and then when I actually try to apologize to people I end up making it all about myself again
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I'm not sure if I'm misunderstanding or if the other commenters are misunderstanding. Sounds like you want to stop being enabled by other people.
The answer is you cut those people out. If they are actively encouraging bad behavior you have expressed the desire to change, then your only option is to minimize the amount of time you spend with the person. Martial Goldsmith has a really nice book on how to effectively change behavior called Triggers. (Yes the name of the book is terrible)
Or maybe I'm just extremely sleep deprived and not getting the joke.