TubularTittyFrog @ TubularTittyFrog @lemmy.world

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irony for me is that anyone i knew in genders studies or who was a militant feminist or whatever... always always always dated the most toxic violent gender stereotype dudes.

because a lot of women lie or at least setup a scenario of plausible deniability. they don't care about logic or facts of the situation, only the 'feelings' of it.

in her mind she wanted you to seduce her. so she seduced you and convinced herself that it was 100% your fault.

many women 100% refuse to exercise any agency in sexual relationships, and even when they do exercise it... they deny they have done it.

why? because agency requires responsibility. by denying it 100% they are 100% not responsible for their actions.

in this woman's mind it's your fault she felt pressured. but the only pressure that existed was the pressure she put on herself in her head.

same. the real world is very different than the world of internet words.

i have never ever met a woman who wanted 'consent' in my 30+ years of dating. and plenty of them told me they are turned off, and many said they find non-consent, aggression, and boundary violation 'sexy'. i have never met a 'sex positive' woman who wanted to talk about boundaries and consent for any sex act, including kinky violent bdsm stuff. they always told me 'just do what you want, i trust you, talking about this stuff is gross i just want to do it'.

but nobody wants to talk about that because it violates their kindergarten level ideals of human behaviour. truth is a lot of people get off on non-consent and idealize it. men and women both.

the standard that blows my mind is achievement gap.

a woman goes to college, gets an office job, gets a mid-managerial position, etc > she is amazing, awesome, superstar.

a man goes to college, gets an office job, gets a mid-manager position, etc > what a pathetic loser/failure

this is why we are setting so many men up to just give up at life. we have made the basic super hard to achieve for them, and told them that even if they obtain that, they are still pathetic losers.... so why even try?

until she says 'no'. you stop and take her home.

then she messages you the next morning 'i don't date pussies who take no for an answer'.

plenty of women have the toxic idea that their consent should and must be violated to prove your worth as a man, or equally, her desirability.

bingo... as a guy anything i do that anyone else doesn't like is because of my 'toxic masculinity'.

seriously been told that i am a 'toxic male' for riding a bike. shit's wild.

bingo.

some poly folks are shitty people, some are not.

the issue is when poly people think their polygamy makes them superior, because this is the red flag that shows you they are covering something up.

poly people are just as fucked up as anyone else. poly isn't a solution for anything. it isn't better than anything.

it's just another stupid choice like all the other stupid choices.

A lot of women I meet dating think there is no point to having a kid unless you can you are a 8 figure millionaire. it's absurd to me, since i grew up on a family income of like 30K.

education and healthcare costs too

The entire narrative aroudn sexual relationships is heavily biased in terms of women and their subjectivity of who/what is attractive.

The same actions taken by men of different physical attributes will have different general rates of acceptance/rejection by women.

Which also applies to women. Hot people get away with more horrible shit because they are hot.

And yet people refuse to admit this very observable and repeatable fact about human behaviour.

The better work is not about 'men vs women' it's about 'how your level of sexual attractiveness permits antisocial behaviors'

and the ugly truth is that a lot of people simple HATE ugly people, men or women and get insulted that an ugly person approaches them.

There are plenty of good men out there. Teachers, bosses, coaches, etc.

Nobody gives a shit about them, because they aren't famous, rich, or complete piece of shit. Those are the only 'men' anyone looks up to.

The issue is that not there are no good male role models, it's that we have decided the only 'good' men are famous, and anyone else is subpar. Our cultural assumption is that all men are bad by default, and that only the best of the best rise above it.

Personally, I'm sick of this nonsense. The vast majority of men I have ever known are good men. But society loves to shit on them because they aren't sexy, popular, or wealthy. And we love to focus on the POS men who are, who cheat, lie, and steal their way to the top.

bingo.

but nobody wants to talk about that. inflation being super low also is why the housing market exploded.... because borrowing was incredibly cheap and asset prices rose far faster than labor prices. assets were super cheap in the 70s/80s and started exploding in the 90s when we started starting pushing interest rates to historic lows.

nah bro, we just need to go back to the gold standard and elimintae the fed

that will fix the economy and deflate prices and make surge job growth....

• so say idiots on the left and the right.

pretty much.

i'm sure some people deserve student loan forgiveness. but most people i know who got it didn't. they were purposing not paying back their loan so they could spend money elsewhere on luxuries.

and interest rates shoudl stay high. lowering them again to 1% will further fuck the economy for the working class like it has been for the past 20+ years of low rates. poor people don't borrow much money, rich people do. Hence why wall st is the one pushing super hard to lower rates again.

so stop buying it.

the fuck are you buying?

mine have gone up about 30%. and i buy the same shit i did 4 years ago.

some things went way up, then came back down, like eggs.

most of what went up was meat and processed foods. dairy and veggies didn't see much of a spike. milk is still 5 bucks a gallon.

we're all wrong because we're selfish pricks and there are very few consequences for our selfish actions.

if cops would enforce traffic laws you'd see a lot more compliance... but they won't.

you are trying to reason with someone who is operating on the belief that cycling to work a few miles will make them sweat 5L or something.

give up.

if you got fitter you wouldn't sweat.

i bike 5 miles to work, year round, freezing winter and hot summer. i never sweat unless it's like 90 and high humidity. that's a handful of days per year.