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Going from my memories, use Mudkip lol. By the time it's Swampert, you can arm it with both Surf and Earthquake and steamroll almost anything in your path. And Ice Beam gives you a nice counter to your biggest weakness too. I used to solo the elite 4 with Swampert. The only ones that give you trouble are the Ghost types that cause you to use double PP, so go prepared with Leppa berries or a pill that makes your PP go up.
animations take so long
This is my biggest annoyance with Pokemon games, personally. Everything. Takes. So. Fucking. Long. To. Get. To. The. Point. I'm pretty sure 50% of 'gameplay' is waiting for fucking animations and waiting for the one or two lines of text at a time to get to the actual important information after telling you about friendship and the joy of raising Pokemon for the 100th time first.
I don't think that I would ever be able to play these games on the original hardware because being able to fast forward in an emulator is a gift from the gods.
Haha that reminds me of a conversation I was having with a friend once upon a time where I said something like: "I just want to meet someone that wants to spend Saturday night at home watching series and smoking a joint. But that person for me probably doesn't exist." And my friend responded with "Nah, they do exist but they're busy spending Saturday nights at home watching series and smoking a joint, so you'll never meet."
Also, small towns fucking suck and this is not a generational thing. You're stuck between a rock and hard place where the same people who are telling you about the 'bro code' and enforcing it on others, are all playing musical chairs with each other's boyfriends and girlfriends because the dating pool is so small.
If there's another piece of advice I could give you, fuck the bro code. It's a lie. None of these assholes will follow it themselves when the opportunity comes up for them and you'll be the only idiot trying to stay 'honourable'. Very few people that you ever meet have never dated someone before, so you're going to be always dating somebody's ex and you're going to be always breaking the code anyway whether you like it or not. And in a small town, you can't afford to pass up opportunities for the sake of assholes that you'll probably not even be friends with 10 years from now. And who would do the same to you without a second thought.
Also, I don't know if you saw my edit but I can't say this enough. Keep the heavy shit about marriage and children to yourself. Keep it light. Coming on too strong is the biggest romance killer. Try to put that shit out of your mind until much later in the relationship, if you can.
May I ask what steps you take to try and meet a partner? I'm asking because I'm pretty lonely too but that's because I actually never go out and meet people these days. Unfortunately most people have the idea that starting relationships in the workplace is not the way to go, even though you spend 90% of your life there. So you have to go out to clubs and pubs and shit and actually meet and mingle with strangers. Honestly I'm not sure what other options there are besides the workplace or clubbing.
I think that maybe something that is failing the always online Z generation (besides the toxic 'manosphere') is dating apps. They seem to be a bust and need to be ditched. Those apps are just there to harvest your data and make a buck from you. If they were to actually help you find love, then that company would lose a customer and source of data or income.
So I don't know what else to say other than, you need to actually go out and meet new people in order to potentially meet your person. And it also helps grooming yourself a bit, making sure to shave the neck beard and chin strap and looking like someone that is actually capable of taking care of themselves. That goes a long way in showing potential partners that you're not just looking for another mother to take care of you. And also, find a style and own it. You don't need to follow fashion trends, just look for a subculture or something that you vibe with and can feel confident wearing.
Just note, not trying to judge or anything. I actually don't know, maybe you're a party animal with an awesome dress sense lol. Just trying to throw a few ideas out there for you.
Man: "I'm so lonely and I need help!"
Bystander: "You're lonely because you listen to people like Andrew Tate and treat women like shit. Try working on yourself to be a better person, so that people will actually be attracted to you."
Man: "Stop oppressing me, you sexist feminazi! The woke agenda is erasing white men and now just because you had the nerve to point out my flaws after I asked for help, I'm gonna punch a wall and vote for someone who will take your rights away."
Bystander: "Oh ok. Enjoy your loneliness and self pity then."
Moderator: Comments removed for sexism against a marginalized group
Everyone: "Why is no one helping guide men onto the right path? How could this be happening?!"
No one looks at or cares who the moderators are when they post anything anywhere, EVER! NEVER EVER EVER!!!
