SolarNialamide @ SolarNialamide @lemmy.world

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Go get one from a local shelter

Have you tried simply being too poor to ever eat out and being forced to cook everything yourself?

There is more variety for sure, but my point kinda was that most people, men and women, don't really make full use of the variety there is. Almost everyone dresses kinda dull. Women have easier access to special and colorful clothes than men (although the latter can definitely find some if they look for it) and they do use it a slightly more but actually interesting clothing takes a little willingness to stand out that most people simply do not have. Maybe it's different in other countries though - where I live conformity and not standing out is woven into every aspect of our culture.

Ah yes I remember being 15

I definitely do. My dumb-dumb brain doesn't really get the whole neurotransmitter thing, but as stingy as it is with dopamine and nor-adrenaline, as generous it is with endorphins. Oh, you're 5 minutes into your cardio warm-up of your hour long work-out? Enjoy this heap of endorphins for the next 2 hours. I feel good, it's extremely meditative because thoughts are just on pause, I love getting stronger and more in shape, and I always go in the sauna at the end of my work-out which is a huge motivator before going and makes it all even better at the end. I always walk out of the gym completely zen and satisfied.

If you don't get such an easy endorphin rush, I don't know what to do. I can imagine it would suck in that case.

I used to have a pretty intense not-like-the-other-girls fase in my teens, and I never wore skirts or dresses, and felt the same way you do. Then I got over that internalized misogyny and started experimenting with clothes a little, and the first time I put on a dress it was like a hallelujah moment. The most comfortable thing in the goddamn world. They do not restrict your movement at all, that's only a problem if you wear knee-high pencil skirts of stiff fabric. In colder seasons you wear leggings under them which are equally comfortable. It was so incredibly comfy I did a complete 180 and it took me 10 years to wear a pair of pants again, and that's only because the waist high mom jeans in style now are so loose and non-restricting. Any other style of pants I won't touch with a 10 feet pole.

Mainstream clothes for sure, but I feel the same way about mainstream women's clothes. Waist high jeans, an inoffensively colored top and a vest or blazer. Switch out the jeans for beige linen pants in the summer. Yawn. If you want inspiration for some more interesting clothes in general but men in particular, you gotta look to non-mainstream subcultures. Especially ones that don't give shit about gender. I hung out with hippies for years and men and women alike are dressed in cool, colorful and interesting clothes. Both genders wear pants, dresses, and skirts. It heavily inspired my style and believe me, I stand out a lot among other women. If you want more variety you have got to look further than what's mainstream. Because that'll always trend towards boring and basic.

It wouldn't be that hard, I think. Just make it more square on top and drop the accentuating part from the waist to either halfway between the belly button and hips or all the way to the hips. Or you could raise it to chest height and have a long, straight bottom part, more robe-ish.

Damn, almost 28 years on this planet and I've just now learned that there's a very handy separate option for that. Kinda makes sense if you think about it for 5 seconds, but I just never did. I do know how to deal with images properly though, so I'm not a complete idiot.

I once forgot to respond to a friend for 5 months, lmao. Luckily he knows me well enough to know I sometimes forget and I was kind of going through a personal crisis, so a 'hey man kinda forgot to respond for 5 months, how are you' was enough to make it all right again

Dutch. It's ze/zij for both singular female and plural they.

Funny, English is also my second language but in my first language 'she' and plural 'they' are the same word, only distinguished by the verb, so it never seemed that weird to me.

Yeah, I just voluntarily chose to do it for 9 years every single day, even though I didn't actually like it anymore the last 2 of those.

I have a friend who watches entire movies on his phone. It appalls me, but a lot of people do it.

Cats show their butt as a greeting and a sign of trust and friendship. They like you!

Agreed. If I'm going on vacation I avoid cities as much as possible and want to be in the middle of nowhere in nature. That means no hotels for 10s of kilometers, but there's usually at least one person renting out a room or something similar. I've also never experienced any of the things in this meme in places like that, but that could also be because it's an American thing, which wouldn't surprise me.

I'm using liftoff which is very nice. I tried out pretty much all the apps and I like this one the most. The interface is the nicest and it has gestures like Infinity where I came from.

Beautiful. When one of my cats died 1.5 years ago, I buried her in my dads garden as I live in an apartment. When I visited 3 weeks later the whole garden was covered in forget-me-nots. Felt fitting and poetic. I now have a tattoo of the flowers as a reminder.

I don't get how they would snag more seats in an election right after the ridiculous domination of BBB though? Those people are still high on that win and see a giant chance to take way more political power. If that was the intention they should've waited at least a few more months or a year for that to die down a little or maybe even see some failures in the provinces here and there for BBB coalitions. I'm honestly scared as shit that BBB is now gonna be huge in the Tweede Kamer as well and we'll have a coalition of BBB, PVV and CDA or some other nightmare shit.

I'm a historian and I would gladly talk at length to anyone about my particular fascination of the moment, no matter what they took or how high they are. I think I would even enjoy it more if a person was on psychedelics because they are way more open-minded and curious than sober people.