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I'm paraphrasing Kaity here, but we believe a lot of the performance issue we're experiencing on the Sharkey instance are related to latency on disk read and writes to the network storage we're using. Ultimately, we have a bare metal box ready to run it on, that will give it low latency storage, but migrating to that is a body of work that we haven't had a chance to do yet.

It depends on where the community is hosted.

If the community is a blahaj based community, then when we defederate, we stop sending community updates to their instance, and we don't accept any updates from people on that instance, so their posts to the community never make it to us.

Which is to say, it is technically possible for folks on the defederated community to post and reply to old stuff in the community that existed before defederation, but even then, it won't reach anyone else. It will just stay on the defederated instance. And they will not get new content, so they aren't secretly replying and interacting to current conversations.

If the community is not based on blahaj, and the instance we have defederated from isn't defederated from the instance that hosts the community, then basically, you need to bring on other mods/alts from the instance that hosts the community.

Friendica, and to a lesser extent, misskey and it's forks

Faux outrage isn't playing around though. They're not doing it for fun, they're doing it for social capital.

It happened :)

That's the old one! Current one is blahaj-20250508

What token are you using?

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https://pix.blahaj.zone/

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It's on my list to try!

And that's why it's good that it's an option! I just don't want it to become the only option

Butch implies they're sapphic, tomboy does not.

10/10 this is the future of Linux.

I hope it's a future of Linux, not the future. I'm not a fan of atomic distros, mostly because if their reliance on flatpak and the like

If that starts happening, we will defederate. But he doesn't seem to be standing in the way of the rest of the instance staff from dealing with it as far as I can tell.

Nutomic was banned from this instance approximately 9 months ago when I first become aware of his stance. However, it's not something I plan on defederating over unless it becomes clear that the instance as a whole is not acting on transphobic content or unless it becomes clear that the community strongly believes that we should defederate.

As an instance admin, if I regularly see reports for a local community that break community rules but not instance rules that sit without action for 24 hours or more, that's when I'll get involved with the community to try and get more active mods.

If the reports are for posts that break instance rules, I'll action them whether or not there are local mods active.

The alternative front ends display them.

The upgrade likely broke our custom image proxy. We'll get it fixed when we can!

This is all an interesting hypothetical to you. To me, it's my lived life. Trust me, I've done what you're talking about. I was active in /r/changemyview, and I've spent a lot of time having this discussion with people on social media.

And in that time, not a single person has changed their perspective or view on the topic. Because they already had a view, and despite the ostensible goal of the sub, they're largely not open to changing their view. They may want to, but they're not actually willing to change it. Because ultimately, people arrived at their "concerns" through emotional manipulation, and that can't be undone by "rational discussion". Like sure, maybe you're the single exception, and in my 5+ years of having this discussion, you might be the first to genuinely change your opinion. But even then, after 5 years of normalising the idea that my rights are up for discussion, as if it's actually ok for people to want them removed because of their "concerns", I'd have a single changed mind in 5 years.

But you know what else I've done in those 5 years? I've told every other person that I've had this discussion with that it's actually ok to debate my rights, that whether or not I deserve rights is based on how well I can debate and argue. And I've given the bigots driving this whole discussion exactly what they wanted, which is to make myself a target.

Fuck that.

So what does it say about me? It says I've got more lived experience in navigating this topic than you ever will, and I'm no longer willing to see "civil discussion" on the erasure of peoples rights, in the pointless hope that it will actually help us. Because it doesn't.

That argument would be torn apart pretty easily

Sure. The argument can be torn apart. But that doesn't change anything. What changes when you make those sorts of arguments is simply that it gives a green light to pushing back against marginalised people.

If argument being torn apart was enough, the argument against trans folk in sport wouldn't even be an argument. But it is, because there is a political interest in creating harmful narratives about trans folk, and using exclusion from sport as a wedge to normalise exclusion in other areas. Which is exactly what is happening.

So if you're ok with that sort of question, I think you need to spend a bit more time looking at the context those questions exist in. Why is it now that people want to suddenly talk about trans people in sports. It's not because the trans folk have been doing anything different. It's because there is an explicit motivation to create a culture war, with trans folk as the targets. You shouldn't be ok with being part of that.

I'm not asking you to argue about it. I explicitly don't want people arguing about it, which I was hoping my previous comment would make clear.

There are people out there that were raised a certain way that want to change or perhaps have questions due to ignorance on the topic. By being combative, you're doing more harm than good for something you clearly care about.

If someone turns against all trans people because they encounter a single angry trans person, then they were just looking for an excuse to justify what they already felt.

And it's not my job to play nice with the people trying to erase my rights in the hope that maybe, just maybe, they'll stop what they're doing! That doesn't work. That has never worked. Every single civil right gain has been made by pushing back.

So thanks for the advice, but I'll keep pushing back

So, you'd like to argue for the validity of excluding a vulnerable group, in the middle of a world spanning hate campaign against that exact group?