Look for local game shops and see what they have available; start connecting with the folks there even if it’s not necessarily the games you want to play because the more you build those connections, the more likely you are to end up with a group that does.
If you live somewhere that doesn’t have local game shops, there are online groups. I’ve been out of it long enough to not know what to suggest here specifically though.
Hello fellow Ruby-haver! Here is a picture of my Ruby. I have a toddler bed that her predecessor kitty slept on, but she hasn’t been interested in it. Instead, she sleeps on this cardboard couch on top of the bed.
I am very successful in my career and earn more than my school-age self ever expected (tbf, I expected to be a teacher). I wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for all three, though.
Lucky points include:
Being the kid of small business owners who gave me/made me get a job with them at 16.
Knowing someone at a company who recommended me for an internship.
Working adjacent to a badass development team that made the best proof of concept to build a new app, so they brought me to their team to support it.
My Lead retiring so I was able to move to her level after only a couple years.
I wouldn’t have gotten those opportunities if I didn’t also have the dedication and talent, but luck was a huge factor.
I have tried the metaphor that luck opened doors for me, but I had to get to and walk through them. I will never take where I am today for granted.
My fidgeting while I was in middle school led me to break every kind of mechanical pencil I used, except for 5. I forced myself to only use those in high school and college so I would always have a reliable pencil.
So there’s a lot of research suggesting neurodivergence has strong correlation with LGBT+ and there’s some indicating the BDSM correlation (not saying they are the same/related, but people who are in touch with themselves enough to identify as LGBT+ are more likely to be open about sexuality in general in my experience). It’s so present in my various social circles that I’ve connected nerd & neurodivergent and thought of those as the common factor.
But I realize there’s another commonality I hadn’t considered: they’re very community-oriented and attend community gatherings. There are three groups I’m thinking of: one has a ton of burners (not actually Burning Man, but smaller local variants), another are Quakers (and more specifically those who attend large regional/national gatherings), and the last are people who religiously attend DragonCon.
Maybe that has more to do with the sex-positivity and openness than the nerd piece? I don’t know. I just know I’m surrounded by it somehow, lol.
Sex. Neurodivergent/nerd social circles often have a lot of kink/BDSM and otherwise sex positive people, so my friends group is pretty open about sex.
I’m on the asexual spectrum and would rather forget that sex is a thing, but I love my friends and as long as everyone is consenting and safe, I’m happy for them. I sometimes get awkward when sex convos happen around me, but hey, I get awkward with many other convos too.
FMLA does cover leave for fathers, and in 2020 the DOL said 56% of US workers were covered by FMLA. That’s still a lot of people who don’t have those protections, but it’s still demonstrably incorrect to say there isn’t “any legal right [for fathers] to take time off from work.”
My company offers parental leave (generic, not gender-specific, and applies to adoptions as well as giving birth). Everyone I work with expects people—men included—to take it.
A guy on my team took his a couple years ago and now with his second child recently born, he is applying his lesson learned. Instead of taking the time as soon as his kid is born, overlapping time off with his wife, he’s letting his wife take her full time then he’s taking his. That way they stagger the full-time care of the newborn for about 6 months straight, after which his wife will be done teaching for the summer, meaning more like 8 months straight.
Another coworker (Director level) had his latest kid December before last. Our busy time is January to April, so he delayed and took his time off in May or June.
Fuck companies that don’t support it and the small-minded people who think men shouldn’t take it. I can understand how challenging it can be for a small business to support that kind of leave, but as humans we should care more about supporting the next generation than a couple hits to productivity at work for 2-3 months. (I write as a permanently child-free person.)
What you’re missing is that the people you work with are stuck in the mindset from 2 generations ago. Don’t buy in. Taking your leave IS supporting your family; you’re doing it right.
I agree the wall is convincing and that it’s not surprising that the Tesla didn’t detect it, but I think where your comment rubs the wrong way is that you seem to be letting Tesla off the hook for making a choice to use the wrong technology.
I think you and the article/video agree on the point that any car based only on images will struggle with this but the conclusion you drew is that it’s an unfair test while the conclusion should be that NO car should rely only on images.
Is this situation likely to happen in the real world? No. But that doesn’t make the test unfair to Tesla. This was an intentional choice they made and it’s absolutely fair to call them on dangers of that choice.
I tell everyone that it’s both, “I had her for TWENTY years!” with excitement and joy for how long I had her in my life, and how lucky I was to have her such a long time. AND, “I had her for twenty years,” so I don’t even remember who I was before her; she was so much of my life and it is so much harder to live without her now.
I’m sorry you’re also dealing with this kind of pain. It sucks. <3
I had never heard this spelled out or identified the pattern myself, even though I’d noticed there were differences. Thank you for sharing! This answers questions I didn’t even know I had.
The other thing I’ve recently seen pointed out is that they don’t have doctors administering it. Given the doctor ethos of “do no harm,” they can’t be involved and keep their license. So it’s just a bunch of underqualified people trying to figure out what to do.
Full transparency: I haven’t fact checked this myself, but it seemed feasible when it came up so it stuck with me.
Scrum.org doesn’t have anything about strategy in the Scrum Master role so no, not by-the-book. By-the-book Scrum, I am a Product Owner of the whole application. But because my app is huge, areas within it are owned by members of my team. I’m working on the long-term business plan and organizational-level barriers, not the day-to-day execution that a Scrum Master would own.
Ah, I read the italics as sarcasm and was trying to make sense of it in that way. I know what a Scrum Master is; my company doesn’t have them, so their responsibilities are spread across multiple roles. But yeah, my role is higher. I’m not helping the team with processes, I’m working with Directors and VPs on the business side to determine where the product is going. So planning side, not delivery side.
lol, seems like it. Pretty sure you’re just saying it as a clever pun, but in reality I would hate being an actual Scum Master! I’m a Lead Product Manager over four dev teams with a team of 3 PMs. I am trying to focus on longer-term strategy and removing barriers for my team, while the PMs who report to me should be the ones making decisions and doing the individual contributor work.
Look for local game shops and see what they have available; start connecting with the folks there even if it’s not necessarily the games you want to play because the more you build those connections, the more likely you are to end up with a group that does.
If you live somewhere that doesn’t have local game shops, there are online groups. I’ve been out of it long enough to not know what to suggest here specifically though.