It's interesting, I'm sure you're right that this does work on some people and I have no evidence to suggest you're lying about having personally seen it a lot. But as with other commenters, this just isn't my experience at all. Thinking about my straight female friends, I can't recall anyone going for a guy who even remotely resembles this. And thinking about my straight male friends, obviously none of them are like this at all otherwise they wouldn't be my friends.
For what it's worth, I grew up super working class poor (dad worked down a coal mine) and a lot of my oldest friends are still in similar situations. Nowadays I also know a lot of quite well off middle class folks. But neither group would put up with this kind of behaviour from partners / friends / themselves. Whatever the difference is with your friend group, I don't think it's that.
Here’s to finding empowerment through healthy means and healthy partners 💜
Hear, hear! I read your other replies and am glad you're feeling motivated to keep going. It's hard sometimes, but it's worth it when you find the right person.
I don't know where they get this idea that treating women as lesser is somehow attractive. I had one once tell me that I was lucky to have a pretty face because my body would put most men off, and then he expected to get laid. Like, what? My dude that is not how any of this works.
But experiences like this help us learn to spot those red flags earlier. And frankly it can also be a self-esteem boost, like you clearly respect yourself enough to have kicked this guy to the curb and that's something to feel great about! You know you're worthy of better and that you didn't bring this on yourself. Meanwhile he's just got another in probably a long line of romantic failures that are entirely of his own doing.
Have to admit, and I don't mean to pry, but I am SO curious how he responded when you laid it out logically for him like that.
I don't even have big hands, just regular lady-hand sized. I still don't really get the palm thing, just tried it and it feels so weird! Maybe depends on the shape of the mouse too, since some can be quite a lot taller than others.
The Lemmy devs put out a list of "breaking changes" coming with the next big core update, and advised app devs to be ready for them. Since as far as I know we've not heard much from the Liftoff developer since his twins arrived (which, clearly, understandable!) a lot of people assume this means it's not being actively worked on and will probably break when 0.19 hits. Could be wrong, of course!
Tbh I'm not sure on alternatives. None of the others have the same easy coziness to me. But I might have more of a play around with Summit and see if I can get that looking a bit less brash, because the multicommunity feature is great.
That wasn't really OP's question though. I'm not a fan of mobile games either, mostly for the same reasons as you but also tbh just because I don't like using my phone for much when I could get a better experience on a bigger screen.
But "I have some problems with the choices of the mobile gaming industry as a whole" is a very different statement to "lol mobile loser why don't you try some real games?"
Monkeys, and old people who never learned it! My grandma can just about manage to call me on WhatsApp but sometimes I'll try and demonstrate basically anything else and she genuinely can't see the difference between gestures I'm using, or which parts of the app are interactive or not.
Same in gaming. She saw me playing WoW once in about 2008 and I remember her being genuinely confused about how I could possibly tell what was my character and what was everything else. Even though, you know, your character is always in the middle of the screen. Just couldn't grasp it no matter how long she sat and watched!
Hmm you both have me worried now, I have so many other apps installed and was planning to test them out for when Liftoff inevitably dies during the 0.19 switchover. But if it's happening early, nooooooo I am not prepared 😱
People just like to dunk on things to make themselves feel better. And this can be especially a thing in gaming because lots of gamers are badly-adjusted and desperately need to feel better. It's nothing really to do with mobile games specifically at all, you see the same thing with anything outside of the very narrow window of "real" games ie the games these people happen to be into.
It's one thing to have a preference, it's quite another to look down on other people for having a different one. We're all just choosing to spend our time staring at pixels on a screen.
TeaHands @ TeaHands @lemmy.world Posts 7Comments 443Joined 2 yr. ago
Whyyyy would you say this