Ada @ ada @lemmy.blahaj.zone

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The rule isn't "Get peoples pronouns correct 100% of the time, never make mistakes, or get banned". It's "Respect peoples pronouns"

You're allowed to make mistakes. You're allowed to not know. What you're not allowed to do is invalidate and erase the pronouns of people who have made them clear.

but do you happen to have a post or explanation you can link to about some drama between the shit-just-works instance and Blahaj

It's news to me!

I'm going to make this simple. There is no ability for a minor to consent, and non consensual behaviour of any sort is not welcome on this instance.

And nor are you for repeated conflation of the two topics.

You are this close to a ban for your ongoing conflation of paedophilia and neopronouns. Your question was also answered in my initial post. Pronouns are to be respected. Behaviour is actionable.

If you think respecting neopronouns is a horrible idea, you picked the wrong instance

Pronouns are a way of helping us find our identity and sharing it with the world. They tell other people who we are, and our relationship with our identity. Some people use them as an act of empowerment and reclamation. Some people use them to actively break down the normalisation of the gender binary as the default/only way of thinking about gender. Other people use them because it's just the best way they have of describing their internal experience.

Which is a lot of words to say that you don't know why someone is using neopronouns or what their intent is. All you can use is their actions. And if what they do is troll and stir up trouble with their actions, report that, because that's the bit that matters, not the fact that they're using pronouns you find challenging, which may be the very point.

it legitimizes all of those "libruls want to put litter boxes in your kids' schools!" trans panic, bullshit.

You've got work to do on your understanding of how hatred works. No one hates us because we used a weird pronoun. They hate us because they've been taught to hate us, and ultimately, it doesn't matter what we do or how perfect we are, they will find an excuse to manifest that hate.

There is no such thing as a person who would have supported us, but choses not to, because they don't like unusual pronouns. There are people who support us and are uncomfortable with unusual pronouns, but someone who drops their support over that, was going to drop their support anyway over something, once they found an excuse that let them tell themselves that they're not the bad guy in their story.

You can not win over hate by being on your best behaviour and existing on the terms of people who hate us. It has never worked and never will.

My only concern is that people (or one person in particular) aren't genuine, but are doing to to discredit trans people

Ok, lets say that this happens.

That doesn't mean that the correct response is to invalidate neopronouns. If that's literally the goal of a troll, then saying "You're a troll, I'm not going to use your pronouns" is literally what they want.

But I will also suggest you read up on Isabel Fall, to see why even the attack helicopter pronoun meme isn't always a troll, and how the community itself can become harmful to its own members when it turns on them

Exactly this

In cases like these in which all contextual signs point to a person being disingenuous about what their pronouns are, are we the users still expected to speak as if that person is genuine and to use the pronouns they list until they state otherwise?

If that person is trolling, then report their behaviour, not their pronouns. The contextual behaviour you refer to is the real issue, and what will get them banned. And don't interact with them in the mean time. If their goal is invalidating the idea of neopronouns, the correct response isn't for you to invalidate the use of neopronouns as a result of their actions.

But even "attack helicopter" and the like... If you're not familiar with it, look up the story of Isabel Fall. She was almost driven to suicide, she changed her name, and may even have detransitioned as a result of the fallout she received from a story she wrote about the attack helicopter pronouns. Her intentions were good, it was an honest act of reclamation, but people were so upset at the mere idea of her story, that her own community turned on her. Her story looked like the story a troll might have written. But critically, it wasn't a story written by a troll, it was a story written by a trans person trying to find power in a slur that had been levelled against her community.

So until I can sense peoples intentions with unerring accuracy, the only thing we can act on is actions. And using neopronouns, even unusual and challenging ones, isn't a trolling action by itself. If someone with challenging neopronouns is trolling, their actions will make that clear, independent of their pronouns.

Formal language also indicates dispassionate separation from your topic of conversation and the people you're communicating with, which can be disrespectful in and of itself in some contexts.

Useful for trolls, less useful for bot spam from throwaway accounts

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Digikam was my replacement for photo management and tagging. And darktable for editing. You can launch darktable from the Digikam catalogue, so it's pretty smooth.

It took me a while to get used to darktable, especially the masking, but I genuinely prefer it to lightroom now.

You can also use other editing apps, like Gwenview, etc for quick and dirty edits. The only thing I've had no luck with are things like Topaz and DxO. They won't run on Linux and don't really have equivalents.

An analogy is that operating languages speak different languages. And an app built for one operating system doesn't speak the language of others.

But in the case of Linux, there are lots of really good tools that let Linux understand Windows apps. Steam has those tools built right in.

Where it falls down is that the tools that let Linux understand and run Windows apps aren't perfect. So things like DRM, anti cheat, propriety drivers etc, can be a challenge.

But currently, if you're not running games that use kernel level anti cheat, the vast majority of games will work on Linux. The steamdeck uses Linux itself, so it's a high priority for valve to get as much working as possible.

Thank you for the update. I honestly don't mind if you're not there in terms of federating out yet. As long as the plan for the project is to generate connectivity/community in some way, we'll be better off for your project being here :)

The other part is, lemmy hides content from you unless you have the language enabled in your settings, and so, I have all languages enabled just so I can see all the content. And that makes navigating the language list really unwieldy without a default option

The content is coming from federation, so how is it being pushed to clubsall after blocking?

I blocked your instance based on your domain. But because you are using other domains to pull the content, you're still receiving content from the domains you use that I haven't blocked.

My request stays the same, give us some breathing room until some traffic threshold. Is that fair?

What is your plan for what clubsall will look like? I have no interest in killing a new and interesting platform for building community in the lemmy space. But if you're just going to pull content from lemmy instances without giving anything back, that's not building community...

Tell me you've got plans for something other than a content scraper, and I'll happily work with you.

My concern is that you receive content from our communities without generating anything back

There are bugs, but they're less annoying for me than the deliberate enshittified features that exist in current versions of windows.

That being said, I don't run linux on a laptop, and so my experiences have probably been less buggy than yours

Blahaj.zone admin note - I'm leaving your post rather than removing it, so that my reply expanding on why your position is an issue has context. Please note, this is not a discussion or a debate. Any further gatekeeping of other folks identity will be removed, as per our instance policies

What you're describing is still gatekeeping. Not everyone experiences asexuality the way you do, and you are guilty of doing the very thing you're claiming others are doing to you.

There are terms that describe what you're talking about that have space in the ace community. Sex repulsed, sex positive, sex indifferent all describe different experiences of asexuality, and in ace communities or broader queer communities, you can quite easily say that you're looking to connect/share experiences with other sex repulsed/indifferent ace folk, and no one is going to have an issue with it.

It becomes an issue when you say or imply that ace folk who don't share your experiences aren't really ace, or claim that they're invading your space, as if you have more right to it than them. At that point you're gatekeeping, and trying to deny them access to a space with folk who share their experiences.

Defederated. If they start federating outwards, I'll lift it