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  • If you are thinking about B-12, that is already artificially added to meat products too. So even people who eat meat aren't getting it the "natural" way. Now there are available plant milks fortified with it which does the same thing.

    Yes, vegans should monitor their health more closely to make sure nothing is missing, but it wouldn't be particularly difficult to get everything you need from plant based sources.

  • Want them, can't afford them. Not in terms of money, living space (which money would solve), or time (which is required to make money). I already feel like I'm drowning on my own, I don't want to also fail my children.

    Plus the world is a shitty place.

  • A cracked vase. Belonged to my great grandma. My grandma then had it and would fill it with fragrant flowers any time I came to visit. 11/10. Cracked vase is the one thing I made sure I took from my grandma's house after she passed.

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  • Note to anyone thinking of picking this up: read it, don't listen to it. The book layout is meant to mimic a history book, and is filled with footnotes that have a life of their own. 11/10 book, imo. And I believe it took Clarke a solid decade to write because it was such an undertaking, but that work paid off!

  • It's worth noting too that for every instance of feeling scared, there are at least 5 situations where women feel belittled. I think even well meaning men are a lot less aware of it happening, or of them doing it themselves. My own father is a sweetheart who means well, but he's skeptical of anything I tell him until my husband repeats what I'm saying. I've had achievements minimized because I didn't also raise a family while doing them. I've been denied entry into hobbies. I've been given fewer opportunities at work because they want a cute face at the front desk. I've been told math is not for me, while being the only middle schooler in the math team who could regularly beat high schoolers at competitions. I've been told no boys would ever want to be my friend, because boys can only be after one thing, so all the ones being friendly are faking it. And of courses I've had boys stop being my friend when it becomes clear that friendship is all I'm after.

    It's harder to spot but cuts to your self worth like these add up over time.

  • As a woman, and having known many other women, I can promise you that none of what is mentioned is particularly far fetched. It's sad, but we all have multiple stories like this. Almost any woman could put together a similar paragraph of incidents she has personally experienced.

    Edit to add: she didn't even name anyone! No one is harmed, except the people who know they should be ashamed of themselves.

  • I do this. Sometimes I read in really short bursts, like for the length of an elevator ride. I don't mark it though, I just remember where I left off. I do this so much it's become easy to just get right back into the story even mid paragraph.

  • A lot of people did, and I think that's really interesting! There's a lot of focus, even commercialization, around dating for men. So much is geared towards how to get a (romantic) relationship, and I think a lot of people's self worth is tied to it. And chances are, if you're feeling that, someone else you know is feeling it too!

    I encourage everyone here to reach out to a friend today and see how they're doing. I'm not going to pretend that's going to solve the loneliness issue. That's clearly systemic. But reaching out is something most of us can do.

  • While I agree about third places, I think it's interesting that you then focused on dating.

    Loneliness means lack of friendships and family ties as well. I think a lot of men are focused on dating, and even when they are in a relationship, they use that as their only source of socialization outside the workplace. A lot of the barriers that exist for one are true for the rest as well, it is hard to make friends nowadays as an adult! There are so many people that stop trying, and it isn't surprising.

  • You should have probably gone to HR about that. Without an explanation, the behaviour reflects poorly on you for something your coworker did which was not only illegal, but extremely immoral. You do not give someone drugs without their knowledge or consent! Wtf! You know he only took you to the hospital to protect himself. I would not feel safe working in the same space as him.