T (they/she) @ Templa @beehaw.org

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I don't really like to explain stuff to other people because I often repeat myself too much and I don't like to evangelize/lecture people. However, when I have to explain why I do things certain way it is usually about the following:

• FOSS + self hosting
• Retro console moding
• Mechanical Keyboards
• Board games
• Using the steam deck as a computer/emulation station
• Vegetarianism / Plant based recipes

The pacing of Maximus part is so boring. I am honestly hoping it gets better.

When I was at university (also in Brazil) all the computers from my institute used Mandriva.

I don't understand your comment. Not vegan here but I try to eat vegan most of the time. I think just trying to consume less is already a huge deal.

My biggest issue with Logsec is the CLA signing. I still use it but don't feel like contributing to it anymore

What kind of japanese stuff do you listen to? I might be able to recommend a place

I wish there was an web app.

Wouldn't that be due to the weather?

What makes you think that having NPD parents makes one hate NDPs? I understand where you are coming from but you also need to understand the limits of your own experience. We are all hurt here, if we want to understand and be understood we need to make an attempt. Don't take things as an offence or direct attack to yourself.

Disclaimer: English isn't my first language + adhd so I apologize if I end up repeating myself or if the thoughts aren't well organized

I am glad someone asked your story and I am glad that you took the time to write this. Like I stated previously, my experience with people from my family with NPD creates a certain bias. I don't want to make this about myself but I want to give you some context: Like the other reply to you, I have an NPD parent and instead of also developing NPD, I am a very empathetic person that have a lot of difficulty being kind to myself, which isn't the case to one of my siblings (all of us have some kind of disorder though).

My first contact with the concept of NPD was while attempting to understand said parent which got me to a few communities for people with toxic parents. These were not positive communities, people were suffering a lot with these toxic relationships so it was pretty much a lot of frustrated people attempting to find comfort and to understand why their parents had to be toxic like that. It is really rare to have someone opening up as NPD like you are so we really don't have a lot of perspective from an NPD person.

I see you and I empathize with you and I don't want you to think that everyone believes that NPD people were evil or anything like that. Unfortunately because it appears to be difficult to convince people with NPD that they are harming people around them, the ones that suffer harm are usually more vocal. I think everyone here agrees that just because you have NPD you aren't evil or an abuser (and yes the pedophile example by the other user was out of touch).

You don't need to be humble, you just need to understand that there are people that suffered with abusive parents like you did and some of them were NPD parents.

I love my NDP parent and I have a lot of empathy for them. I believe deeply that they deserve support, I don't believe they are evil but they do act evil sometimes. I had to move to another country to have a better relationship with them, but I am glad I am now in a place where I understand everything that they went through and why they ended up the way they are. I think I might be one of the few people in our family that has patience to deal with them and that actually puts effort into trying to make them see different perspectives.

I think this thread would have developed better if it was a discussion on how NDPs are perceived and how NPDs can be better assisted to make things better for everyone instead of just a vent, but people get frustrated and that's okay. I don't want to marginalize anyone, I want you to feel understood but we all need to put a bit of effort when trying to understand each other. There's no need to feel personally attacked with how people view/deal with NDPs.

Thank you so much for asking this. I don't know why I didn't think about asking, I will keep this in mind for next time!

I mean, you are doing the exact same thing that my NPD parent would do, which is getting defensive instead of attempting to communicate your thoughts through arguments while attempting to understand other's perspectives.

There are many neurodivergent people that have a number of issues because of untreated/undiagnosed NPDs that refuse to acknowledge they need assistance. Just the idea of being called narcissistic is offensive.

The most voted comments might not agree with OP but they are being very polite. I don't see the terrible behavior you are seeing.

As someone with a NPD parent I don't know if I could agree with you. But yeah, me and my siblings might not be on the good statistics.

I think I've got more than half of their albuns now!

Thank you for sharing!

No, Beehaw doesn't need downvotes.

I'm going to listen to it, thank you for sharing!

Navidrome + Feishin (Web) - Tempo (Android) - Jellyfin (Android TV) here! I wish there was a solution for casting though, sometimes Jellyfin doesn't work properly

When I was a teenager I would save my lunch money to order CDs from CD Japan

Not saying Bandcamp are the good guys but at least you have an option. And today is Bandcamp Friday, when artists keep 100% of the sales!

We run our Navidrome server at home and listen to our music using clients such as Feishin and Tempo (Android).