FWIW, you don’t need the CS degree to pivot to software. Start learning, build a project portfolio, and attend local tech meetups. Unless you really want the academic experiences, you’re footing unnecessary literal and opportunity costs. Around 30% my colleagues have unrelated degrees.
Working and learning at the same time is quite a bear to tackle, so you’ve certainly got the gumption.
Things vary from company to company, but tech is pretty chill about trans* stuff. I’m out and one of several at my current company. No pronoun issues.
Having lived as a young woman, I don’t find it at all unreasonable to organize a class where women don’t have to worry about unsolicited advances or condescension from men. I had to leave a computer engineering program because of that kind of behavior.
There are soooooo many men who truly believe that women exist solely for the gratification of men and are otherwise inferior. Having a space where one can just learn and not have to worry about dealing with that bullshit is pretty damn valuable.
The partnership shared with my spouse is the best thing about my life.
We never run out of engaging conversations or fun, we carry each other through the hard times, equally share household responsibility, and we trust each other enough to be fully transparent with our humanity. We share a daily priority of mutual care. I think this is what Le Guin meant by “the bond” in The Dispossessed.
Like something out of a fairytale, my spouse has been an unwavering bastion of support since we started dating in high school. They held my hand through my dad’s terminal illness and death in the first three months and helped me survive a year of abuse after that. When I transitioned a year after marrying, they came out as bi. They’ve never complained about weathering through all of the cPTSD baggage. Heck, their love and support rehabilitated me. They see my neurodivergence as a feature rather than a bug.
I’m so fortunate and grateful to live this life with them. Every day is a gift.
I hate that the QC/longevity of Logitech’s mx ergo trackballs are so horseshit. Very comfortable and nice when it works, but I’ve had four die (each in a different way) in under 6 months of use.
Perhaps this is a dumb question, but what are the critical missing pieces with respect to in-person communication and care? There might be some creative ways to supplement digitally?
It seems clear that the ideal is connecting with someone in-person who you really vibe with. Is the in-person aspect the most important for the friendship that you’re seeking?
It feels like I’m the rope in tug-of-war between my current career and my ambitions to become a physician.
There’s the long term decision and the current reality of trying to passably perform in both work and my organic chemistry class.
Is increasing trans representation in healthcare really a worthwhile personal pursuit with climate calamity on the horizon? Would it be better to channel my energy into mutual aid, community organizing, and foster care?
I wish I had an academic mentor (or any mentor) to talk to about it. Yeah, I’m a real adult now and therapy is a thing but 🤷♂️
As a neurodivergent person of trans experience, online socializing is critical for safely recharging my social needs. This seems like a good refuge from the plague of corporate interests at the moment. I'm excited to explore and enthuse with everyone :)
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FWIW, you don’t need the CS degree to pivot to software. Start learning, build a project portfolio, and attend local tech meetups. Unless you really want the academic experiences, you’re footing unnecessary literal and opportunity costs. Around 30% my colleagues have unrelated degrees.
Working and learning at the same time is quite a bear to tackle, so you’ve certainly got the gumption.
Things vary from company to company, but tech is pretty chill about trans* stuff. I’m out and one of several at my current company. No pronoun issues.