fairness committee member on "my side." That second meeting was basically me getting belittled and blamed for 3.5 hours.

Unhappy with the results and dealing with my declining mental health, I reached out to the corporate HR manager about the abusive management at my company and this manager made a huge effort to help me. She taught me all my rights as an employee, encouraged me to get help through the corporate employee hotline and when that failed, set up a meeting with me and her boss while beginning an investigation into the abusive environment at my company. Unfortunately before that meeting, my company terminated my employment.

I retained a lawyer and after about a year of some back and forth (things got delayed significantly because my lawyer got covid) I finally submitted my wrongful termination case against my company to the labour board. Up until this point I felt so uncertain and stressed about everything and was really doubting my decisions.

About a month after my submission to the labour board, my company replied back with 16 pages trying to have my case thrown out and attacking my character. They also responded through an outside law firm and not the corporate in-house lawyers. About 1.5 months after my submission, the HR manager retires. I found out she was scheduled to retire in 2024.

Suddenly my mediation meeting with the labour board and my company doesn't seem so intimidating. Corporate refused to legally support my company and the HR manager retires early and is now back home in Central America. A key figure in all of this who conveniently will not be able to attend the labour board meeting.

I have no idea if those two things are related to my case and I may never truly know but it sure is convinient for me. I did leave that company in good standing with corporate so I'm left to believe that corporate has been taking serious action with my company. Action that may have also included updating workflow, security and logistics (costing the GM and management huge money), and cracking down on workplace safety issues (costing the GM and management even more money).

After covid arrived, my dislike of corporations only grew but I think it's pretty humorous to watch corporate turn it's back on my company. It's beautiful in it's own bureaucratic-hellscape kind of way.

My goal at the labour board meeting is going to get my job back and hopefully getting a public apology at the monthly employee meeting while sending a problematic manager to a training course regarding abusive behaviour. After being forced to confront my own mortality through their abusive and negligent behaviour, money means nothing to me. No amount will bring back the dignity this place took from me and the others who work there. I'm hoping my actions are able to throw some power back into the hands of the employees and other workers there as well as bring more awareness to mental health issues.

And to think, I probably wouldn't have gone down this path if it weren't for the head fairness committee member telling me that I should just suck it up. That I should just wait for all these problematic people to retire. He told me I couldn't change anything. His attempt to de-escalate the situation by demotivating me may have backfired slightly.

I've been using iganony.io and it does the job for me. For some reason it always shows a couple old posts before the latest posts. Picuki.com stopped working for me at some point and I assume it was a Firefox extension that was causing issues. I was too lazy to do any troubleshooting to fix it.

I only ever use it to see my tattoo artist's work and grab the progress videos of my sleeve she is currently working on. My experience with Instagram and viewers are super limited so I can't really say if iganony.io is good or not.

!Terrariums@kbin.social would fit under hobbies.

I'm hoping in the future it can grow and expand to other communities like bioactive. It's one of the niche communities I miss from reddit.

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Whenever I hear news of Pierre attackjng Trudeau, I get flashbacks of that youtube video of him cosplaying a lunch date with Trudeau.

The only thought that follows after that is the old playground story of a bully who is so infatuated with someone but unable to express themselves so they continue to bully harder in hopes of being noticed. The absurdity of this individual is painful.

In southern Ontario it's both full-size pickups and SUVs. I live in a rural area so many pickups are lifted or have tires that extend outside the fender. Vehicles so big they can't even stay in thier lane. Constantly drift into the empty bike lane even on the straightest part of the road. Can't even control these monstrosities on a good day.

For a brief moment I was into the idea of prepping until it I realized that no living creature can escape this mess. I've prepped enough to be mobile with the idea that mutual aid will fill in the gaps somehow.

Not the best plan but I can only push through my indifference so much. I'm trying to spend my time now with the people I hold closest to me and making sure they know how much I appreciate them.