Sekrayray @ Sekrayray @lemmy.world

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When my dog died almost a year ago to the day, it was one of the worst things my wife and I have ever gone through. I know that’s proof of my privilege—but I think it’s also proof of how much animals mean to us. They’re pure good. I work a lot of weird shifts; when I come home my wife may not be awake or present, but my dog was always there. It initiated intense, physical grief in both of us.

Lean on any friends or family you have. Post here. Don’t deny how bad you’re hurting, but look for another animal to help after you grieve. I feel like our pets represent different chapters in our life, and when one leaves us a new chapter opens. That chapter may come with a different pet for a different time of your life. We chose to use the closing of our chapter as a transition point—we had a few horrible months at first but ultimately kicked some bad habits we had been building for a while. But where you are right now is horrible, and as another human being I understand to an extent how badly you’re hurting.

Yeah, my understanding of the physiology is that taking it that early leads to rebound sleepiness in 4-6 hours after waking. I think it definitely does, but the immediate caffeine helps if you have a job that demands immediate alertness lol.

So yes and no. Some of this depends on what sort of “loop” you’re stuck in, which I can’t answer unless I have more details. The rest doesn’t depend as much on that.

On one hand, 21 is extremely young—which means you have an absurd amount of wiggle room and time to course correct, even if you’ve done some really dumb stuff.

On the other hand, time only starts to move faster and if you don’t commit to course correct at some point you’ll end up a lot older in a way tougher spot.

I think the answer here is some sort of average of extremes (like it is for most things in life). You shouldn’t worry about the future too much because you’re so young, but you should start taking action to course correct now so that the next 5-10 years are easier.

They’re Jet Alert 200 mg—but the pills are oblong so I break them into smaller doses based on how I’m feeling. Feeling really awake? Don’t take any. Slightly drowsy? A quarter of one (50mg). Normal level of drowsy? 100 mg. Etc.

There’s something about the going back to sleep that seems to have a stacking effect—you wake up feeling really well rested.

Sleep with caffeine pills next to your bed. Set an alarm for 20 minutes before when you want to wake up. Take the pill with the alarm, and go back to sleep. You will magically wake up super awake at the time you want to be up.

This is obviously a lot less good than the healthy solutions here, but I work a rotating shift schedule and this trick has been working for me for over a decade.

I absolutely don’t socialize that much. My job doesn’t have traditional weekends, though, so it helps. My “weekend” would be the equivalent of the weekend you just described (maybe one event). I found that I did more things when I was younger, but now I just don’t do something social unless I really think it’s going to bring me joy.

For those who are actually using this data to make commentary on anything—I feel like it’s poorly represented and not at all adequately powered. I would take this with a grain of salt

Very good point. I’d like to also think it’s not getting attention as to avoid prompting more idiots from joining in on the idiocy, but that’s likely me giving MSM too much credit.

This has to be purposefully not getting media coverage so as to not incite panic/public support, right? When I saw the first ruling posted by Gov Abbott it seemed almost like a secessionist rant, but it’s NO WHERE to be seen in MSM

And remember—you’re 200% more likely to be sued and lose in the setting of an AMA encounter

It’s really weird, but as I’ve aged spicy food has really begun to bother me. I absolutely LOVE how it tastes in my mouth—even the hottest levels of heat are enjoyable to me.

I’d say around the age of 25 it started bothering me some. Then it got worse as I approached 30. Now in my early 30s I can hardly eat anything that’s above “mild” without GI distress several hours later. I’m talking about a horrible burning sensation in my abdomen where it feels as though I can actually track the food moving through my GI tract. The next day I feel ill enough on the toilet that I have to make sure I don’t have plans for the first 1-2 hours of my day.

It’s super sad because I love spicy food, but it’s not worth the payback. I myself work in healthcare and I’ve searched and searched for something that can physiologically explain that phenomenon (getting worse over the years) and there’s not really anything explained in the literature. All I can think of is something to do with changes in GI flora.

Should’ve gotten picked up by a 3 letter agency then and there. You could’ve been the next super spy

Super weird, thanks for sharing. One of the houses I grew up in had some weird stuff happen and bad vibes. As someone who is relatively skeptical as an adult I still can’t make heads or tails of it. Years later I found out the previous owner killed himself in the garage. Strange stuff.

TIL the Taliban like waterfalls

Ever since I really quit drinking a big substitute for me has been elaborate baths. Epsom salts, LED light bulbs turned to all blue. It’s great.

Yes, I am a dude. I do not care.

Thanks, I’ll give it a try. Just made my first post there

Absolutely. My wife and I moved to our current city in 2015. We always visited our shared home city at least 1-2 times a year. Due to the pandemic we didn’t go home from 2019-2022. When we finally went to visit again in 2022 it was honestly unsettling.

The current area we live is urban/rapidly growing and has a rather young population. Where we both grew up is relatively stagnant. Being back where we came from felt like living life without color. Everyone just seemed depressed—no one was wearing color. It was just sad. We had picked up on it during previous visits, but the shock going from 2019 to 2022 was wild. We haven’t been back since, so maybe it’s better now?

For our situation I think there’s objective reasons as to why it feels different (I think there are in your situation as well), but I think some of it has to do with getting older. You can never really go back. You will forever see your old home through the eyes of an adult, and not the eyes of a child.

Appreciate it. I’ve got a thick skin in real life—I just feel like doing anything in the virtual world which requires me to engage my thick skin is sort of a waste of my energy. I zero percent mean that as though I’m trying to start an argument here, but if I’m gonna get cyberstalked for a couple comments here or there it’s just not really worth it to me.

Exact same thing happens to me, and it’s why I don’t really post anymore.

Ha ha I wish—that’s one of the few things I left up that didn’t get completely bombed by a hostile user and their 8 alt accounts. All I said in a comment was that women should be allowed to play video games without the expectation of being hit on my random men, but I guess that’s an unpopular opinion 🤷‍♂️. No more content from me lol.