Tarquinn2049 @ Tarquinn2049 @lemmy.world

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I'm not saying it "does" fit. I'm writing that to her. As she gave no indication or contraindication to whether it applies. Other than asking what our experiences were and what relevant advice would have fit our experiences.... these are experiences that were had, and the advice that would go with them.

Your life was different, you gave advice that fit yours, thank you for your advice. We also gave advice.

Yeah, it's definitely not an "every male" thing. But other than that, it does contain good advice if it does end up being relevant. And if non-conservative males are tough to find in her area, odds are higher that her son could be encountering those types of influences outside the home.

I was a "relatively" weak guy growing up, videogames with no exercise or weights, I did do some physical chores and participated in most of my gym classes, lol, but I was for sure still way stronger than my mom, and she had a manual labour job. It is unfortunately very likely to be the case even if you grow up a nerd as a guy. And, in the potential case of him growing up athletic with a non-athletic mom, it can indeed be a huge difference. Not quite a shrek and fiona thing... but not as far off as we'd hope.

It can be a reasonable fear as a single mom to a teen guy growing up in a conservative area. And while it isn't a description of every guy, if the description is sounding like it fits, then those are valid concerns and things that should be addressed and headed off before they can't be.

My brother wasn't very athletic either, but a little more than I was. And he wasn't very rebellious, but a little more than I was. Only once did he ever hurt our mom physically, and it was when he was 13 and treated her the same way he would treat his friends in a heated argument, just gave her a shove... they both learned very quickly that a different approach was needed. That was with a kid who felt bad that he hurt his mom... we had friends(temporarily) that didn't feel bad about that... those friends stopped being friends pretty quick and are mostly in jail or dead now.

We live in a small town, not super religious or conservative, but I would guess about half and half. And it was about 10% of boys that this advice applied to. In a place where conservatism or religion are further entrenched, that percentage doesn't just go up linearly. The less sources of proper behaviour you see to counter the argument that people should behave "naturally"... even the nerds eventually succumb.

Be glad you had a childhood where this advice comes across as ridiculous.

Yeah, I don't know if it's from my adhd or my autism, but I do get maybe a bit manic or something between midnight and 3 am. Usually takes the form of leaving a couple pages of discord message to my brother or friends. My brother is ok with it, he has his phone silent at night anyway, friends can go either way, lol. I usually apologize once I notice I've done it. Hehe.

Most of my online communities are ok with it, but I, of course, tend to be drawn to other neurodiverse people socially, so that kind of makes sense.

Part of it is for sure that I can finally think clearly when everything is finally quiet. And not so bright, or smelly, or whatever else is generally around limiting my potential during the day. But it is a bit more than that, too. But yeah, then I gotta pack a full days worth of productive energy into a couple hours, then somehow convince myself to sleep while I am finally at peak wakefulness. Otherwise, my sleep schedule will keep slipping and I'll be even harder to hang out with, hehe.

Is the headline supposed to have an error message in the middle of it? Or did mine break somehow?

"Freetube [BAD_HTTP_STATUS: 403] Potential causes: IP block or streaming URL deciphering failed is fixed" is what my headline says.

Yeah, rush 2049 was my favourite from the SF Rush series.

Yeah, fair. Me and my brother definitely played alot of that.

Yeah, RnR, as well as SF Rush 2049 were basically my entire childhood.... so much so that I have been using this user name ever since. Though, if I could somehow also add in a tokyo extreme racer reference too without it getting too long or complicated.... or culturally insensitive... I loved those games too. Not enough proper Racing RPG games any more. You never start from the bottom and work your way up. Modern racing games just have you win cars in the lottery...

It'll just be added to pile of hundreds of other invisible reasons why people are "too lazy to get a job". So that the people suffering from them can be blamed instead of other people feeling bad for the situation they had either little or no control over being in. That's the standard playbook response to this kind of thing. The sufferers are wrong to suffer, they should just be normal like everyone else. Not being normal is wrong. So they deserve to be poor or dead because they are the ones in the wrong.

Sort of, but skinny when older still makes it easier to be happy. I am only 41 so far, but in hanging out with people older than me, it still held pretty consistent for them.

The main problem, of course, is that losing weight (or not putting it on in the first place) is not straightforward. So many people will tell you to "just simply..." not how it works. It's complex as hell and varies a surprising amount from person to person. You could go to multiple experts for help before finding a solution for everything that was in your way specifically. But everyone acts like it should just be a simple thing "you just aren't balancing your input and output", or whatever their one simple trick is.

There could be any of hundreds of things in the way.

