I completely agree. I firmly believe his life would have been very different if he had been put in a mental care facility rather then Juvi with kids that were double his age in some cases.
My mom was a foster parent for troubled kids. She did it for 20 years. Over 100 kids ended either being able to return home, or found perm adoption. However, in the end, one kid broke her, and she nearly didn't come back from it. This kid had a horrible life, abused, physically and sexually for over 10 years by his father and mother both. He got arrested when he tried to touch a 6 year old at his school. When they took him into custody, they put him in a juvi unit with kids 5+ years older then him. He spent 2 years there before he was placed with my mom. He would punch, bite, kick, spit, scratch. Break things, scream, yell, shout, and anything else he could do to try and get a reaction. She lasted just over a year, but when he punched my 3 month old niece, my mom had to physically get between him and my brother who probably would have killed him, no exaggeration. She called and had him picked up by the foster care center she worked for. He screamed at her that like everyone else in his life, she abandoned him. They took him away and she quit the next day. A few years after my mother passed away, I saw on the news that he was killed in a gang related conflict. I'm glad she didn't have to deal with that knowledge. It took a long time for us to convince her that she wasn't the one who failed that kid, life just dealt them a shitty hand and they didn't play the cards they had been dealt right.
So take this from someone who is turning 45 in a few days. I have learned the hard way, multiple times in my life. Trust my gut. I've gotten to the point where I always do now. I've only been wrong once or twice out of probably hundreds of times. But every time I didn't I was wrong.
I don't know the answer to your question, but I'd be willing to wager a small sum that based on music licensing, it would be No. I could be wrong though.
In 22 years and close to probably 100 games that I have ran, not once have I been aske not to fudge. But also, I've not been asked to reveal when I do. Which is actually pretty rare. I've probably only fudged maybe a dozen rolls in that time.
As a DM, I ask my players at session zero, do you want me to fudge rolls to make the game more fun/interesting, or let the dice fall how they may? I've never had a table ask me to not fudge the dice.
I haven't spoken to my brother since late 2016 for other reasons. His daughter and son also have cut him off and last I heard his wife was planning to divorce him.
If the boss make $5 while I make $0.05, I never feel bad about demanding, not asking, for a raise, and if I don't get it, I quit and go to a place that will give it. Have walked out on jobs the day I was denied multiple times and never have regretted it.
Yep, doesn't really surprise me anymore. If I cared about votes I might care, but I'd have to value the down voters opinion for it to matter to me, and I really don't.
Yes, then back to my original thought, No. You are not obligated in anyway for the financial support of anyone besides yourself. This may cause anger in others, like your mother for example. But at the end of the day, being angry is her problem, not yours. The choice is simple when broken down to it's most basic levels. You help, throwing away money that has next to zero chance of ever coming back to you or really fixing the issues. And, your mother won't be angry with you. Or you don't, keeping your money and angering your mother. Do you care more about the money, or your mom being angry is the question. In all honesty, depending on your age, might be easier to just move out and get your own place if you have good enough financials to do so, and are of legal age. I wish you luck, I had to tell my drug addict sister no to giving her money I knew she would spend on more drugs. She hasn't spoke to me since, and that was nearly 25 years ago.
As a legally blind person, don't be offended on my behalf.