TubularTittyFrog @ TubularTittyFrog @lemmy.world

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nobody has kids at that age in the urban coastal cities. i'm 40 i've never dated or met a single mother.

no

speak for yourself. i have found dating as a 30+ adult to be way more dramatic and miserable than it was in my 20s.

nobody in my 20s was having a temper tantrum at dinner because the restaurant isn't expensive enough for their 'brand'.

bingo.

gist of most people who are terminally single is they aren't capable of offering as much as they demand. so for anyone that is a bad deal. a lot of people simple become parasites in a relationship, financially, emotionally, etc. and those parasitic people will never ever admit fault, they will blame the partner they are sucking the life out of that they aren't 'giving them enough'.

I was in a few relationships that became soul-sucking. i used to be depressed and suicidal in the past... because I as in relationships that were sucking my soul out. When I broke up, stayed single, and worked on myself... my life had value again and i was no longer depressed and suicidal.

the issue isn't about experience. it's about how you treat other people and if you see your partner as a person... rather than a resource to extract things from (money, sex, attention, etc)

As a 35+ would you rather be with someone who’s had bad experiences in relationships, or no experience in relationships?

is the reason maybe that it’s hard dating after 35 or is that only a valid excuse for women?

it's easier to blame other people than realize you aren't a catch either.

It's not harder, objectively.

It's just that people's expectations aren't realistic. And nobody is more bitter than average folks who think they are the top 1% of the dating pool, which is what the average person thinks. So many people in the dating pool make like 50k/yr and think you should be a millionaire to date them.

I've met so many women who are complete average looking, average income, etc. who think they DESERVE Don Draper and anything less is 'below them'. They'd rather be alone with their fantasy TV boyfriend then be in a real relationship with a person who is their equal with whom they can build a good life.

I'm a medium successful dude, and when I go out dating all I seem to encounter women who are worse than me in pretty much every metric who dunk on me for not being the top 1% man of their dreams. Like I can run a half marathon, no problem, but these ladies who can't even run a mile will dunk on me for not being in the Olympics. I have more wealth than 80% of other americans, and to most women I meet, I am 'poor'.

and if you go check out 'female dating advice' on social media... 99% of it reflects this crazy unrealistic attitude and it's SUPER popular.

and make you feel like you are more authentic than people who don't own vinyl.

all my record owning-friends love to go on about how they are the only folks who 'really' appreciate music...

wow, wow, wow.

you aren't suggesting that it's people, that are the problem, are you?

clearly it's only platforms that cause issues. all internet users are divine entities of pure logic and infinite empathy before they are corrupted by the unholy sins of the platform

if you groom your cat fastidiously you'll be fine. the allergen is not in the hair, it's in the saliva.

i am allergic but have a long haired cat. it's fine as long as i brush him out regularly. when he bites me i break out in hives though.

it's also not true. hypoallergenic dogs/cats are just marketing nonsense designed to appeal to rich weirdos who want to spend five figures on dog because they think nothing has any value if they pay less than that.

for bragging rights

there are also purebred cats that cost 4-5 figures.

to make money

There aren't any that corporations can get behind.

The democrats don't care, as long as they don't offend their base. And then doing any sort of legit challenge/change/effort, would offend that base.

The average democratic voter is incredibly complacent and happy with the status quo in this country.

Where I live the people in the towns with 5 million dollar home think those of us in the 1 million dollar homes are a criminal element that will invade their town.

It's a national problem, but policies that affect housing are mostly local. So you need to override local control with state/federal policy, or convince a 50,000 municipalities to change their laws.

And the few states that have passed reforms for zoning, etc. are getting sued to shit in court by the city/towns.

This problem was 50 years in the making, it would take more than 50 years to fix.

What gets me is a lot of people in the education world are starting adopting this bullshit attitude. My city removed advanced level math courses from middle/high school because it was 'unfair' to students who lacked the talent/drive to be good at maths... basically handicapping everyone because a subset of the students were bad at math. Basically nobody is allowed to be better than someone at something and pursue their talents... because that is 'mean and hurtful'. WTF

Thanks for having a good attitude. Way too many folks these days... are whiny and entitled and think nothing should be enjoyed by anyone if they can't enjoy it. I'm athletic and I enjoy difficult/complex video games... and it's always bizarre to me how some folks get some angry at me for enjoying things they don't/can't. I can't play grandmaster level chess or a musical instrument, but I'm not angry about it.

I'm 75% through and have had very few issues with the game man. But yeah, bosses take time to learn and figure out. Takes me about a dozen tries per boss then I'm smoking them.

Learn the patterns, equip the right buffs, and it's really not that hard.