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In short, some Europeans live on easy mode when it comes to weight and fitness. Their portions are probably smaller, fast food less common. There are better social safety nets reducing sources of stress.

Perhaps the food industry hasn't achieved the level of regulatory capture as in the US and so sucrose / HFCS isn't added to things as much (idk I am guessing)?

Yeah it's all about the calories in vs out but there are clearly systemic issues that, once fixed, would help us greatly in the US.

Car culture is not quite accurate. It is more like, "the entire mode of existence of anything outside of downtown areas is designed around cars and is so ingrained in laws, infrastructure, city planning, etc. that it will take many decades of committed, relentless, focused, unopposed effort to undo."

And that wouldn't even be so bad if we ate a reasonable portion of it. But cooking at home is preferable.

Imagine having three independent IM type systems that one is expected to keep on top of at the same time. Ugh.

Thankfully, that nightmare is finally over and we are back to one.

It is the first type when I send it, the second type when I receive it.

Here's a few that I think are probably more fashionable than a fedora:

Baseball cap, pork pie hat, knit hat (e.g. skull cap, watch cap, beanie), docker cap, scally cap, newsboy hat, ivy cap, ascot, bucket hat.

Not to mention these results could provide some very dangerous ideas to those with eating disorders (diagnosed or not). Losing 5.7kg (12lb) in three days sounds insanely dangerous. Going for very long is hella dangerous because you're not getting necessary nutrition. That's why there's a minimum calorie intake for dieting and it is dangerous to go below that.

I can totally relate. Been there many times. Kind of there now to a lesser degree (i.e. not having meltdowns but still so overwhelmed I am battling depression for the umpteenth billionth time and am really discouraged).

Things that help me:

Regular exercise even if light exercise, like walking around the block for 10-30 min. The more I do this per week the better off I am.

Regular sleep; I'm way more mentally tough when rested. I'm a fragile mess if I am too tired plus stressed.

Writing a list. The pile usually looks and feels infinite in my head but finite and thus smaller on paper.

Still, list can be overwhelming. When things are really bad, make three lists:

• "OMG MUST DO NOW OR I AM SO FUCKED"
• "Need to get this done soon but not fucked yet"
• "In the big scheme of things, not that urgent, not that necessary"

And prune any unnecessary items.

E.g. "I really want to finish that one project... But you know what? If I throw in the towel, officially quit, toss it in the bin and never think about it again it is a burden lifted so... fuck it, bye project!"

I tend to overcommit, too, so sometimes it is better to call the friend and just be honest and say it probably won't get done ever. I get really stressed and guilty when I have favors hanging over my head that I know I won't have time for.

I've got two of those hanging over my head now.

If can help to have a friend help prioritize your list. They can help you be brutal in pruning, and objectively determine what is most urgent.

Then... focus on one super urgent thing at a time.

Helps me to think through the first most basic steps to get started on a scary thing that I want to put off. Instead of trying to climb a mountain, it helps to think of the first steps on the trail, the first obstacle. I mean basic as in, "ok first I need a pencil, then paper" -- that level of basic. Once I get started i can keep rolling. It's all about getting over the emotional hurdle associated with starting...

Also helps to not expect too much of myself.

One accomplishment is all I can muster, most days.

Other days just doing basic hygiene and some days just getting out of bed is an accomplishment.

Occasionally when stars align or I'm not stressed and overwhelmed I can knock out several things.

Of course right now I feel like giving up... So that's probably not expecting enough lol.

Maybe it would help to have a mutual accountability buddy, where you encourage each other and report progress. That can be motivating in a good way.

That's a paddlin anti-trust forced breakup!

That said, a cat wrote this infographic and put turkey and shrimp in the top section 😅

🤣

Just for clarity, not trying to be a pedant:

Cats are obligate carnivores

Cats must eat meat to live. Like you said they can't really process other stuff.

I try to help when I can to pay penance for when I was young and an asshole.

You're not wrong.

Setting dip switches on the motherboard...

Ditto what they said.

Yeah it sucks having ADHD. Or more to the point, it sucks fucking up all the time. Totally get it.

There are times (rarer lately) that I have goofed multiple times on top of feeling down on myself and feel like I can't do anything right. That is the worst. You likely know exactly what that's like right? Ugh. Hate it.

I probably say sorry more than average. You know the other thing I realize? I don't really trust myself. If someone calls out something, my first assumption is always "I fucked up" even if I didn't. I mean yeah, I do goof up all the time. But it is hard to be confident and assured. Likely that comes across at work especially. I guess it makes me more likely to be open to being wrong, and therefore more used to updating my beliefs based on evidence. That's a plus. But being timid, uncertain of myself, always doubting has definitely bitten me in the butt. You run into that?

I also struggle to know what I must be like to people. When I'm down I am pretty sure I'm incredibly annoying and sound like a total moron and obviously odd and repulsive (like, uncanny valley type shit). I assume that is why I have almost no friends. (In reality I have friends but am so anxious about pissing em off or annoying them or not being in touch that I don't do well staying in touch...ah, the irony).

And of course I am also pretty detached and guarded because of the whole rejection sensitivity thing.

And never really feel it is acceptable or ok to really be fully myself. Say nothing, box up feelings, tamp down my affect flat as can be, kill enthusiasm because any excitement is too much. Normal to me is too freak-o for everyone truly normal. I don't get to be me because nobody could fucking stand it. Probably not even me. Anyway I am sure we can all relate to some degree.

It's an absolute fucking curse, this goddamned disorder.

Yeah this is extremely apropos—and helpful.

I finally have a support system!

Naw, it just means everyone will have two Linux computers!

Before the web when it was all ad free and just nerds was pretty cool. The email list / Forum era was pretty good.

If you don't want to be poor, don't do espresso lol. You'll get some very fine grounds using a French press. Others have probably posted ideas on how to get a more filtered cup. I only used a basic Bodum and it made decent coffee.

I would agree that a burr grinder of any kind is going to be a superior experience vs blade grinder and far better than pre ground.

Once you get into grinding your own then you can try different beans which should give you different flavors. Loads of places ship roasted coffee. Two places I have tried and would suggest: Blk and Bold, and Red Bird Coffee. There are a gazillion other roasters, though.

You can also roast your own if you want to get more expensive. Check Sweet Maria's if you want to take that plunge some day. They have advice, roasters, and green coffee beans.