Hongohones @ RosaliePreistley @aussie.zone

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Hold the eyeliner steady by pushing your hand against something then move your eye across it. I get it right sometimes but it's hard. that caddy looks perfect for my bathroom honestly.

Love the make-up caddie. I wish I had room in my tiny bathroom vanity for something like that. I have some organisers though which are ok. So nice of you to work with her eyesight, that's good parenting imo. Actually applying make-up being long sighted is difficult I find, as I am long sighted as is normal for someone my age so I hope she can do it well enough to feel great.

Thanks a lot hun. I'm passionate about trans, gender diverse, non binary and intersex rights and quite a few other social justice causes and I'm doing something about it most week days. I don't care what people think really, because ultimately it's none of my business. Being made fun of for the way I look is something I've always had to deal with but the cis world still think it's ok to make fun of us and that needs to change. I figure those people are probably bigots in other ways as well and need help, not my anger. I think non binary and other gender diverse people have a harder time though because it's not been as visible as being transgender has been for as long, of course, people have been non binary since forever as well. I hope you did something special for your special day on Friday!!

Even some allies still seem to think of gender being binary. Its not about who's suffering most of course, when one of us gets bad treatment we all suffer and we're all united under the gender diverse banner, always! It's not always appropriate to call enbys trans because there's not always a transition into another hormone biology. So I'm careful about using the word trans to describe everyone with some kind of gender non-conformity. I don't quite understand because it's not who I am, just like I never understood what it was like to be a man or straight.

Even my mother who is a staunch supporter of myself and another trans family member got annoyed when I told her my son's half sibling stated to me she was a demi-girl because sometimes she (her chosen pronouns) is a boy. That she confided in me about though and hasn't really talked to anyone else, was great of course, I love that people I know now have that outlet. I wish I hadn't told mum though.

I dress pretty androgenous and its likely no one else noticed. I didn't want to create a fuss, I just left an uncomfortable situation and felt good about knowing when to leave. I didn't say anything at the time, as it would have been seen as inappropriate in that particular venue, it was an AA meeting and culture war stuff is not discussed. It's tiring trying to educate people honestly. I only bother explaining things to allies. Most people don't read my pronoun badge or see the fucking trans flag patch on my sleeve because they haven't been educated or just don't care.

So proud of you for living your truth, we still live in one of the best cities for being ourselves and living our truths and I'm thankful of that every day. Sometimes I wish I had a tshirt which read, no one knows I'm transgender lol. Like I said, I'm proud of it and see not being my gender assigned at birth as a very rare gift. Cis people don't get to spend years thinking about being cis, but we have a unique other layer to our identities.

Oh and I too extend the hand of friendship, and thank you for reaching out.

There's a survey being done and submissions sought about changes to strengthen the anti-vilification laws at the moment... https://engage.vic.gov.au/project/anti-vilification/participate

Yes it was embarassing, I'm proudly trans and deliberately more visible now due those fucking thugs. It's made a lot more people show their support to the whole trans and gender diverse community and realise how much bullshit we have to deal with just trying to live our truth. But unfortunately it's not just nazis. Just tonight I had to leave a group of people I would have gained insight from because some straight cis men thought it was ok to misgender me and talk and laugh about me while I was sitting in between them. It was over quickly, but ffs. I'm over it now and have a safe space to vent, but so many of us don't have that luxury. Overall it's getting better but there's still a long way to go.

Thanks for bringing it up, it's always heartwarming to hear of other's disgust of bigots.

I missed your post yesterday but I hope some self care brings some joy. I hope you're feeling better. Basque I had to look up. That does look like a cure for the blues! I always get a sense of warmth fill my heart reading these little empowering exchanges we do here and I thank you for being brave enough to share your darker moments, that empowers us all. Vulnerability is something to share and many times just journalling feelings can be therapy in itself I've found.

Afternoon nap acheived. Flat cleaned. Cats scared and then treated after nasty vaccuum machine utitlised. Mining and crafting done a little. A nice walk to the beach and surrounds after a solid coffee and another walk to my meeting this evening should see me to 7ks today hopefully. Nothing philosophical today. A bath and a face exoliant later is on the cards. Skin care has become a new pastime. Make up is fun, but it's just unneccessary most of the time.

Well done!

Boundary setting is so good. As someone who had none a year ago, I now have clearly defined ones and no problem being diplomatic when telling people they're doing stuff which I find steps over them. It took practise, a traumatic event, therapy and deep personal honesty to get there though. People either respect your boundaries or they're not worth the effort imo. We don't have to liked by everyone but people pleasing is hard to break out of as well. If someone doesn't like me now, that's fine. I know I'm valid and wholesome and for everyone, at the end of every day it's just them and their pillow like almost everyone else. It's easier to get to sleep when you didn't let someone walk all over you because it causes resentment.

Yay. Welcome. Please send cat pics.

Happy birthday and enjoy the celebrations. Three cheese toasties are great. Vegan I imagine would be hearwarming as well as body warming.

nice

I've been to bed before ten both nights and have had productive mornings. Do some housework, it'll hurt, but helps with the blues. Take care!!

Very pretty

AA from my experience has been super friendly and accepting. YMMV. Try a couple of local meetings. No judgements or dogmatic approaches. Listening to others is a great way to learn about it.

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Yes makes sense. Nice

oooh, I love zines. Don't really see them around much though these days.

Do you volunteer at Joy? I'm thinking about doing it. I'd like to keep djing, but not in bars. Obviously I wouldn't go straight on air or anything but I have a bunch of community radio experience from a bunch of moons ago as well. So I could be useful, and I can walk there!

Go and check out the bookstore on the ground floor, hares and hyenas. Its a really nice vibe there.

One day at a time. Peace of mind feels nice. A walk to the pride centre this morning should be good. I'm getting at least 6 or 7 ks walking every day sometimes quite unintentially so and I'm reaping the rewards. Losing belly fat and tightening the loose skin from loosing a ton of weight of last year. Finally cook my new stew today and do some aa. And of course play with the cats.

I have a new sense of absolute freedom now I'm working on sobriety. I'm glad it's uncool. I've never wanted to be cool or a part of mainstream society and never felt like I was a part of it anyway. Always been queer as fuck and always been alternative. A misfit and a punk but I've lost the anger of punk while retaining the passion to change the world from my own place in it. I also accept that certain things I cannot change but have the courage to change the things I can and act.

My life is completely involved in positive queer spaces, from work to my aa home group to my volunteer work. I feel so much less alienated from them than I used to because I'm not in the queer party scene. It also wasn't my scene. It's restricive, mysoginistic and very much a monoculture. I had an amazing queer family once 20 odd years ago but it was smashed apart by the suicide of one of us and it's when my substance abuse really took hold. I have brain damage from all the partying but getting my much needed oestrogen into my female brain is alleviating some a lot of it.

Indeed it is. I thought frodo initially but no. Bilbo. Bilbo is kinda mean in lotr. Ruined by the ring.

Martin freeman. He also played someone important in lord of the rings I think. yadda yadda, both are better in print.

I love that we quote simpsons and hitchhikers here. I always enjoyed the bit about Zem, the mattresses. and that robot who shouted hells bells because he took out the floor from underneath him. Did they ever make a series with all the books? The og series was great as was the movie with the guy who played every role I ever wanted to but never became an actor. Of course now I can't play anyone but a trans woman cos that's exactly what I choose to look like.