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  • One brother doesn't share or give up decision making well. The roles are intended to be project manager rather than dictator; the person is still expected to solicit opinions and delegate tasks to others. He gets frustrated really quickly when he doesn't get his way entirely and will get to a point where he doesn't hear other people's perfectly reasonable views.

    But it's been this way forever, it's his personality. He knows it. A few of us are pretty good at calling attention to his behavior in a way that he doesn't feel attacked by and he'll chill out. One just goes toe to toe more aggressively with him and that tactic works sometimes too.

  • My family has rules and positions we vote on. We're all adults out of the parents' house. We collaborate on a lot of projects and travel together in different combinations; the rules, or guidelines really, make us more efficient.

    I am often travel coordinator for joint trips. Someone else handles food coordination specifically. The youngest calls meetings, usually on a quarterly to yearly cadence, and publishes the meeting notes to a shared cloud drive. Another is in charge of coordinating a Christmas gift exchange. We've rotated being financial and medical backup/adviser to the parents and those roles also comes with responsibility to update the other siblings on major changes.

  • Uh, does the Democratic party have any incentive to form a coalition with them? Just continue abstaining and let the Republicans continue to implode from a situation of their own making.

  • That's awful. So heartless when your wife is going through physical terrors and both of you through emotional. And thank you for sharing, I can only hope the shitheels pushing these laws finally start listening to them.

  • I prefer TWS. My last neckband pair were always getting caught on my clothing and long hair.

  • US, my home state just sent a woman to prison for helping her daughter get an abortion. So, you know, living under a shitty theocracy that believes being poor or a woman is the worst sin imaginable.

  • It will be a political debate point for decades to come, as how to support Israel has been a point of debate for decades past.

    US politics at the foreign policy level can change dramatically every election cycle. I can't guess what their policies might be in the next 1, 5, 10 years.

  • It's a stereotype, maybe even a generalization. It's not "very true". It can't be; there's about 130,000 men in the world who play soccer professionally or semi-professionally.

    Just because certain cultures incentivize hooligan behavior (looking at you, London), doesn't mean all everywhere do.

  • You look 0% goofy. You're nailing it; dressed up a bit more than a help desk job probably requires on a daily basis, not so fancy that you look like you're going to a job with a much stricter dress code.

  • I live in the US and follow rugby.

    "Rugby is a hooligan's sport played by gentlemen, soccer is a gentleman's sport played by hooligans."

    So cringe. Different sports are different. I can like both, I can even play both, and neither suffers a loss.

  • Well, some HR person I've never met just chatted me "we need to talk, I'm calling your phone" with no context. We had layoffs three weeks ago. My heart rate went through the roof. She just wanted to remind me it's enrollment time and to pick my insurance and other benefits for next year.

    I'm thinking about slashing her car tires and taking a dump on her front porch as a "prank" in return.

    1. If it's available digitally from one of the many libraries I belong to, that's easier. I prefer it to Audible even.
    2. If not available by library, I can't recall the last time I wasn't able to find it through some alternative means.

    Insert Pirates of the Caribbean meme about being, without doubt, the worst pirate I've ever seen.

  • It means his segment was more nuanced than I expected. It's not "homeschooled = religious weirdos with no social skills".

    It's rare to run into people who know what HSLDA is, and have an understanding of how different laws in each state create different environments for homeschooling.

  • Far from the worst overview of homeschooling in the US I've seen.

  • Well, this is terrifying. I read several paragraphs hoping they weren't talking about my country; no such relief.

  • briefly forgot men have eyelashes too and got excited

  • I never understood reddit as a dating site. And the problems there are only amplified on Lemmy.

    1. user density in the geographic region I would date within. With reddit, at least I was quite sure there were other users within an hours drive of me
    2. it's not a dating site and not set up with the guardrails needed to make it even marginally safe. If a person on Bumble starts being scary, there are some ways to report then and they will possibly be removed or restricted from the platform. On reddit and Lemmy, the responses will be one of the following "free speech, get wrecked", "if you don't want to be abused/harassed, you shouldn't go into public spaces", or "you signed up for the site, you asked for it", or "give them a chance, they are probably just not good at dating skills" or even Andrew Tate acolyte bullshit that I don't want to think about.
    3. distribution of gender and of sexual orientation across the platform. I would be surprised if Lemmy userbase is less than 95% men. Unless those men are gay/bi at an improbably high rate, there aren't going to be many people available to match with.
    4. "everyone have a good time, we're here for love" says the hordes of people who are actually here to waste time with no intention to actually date, cruise for nudes, or to data mine peoples personal information.

    Tl;Dr if actual dating apps are not bringing a person dating success, nothing about Lemmy will be any better.

  • Nah, some Catholica do. Some are pissed a Jesuit priest, among the most progressive of orders, is the pope.

    Also, his word isn't as binding as you think unless he speaks ex cathedra, which no Pope has done in decades outside canonizing saints. The pope can say all he wants about gay marriage or global warming or whatever, it's not binding unless he says it ex cathedra and it will be a cold day in hell before he does something like that. It would split the church apart immediately.

  • I have a ringer that starts at a highish frequency and then with each ring drops lower. I find the changing frequency helps me pick it out from background noise.