Yeah, we should boycott all social media.... hey, wait a minute...

He can't move his arm that fast, or raise it that high.

He knows we can talk to the people of Ukraine, doesn't he? Like, it's not like the olden days where very few people ever directly communicated with people from other countries. You can't just pretend we don't know how they feel about stuff.

Elections are suspended because no one has time to "run an election". Basically, that is not at all what is important right now. A much larger and more powerful country is literally trying to erase them. It's so far failing to do so in a staggering way that is probably super embarrassing. Ukraine is not doing OK in the grander sense, of course, but they are doing way better than anyone would have expected, especially the Ukrainian people. Zelensky has managed to maintain both support and respect, but more importantly, morale.

Zelensky is a big problem to Russia, you know how you can tell? Listen to Elon and Trump talk about him...

That's mostly the problem, it is all "known" just by being obvious, no actual proof. But you'd think being obvious would at least be enough to prevent him from getting elected, lol. Hell, at this point, I'm not even sure if proof would have done the trick...

As someone who has been both, happy is easier when skinny than it is when fat. There is that popular mantra "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels".

Sounds good, will look into it.

VR mini golf is where it's at. Hehe. There is a course on walkabout mini golf that is officially themed to the movie "the labyrinth", some pretty crazy holes on that one, especially when you get to the MC Escher stairs scene with the baby. It's fun trying to hit the ball from a completely different perspective. Not to mention all the other courses that are also awesome. There are a bunch of free built-in ones, but special licensed ones like that, of course, are DLC. But the DLC courses are only like 3 bucks, so kinda whatever. Playing each course once is more than worth 3 dollars, let alone if you are gonna play them a few times. Only the host of the game needs to own the course, so it doesn't fragment up the user base.

In practice, it very much is. My monitor is at 80 degrees field of view, so the headset is only directly representing about 1440p worth of pixels, but with the passive temporal upscaling of your heads constant micromovements meaning a completely different set of pixels is seen each frame, I tested and 4k still looks notably clearer than 1440p on it, so I use 4k.

It's pretty important to use Virtual Desktop, as all other desktop streamers are doing it wrong. It seems no one else listened to John Carmack about how important it was to use cylindrical timewarp layers for maximum clarity of flat graphics on the compositor. The difference from every other desktop viewer to Virtual Desktop is night and day because of it.

A modern VR headset is like, what if you had a Steam Deck, that could nearly represent 4k and the streaming latency from your computer to that "steam deck" screen was 6ms total. Now, imagine that ~4k steam deck screen wasn't attached to your hands, and you didn't have to look down to play or hold your hands up instead. Hell, lets say the screen was only 1080p, it would still be a huge improvement over the steam deck screen. And if 1080p is the target, you can get native at 60 degrees or so, or a representation that looks close enough to native at 40 degrees. 40 degrees is about how much field of view a real steam deck takes up.

Can you imagine how much better your neck would feel after hours of gaming on that version of the steam deck as opposed to a real one? What if that steam deck was also a nice way to watch TV, and have all your social media feeds, and a fully functional browser. And play all your phone games also without having to choose whether you strain your neck or your arms.

And also, when you aren't using it as a streamed flat screen from your computer or phone, you can just use it to step into a completely different world with an entirely different ruleset, where you are now a magicians apprentice slowly learning to harness and shape your latent magical abilities...

Man, that device must be super expensive compared to a steam deck... oh wait, no, it's actually cheaper.

The upside of a steam deck is playing computer games natively while not on wi-fi, albeit at shitty quality. A VR headset has a different set of games when not on wi-fi. And since they still don't have their own cell antenna, they have to be tethered from your phone if you want to do internet stuff out and about. Hopefully that changes with how clear passthrough and aumented reality stuff is now.

Though I haven't yet tested what a 1080p 60hz stream would look like on a cell connection... maybe they can still rival a steam deck out and about too.

And once I get to my destination, I can be back on wi-fi and stream full quality again. And optionally play PCVR games streamed from my house. Though that is only viable if they have a legit networking set up. It's a nearly unbuffered 200mbit stream to play a PCVR game at the quality I would want to play at. Very doable, but you wouldn't want to try it on an ISP router with 60 other devices interacting with it. Pretty much any quality of supplemental gaming router would be fine though.

It doesn't have enough pixels to represent 4k 1:1 on every frame. At the field of view I put my screen at, 80 degrees, it can only directly represent about 1440p, but with the micromovements of my head, I see a completely different set of pixels every frame. So I tested, and 4k still looks noticeably sharper than 1440p, so I use it.