Yup. I wish that it was possible to make it clear to moderators just how little of a fuck the average user gives about them. Because they generally seem to have delusions of grandeur and think of themselves as the most important people around. Which is fucking bullshit because without the users that they dismiss and treat like dirt, they wouldn't have a platform where they get to inflate their egos in the first place.
I actually made a post about this elsewhere but I'm gonna mention it here too. The reason the API thing on Reddit didn't cause every user to come here is because the moderators there made it all about themselves. To the average user, the whole 'protest' looked a lot like the people who treat users unfairly whining and crying about the admins treating them unfairly. And I can tell you, there was little to no sympathy for them. All they did was cry about their modding tools while locking entire communities that thousands or hundreds of thousands of people make use of. And they pissed everyone off.
I know that personally a big reason the API thing didn't do much for me in my decision to leave Reddit (or not) was because the same people that forced me into using services like reveddit because they like to silently remove people's comments without notice or a trace, were suddenly asking me for solidarity and to feel sorry for them. And at that time, my feelings towards the situation and the moderators who were crying about it was "go fuck yourselves."
It also helps nothing and no one to "both sides" this conversation every time it starts. Astrology and homeopathy doesn't even begin to fucking compare with nazism. Also, why do you call out astrology but not christianity? One is a dumb little thing involving sky magic that is mostly harmless and the other is also a dumb thing involving sky magic but the followers of that dumb thing are actually very dangerous and harmful to a lot of people that have to grow up with them. Haven't met too many female priests in my life either.
Fascism relies on traditional gender roles and that has less appeal to women who would lose rights and power compared to men who would theoretically gain power. It’s less “there’s something wrong with the men” and more that fascism itself is designed to appeal to men.
Oh, is it? So what you're telling me is that fascism appeals to men more than women because men don't give as much of a shit about other people's rights? Fascinating. Totally means there's nothing wrong with men that needs addressing or changing. Sure.
Edit: in fact this whole fucking conversation is stupid considering that the stats are there at the top of the post for all to see. There is clearly a fucking problem. And the way to fix that problem is to actually address it instead of comparing it to astrology and calling it a day.
Edit 2: the moderators here in this community are actually fucking pathetic. Actually cannot see a good reason they removed my most recent comment too now. And I'm realising that this place is actually kinda worse than Reddit in this regard because it even removes the comment from your own profile. And these fucking moderators don't notify you or give you an actual concrete reason with whichever word or phrase broke the fucking rules. Dodgy as fuck. They're actually just out to control the conversation.
Which is very Reddit of them. It's easy to forget that a lot of people here are ex Reddit moderators that pissed the users there off so much that no one was willing to join them in solidarity with the API debacle. Guess I've found my first Lemmy community to block.
You aren’t being funny here.
Good thing I specifically said I wasn't trying to be funny then. I suppose you're right though. There's absolutely nothing to be learnt from 11% of women versus 26% of men supporting nazis. It's a mystery. Martian shit.
Lol what the actual fuck. Also, wasn't their president groomed by his teacher when he was a teenager, who he is currently married to?
Even if they don't have registries, I'm sure they could've done better than a four-year suspended prison sentence. I'm sure they could've also achieved not allowing him to work with children ever again. Unless they also don't have things like IDs and telephones and email. I suppose if smoke signals are their only means of communication, then it's understandable how someone caught with CSAM was allowed to keep working with children in "prestigious" hospitals that willingly hired him.
IMO, the judge that sentenced this guy to a four-year suspended prison sentence needs to be investigated and publically disgraced too. Same with the hospitals that hired him.
I don't know about the conservatives but the press and 'centrists' will probably go "Hmmm maybe it's just autism. Surely he didn't really mean it. No, can't be. I can't think of any past behaviour of his that would make this seem intentional. Autistic people do nazi salutes and say heil hitler all the time."
You are a shining light in this place when it comes to promoting growth. So just so we're clear, because I've discussed features and stuff with you a couple of times now, I was not picturing you when I made my comment here. You're more or less carrying this place on your back as far as guiding and encouraging new users goes. So also thank you, you rock.
