I want to like Lemmy but I can't stand the users on there
My experience getting started here was a rollercoaster for sure. I think that one thing that would improve the experience immensely is if there were a way to have one profile no matter which instance you sign up on. I'm on my 3rd instance right now and the first 2 were both within my first 2 days of trying this place out.
It's like if you want one permanent profile, you have to first research the politics of an instance, and its politics with other instances, and hang around long enough to check out the users and see if your first impression was true etc. etc. And just kiss your old profile and history good bye if the politics change and you need to move homes.
I'm too new to be making these kinds of suggestions and I'm far from the moderator type myself but multiple times throughout this week, I've been thinking that it would be pretty cool if there was an AskBlåhaj. Or even just general Ask Lemmy based here, that could be asking for unwanted attention from shitty people on other instances though.
Not even 24 hours after seeing this post, I've seen someone else getting the snark and a non answer for a simple question. And also a Blåhaj user.
As much of a public bathroom as it could be, AskReddit was pretty fun for 'silly' questions and general chatting. And a nice place for new users to hang around and gain karma and confidence. But with the gatekeeper neckbeardy types around, maybe what it needs on Lemmy is to be in an instance with rules that promote friendliness and good vibes.
Just an idea to throw out there anyway.
Something I've seen pointed out about Lemmy and I'm starting to notice a little bit occasionally, is that people love 'answering' questions by not really answering and grandstanding a little bit. Someone asks "is there a gen z community?" and the responses they get are things like "who cares about these generation labels?" and no answers to the question.
Here you ask why there's a large amount of downvotes on a particular instance, and not what people's personal philosophy regarding downvotes is, and yet the top answer is someone that came here especially to tell you that they don't care and no one cares.
And these guys are gonna complain about people going to places like Bluesky instead of joining the fediverse. AskReddit was basically the gateway to Reddit for new users.
To try and guess at an answer, even though I'm new here and haven't even seen downvotes for the last few days. I think that people are trying to keep a certain political atmosphere and not let trolls / right wingers / people who are "just asking questions" take over. So votes go hard in that direction. And also I think there's probably a lot more of the types around here that'll have a 'discussion' while downvoting every response they get from you, more than on Reddit. Just going by the sneering that comes with how some harmless questions are answered.
Yeah but what about the price of eggs?
I want something between 'feature phones' and smartphones. A little bit like what Nokia had to offer with Symbian and Maemo but more modern. If you want a rectangle of glass that requires wireless proprietary everything and replacing every time the battery starts packing up, more power to you, I'm a fan of choice and options.
But I want to be able to buy a music phone with great speakers and toys like FM transmitters thrown in. Or a gaming phone with a d-pad, a, b, x, y and shoulder buttons. But like, with Firefox instead of Opera Mini. And social media apps and shit.
No need to apologize, I've been getting worse as of late.
Not gonna judge because I've probably been somewhere similar before. I am not exactly who I was yesterday either. I hope that you make it through the other side of whatever is hurting you and start to feel pain free again.
I hope I'm reading this wrong and I truly apologize if I am but I'm getting pretty strong 'asshole' vibes here, much stronger than I would from anyone using the word "normie", personally.
But either way, it's actually good to know when words I previously felt were overall harmless can cause this kind of response. I may not be from the USA, or have come from a background where it's such a charged word, but I'm on a platform that's likely mostly American (based on the news and politics that come through 'All'), so I will refrain from using it unless I find it absolutely necessary.
Which should be fairly easy to do, considering that I barely ever use it anyway and just thought that this would be an amusing conversation.
You guys are lucky to have AOC. I'm a non-American that only knows her from memes and screenshots like this but I'm a fan. Especially compared to all the other dead fish.
Yeah honestly it's not that serious for me. Personally I've never even visited the front page of 4chan. It's a word that's been around since long before social media too, as far as I know. One other place I've seen it used is autism communities when someone is describing their feelings about fitting in, or not.