Stuff doesn't have to be perfect to still be worth doing. It just has to be worth doing. I very much enjoy where VR is at currently, but I have enjoyed where it was at the whole time so far, and I'm definitely gonna keep enjoying where it's at in the future. Even before it started replacing other things, it was always it's own thing too. And while I still play VR games quite a bit, I also use it for almost everything else now too.

There are a few options for headsets capable of this right now, mine is unfortunately a Meta Quest 3, hard to stomache, but pretty great headset... It's been the easiest and cheapest headset to mod for 14+ hours of comfort and battery life. For me, a halo style head strap has been the best option in my testing, that can be different for each individual, so a BoboVR S3 pro kit was all it took. The default quest 3 face gasket was already comfortable for all day use for me. Infinite battery life by swapping a new one in every 2 hours is barely inconvenient, and luckily I still occasionally forget so the headset battery gets to see a discharge cycle every now and then too without me having to remember to purposefully do it. The batteries can handle charging it back up to full while playing.

The second screen is stored above my normal field of view, I can either glance at it for the normal stuff you would use a second monitor for while gaming or watching TV, generally a browser window that I don't have to tab out of the game to see. Or I can hit a button and both monitors swap places instantly, and the content of the second monitor becomes my temporary priority. Recent use has been having a spec guide open while playing Diablo 4, and generally my social media and various app friends lists are arrayed on that screen, as well as some rain meter gadgets for performance monitoring and stuff. Second monitor stuff.

I also, of course, leave the headset and Virtual Desktop in passthrough mode all the time. So I can still hang out with and talk to my family. And watch TV with them. The TV at the field of view it's at is only about a 720p representation, but it's clear enough to read closed captioning, and if you are old like me, you may remember that DvDs are 540p, and they were good enough for watching epic movies on for years. It's not as good as it will be on the next headset, or the next one after that, but it's good enough to be worth doing for me.

Luckily for me, but unlucky for her, my sister has a bit of night blindness, so she can't watch a TV in a dark room, it would be too bright relative to the rest of the room and hurt her eyes. Works out with the Quest 3 passthrough having a relatively narrow dynamic contrast adjustment. With the lights off, the headset would find the TV too bright relatively too, washing it out and showing only a white rectangle. But with the lights on, I see it as clearly as them, just a third of the resolution.

My sister has also started using my old headset to play on her computer, that headset doesn't have infinite battery life, only about 8 hours, but she has now started plugging it in after and continuing to play. She mainly plays Baldurs Gate 3 on it. The hand controllers serendipitously worked out to be a pretty fun and useful way to play BG3, just mapped "scrollwheel" to camera panning. Since in a windows environment the hand controllers are treated as a mouse input, so the joysticks are scrollwheel input. And yeah, B is right click, so hold B and move your hand to change where the camera is looking, and joystick to move the camera, it's like flying a drone with one hand being a representative of the drone orientation. And otherwise BG3 is mostly about clicking stuff with a few keyboard shotcuts here and there. So, no real limitations from having to essentially use a floating keyboard. Most other "flat" games are best played with a controller. A wireless keyboard and mouse would also be an option. But in a recliner, a controller is probably best.

I have a high-end gaming computer, but it is headless(doesn't have a monitor) I use a VR headset and Virtual desktop instead of a monitor. In Virtual desktop I have two 4k 120hz screens. I use my computer from a comfy recliner, or standing, or walking around. Whatever fits the use case. While in my home, or any home with decent wi-fi, I have access to my gaming PC. And I can live the augmented reality life.

Cell internet isn't quite good enough for the same thing to be possible out and about yet. But it's honestly not that far off. It's good enough for a productivity desktop experience, but streaming a 4k game or video is not great on cell. Might be viable if I drop it to one 1080p monitor at 60hz and drop the bandwidth target to 1/8th or so. Haven't tried. Assuming the consistency of bandwidth will be a concern. Too many sporadically dropped packets for unbuffered video to play smoothly.

But for the most part, the VR headset has replaced my computer monitor, my TV, and my phone while at home. It's an android based headset, so I can load any phone games I play on it. And play them on a 6 foot wide "phone" using my hands as hyper accurate laser pointers instead of mashing the screen with fingers, covering up the very thing I need to poke.

No publicly traded company can compete with a well run private company. Infinitely growing profits breaks everything. Never take a company public if you can help it. It may even be preferable to shutter it if that is the only other option. Having stupid amounts of money is cool and all, but it does nothing useful. Money is only a tool if you actually use it... a golden hammer sitting on a shelf does no one any good.