And yup. I've seen you promoting this community lol and I'm already subscribed!
I hear you. I could go on about how pop culture is lame etc and not really answer your question but I think, the more the merrier. If I'm not interested in the Lakers, I can ignore it and scroll past it. Easy. It would be nice for people who want to discuss the Lakers to have a place to discuss the Lakers, though.
Honestly this place is starting to piss me off a little bit sometimes. Because it's like the users here actually want 'All' to just be politics all the time and for there to be no variety to anything. You can talk about missing features from Reddit and think of ideas to make this place a little better and you'll get responses like "No. Why would anyone want more features? I know that I don't have to personally use them if I don't like them but I prefer pretending it's 1998, so no one can have them. And why would we want more users? I like empty communities with no activity. And then complaining about empty communities with no activity."
So I dunno. It's gonna be interesting to see if this place actually grows or if it just stagnates. I'm right there with you though. I'd be more than happy to see pop and sports and things I'm not really interested in because then there's a bigger chance of things that I am actually interested in taking off here.
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Am I ugly?
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Maybe you're a bot, maybe not. But I'll give you the benefit of the doubt here.
And my answer is no, absolutely not. You are in fact very pretty based on this one bad photo. And your face looks perfectly normal as far as proportions go.
School fucking sucks. And I'm willing to take a wild guess that your low self esteem already makes interacting with people difficult for you right from the start, before they've even said anything. So I'm willing to bet that at least 50% of your troubles here are your own thoughts bringing you down.
But as for the other 50%, you don't need to please shitty, immature people. And don't worry too much about the boys either. From stats I've seen, there's a good chance they listen to people like Andrew Tate in their spare time. So you're probably not missing much lol. If you're 17, sounds like you're pretty close to finishing up with the place where you're forced to be around people that you don't vibe with.
Trust me, when school is over, that's when you'll get to meet your people, people that don't make you feel like shit. And as far as relationships go, you'll have a higher chance of meeting decent people that you actually want to be with. The only people that say school years are the best years of your life are the people who peaked there. So hang in there.
Labels are useful for when you're questioning things and looking for where you belong in the world. They provide key words that can lead you to more information and communities of more people like you. This user is just looking for where they belong without feeling like an imposter or fraud.
I do agree that people shouldn't hang on labels and revolve everything around labels though. They're tools and guidelines but ultimately only the individual can define how they really feel and who they really are.
It's all good, I'm sure that I'm not innocent of doing the same thing once in a while. And tensions are understandably high. Honestly I feel ashamed of saying where I'm from in the left wing spaces that I like to spend time because whenever people are talking about South Africa, it's never about anything good. So I understand. And I'm glad we could resolve things.
So what are you trying to get at here then? You read paragraphs of me clearly condemning racism but got stuck on the common fucking English phrase for describing depression because it contains the word "black". Even if you've never heard the phrase before and you've never seen a thunder cloud in your life, I'm sure that you're literate enough to have surmised from the rest of my post that it wasn't a racist statement. But you decided to come along and accuse me anyway.
What else do you actually want me to do? Kill myself? Not sure how else I could please you here.
Having grown up in '90s South Africa, I've been trained to judge people on an individual basis as I encounter them and by whatever group they belong to because of where they happened to be born without choosing. And going by an individual basis here, you just seem like a fucking asshole to me.
And I wish this app I use could tag users so that I can spot you in future and remember that you're the person who decided to come along and pick on a phrase with the sole goal of making me feel even more like shit.
And steal potential business away from amateur DIY workers trying to make a living. But the same people who tell you how pro working class they are and who complain about AI stealing fan art, won't see any problem with it because there's this weird entitlement thing going on as far as people's attitudes towards porn goes.
OnlyFans provides them a platform to sell their wares but doesn't pay them in advance. So it's not stealing from OnlyFans, it's literally stealing business straight from the worker's hands. Part of me has been tempted to start contacting them so that they can maybe take some sort of action against it.