I feel like 4chan is a US-centric thing. And a niche one at that. So it's a very niche US-centric thing to assume about random strangers on the world wide web. For a word that a lot of people probably use differently.
What an alpha.
Next step: political adverts that quiz you on what you've just heard and repeat each segment if you get the answer wrong.
Just kidding though (or am I). This is truly some dystopian shit. My first reaction was what the actual fuck. And I bet you that their numbers aren't really going to hurt that much because of this. Mark my words.
Doesn't have the same vibes though. To me 'normie' has always been a little bit of an insult on top of just describing the 'average person'. "Average person" is for when you're describing statistics. "Normie" is for when you're describing people that clutch their pearls and their bible when a goth walks past.
Yeah, I use "normie" occasionally and it kinda makes me feel like le edgy teen. But the problem is that I'm not sure if there's another word that quite replaces it either. Sometimes it's the only word that works in a particular context.
Apologies for the second reply. Just wanted to say that I checked out mbin and it's probably more up my alley personally.
But, I still have a barely used Facebook account because a lot of people in my country are still on it. And I'm going to see if the rumours are true and try to spread the news about Friendica there, hopefully without my post getting removed or account being banned.
And if / when people from there give Friendica a shot, then I'll give it a proper shot too with them. It'll just be used for different things than what I use Lemmy for.
Basically I would be spending much more time in Lemmy communities, and I thought Friendica could be something extra on top to supplement it.
So I would like to be able to browse instances and communities and choose what I want to see and participate in. Either by subscribing or curating a feed or two. I don't see an obvious way to do this from Friendica yet. It seems like here I need to scroll through a pre existing feed and curate it from there.
But please bear in mind, I haven't explored extensively yet or read the link you shared earlier, although I have saved that post so that I can get back to it later in my day.
And another small thing for me (that can be easily fixed by styles and apps) is no apparent dark mode.
Made a quick account there to check things out and not sure if it's entirely the right fit for the particular use case I had in mind. It's very much inspired by Facebook obviously, which I was expecting but from what I can tell from a quick look, not the kind of Lemmy integration I was hoping for or imagining.
I'm going to keep an eye on this place though, so that I can start encouraging friends and family to join once it's easy and attractive (in terms of content) for anyone to join.
Maybe I should ask here. The reason I'm here is because I'm looking for answers to this. As far as the integration with Lemmy goes, how does it work? Is there a 'Friendica' instance that anyone using that platform would be posting and interacting from? And in that case, does it play nicely with the other instances?
I'm pretty new here, probably moving to another instance at some point anyway. And I've been thinking of looking into these multi purpose platforms that play nicely with others. Because why not have more features and tools to play with, even if I don't use half of them. It might also fill in nicely for features that are missing here like multicommunities and posting to your own profile.
Also heard of mbin, although an in app search for something like "mbin" seems pretty useless here.
You just made me check a post I made yesterday for the app I'm using, to report a couple of bugs. Looking at the page for the Eternity app in a signed out lemmy.world instance and sorting by new, my post appears to not be there indeed.
Edit: resolved super quickly
I hear your point but also it might be a mostly first world thing. So kinda like comparing local country music artists to Michael Jackson. Maybe other 3rd world denizens can chip in but here (so this is purely anecdotal) but in my corner of the world, we watched movies and series and played games and shit like we would've pre social media.
Personally I'm not even sure what Tiger King is (and not that interested in finding out either, if I'm being honest) and if I go outside and ask around here, I'm not sure how many answers I would get. Possibly I'd get an answer once school is out and kids are around, I guess.
Edit: just to add, I hope this doesn't go the same way as the time I was trying to explain to Americans that the NBA really isn't this global phenomenon in every household and that John Cena is probably more famous here.
I'll ask it there (or here) a bit later then, if you think it seems like a good idea. Currently about halfway through a j and a cup of coffee, just scrolling and throwing 2 cents in here and there.