RBWells @ RBWells @lemmy.world

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3/4 of mine were born at home, but with midwife, 5 minutes from a hospital, and she won't attend if you don't agree to be transferred if necessary. Hospital birth when my kids were born really was over medicalized - the hospital by me had a C-section rate of over 50%, literally worse than a coin flip, they had you lay on your back, still, with monitors, it was designed to fail.

I think now the hospitals have come around to some of the home birth ideas, if you are low risk you can walk around, give birth in a position that works for you, eat and drink for longer, better chance of natural uncomplicated birth that way.

Wipe dishes off, don't rinse them well before putting them in a dishwasher. They will get cleaner if they go in dirty (modern dishwashers keep going until the water is clean), and it saves water because the dishwasher is more efficient than washing them in the sink. Then clean the filter in the dishwasher after you use it.

The circumstances.

If it wasn't a situation where it was a recurring character trait thing, but one time, unusual circumstances, quickly disclosed, STD tested before we did it again, and if we'd been together a long time first.

Now, having said that - I don't think infidelity comes out of nowhere, if it's not a person who just always will cheat, there are usually problems leading to it. So it's unlikely to work out. But I might be willing to see if it could.

Carlos for scale.

Wait - is she his ex, or are you married to both of them? If you are all one family, I do understand, that sort of makes sense not to make 3 more and end up with a family of 9 people.

If she is his ex, what the actual fuck?

I don't think you are crazy for not wanting to drive, but don't think it's a good idea to quit because of the accident, either. Your dad is right, everyone does get on an accident eventually. I had a very bad one that totalled my car (someone ran a stop sign) and the trauma made me a bad driver for awhile, so watch out for that. But getting back behind the wheel, overcoming your fear and becoming a competent and comfortable driver is a life skill that will help you, even if you decide that you don't want to have a car. The life skill of getting back in the saddle after a fall (metaphorically speaking) is an even more important life skill. But driving in particular really is helpful - I mostly bike now, but being able to drive well comes in handy at least weekly.

1. Sex swings, and other Adult adult equipment.
2. See #1

I think the Adult tag has been coopted to mean sex stuff. We did go do ziplines once, that was like a playground for grownups in a way, they don't use Adult in their marketing.

They live so long, though. If you get one in retirement it might outlive you.

It's not necessary to take Greenland at all, so there's no need for a contingency plan. "if necessary" makes no sense.

You are in Dallas? The main redeeming quality of Texas is the music. I wholeheartedly agree with this suggestion.

Also going out to the same places at the same time can pay off, you will make acquaintances and some may become friends. I see a group of old guys at the cafe I go to for coffee, pretty sure they are only friends because they go get breakfast at the Cuban place and ended up talking and sitting together.

I will say though, almost all my friends I met as adult came from work or from them going out with someone in my family. The medium level friends you are probably looking for. Do you not have work?

"Smoke me a kipper, I'll be back for breakfast!"

Breakfast is my favorite meal, though I don't eat it very early, so I'm more likely to eat breakfast stuff for lunch or supper, than the other way around.

But leftover reheated pizza is so good for breakfast.

The Mexican places here make breakfast chilaquiles with yesterday's leftover chips!

We love a breakfast burrito with refried beans, potatoes, eggs, onion, cheese, salsa.

Grits is traditional breakfast foods though? When were you eating them before?

Grits with butter, cheese, and nutritional yeast, yum!

Rice with chili paste and a fried egg, and pork fu is my "Korean grandma" breakfast, but I have done the same with grits and potatoes.

I needed to track when not on bc pills, and then during the disastrous run with the copper IUD. Did not use an app, except Excel, and certainly would not do that now, nor advise my kids to. Get a notebook or make coded marks on a calendar.

Woah. I have some thoughts .

All my kids can cook, and all their significant others can cook. I never thought of it as a pain though, more a creative outlet, and whoever cooks gets to eat what they want, right? I make what I want, everyone else eats that.

One of my brothers went to school in New Orleans and told me he just ate out every meal there. And my mom only followed written recipes or made spaghetti, she didn't like to cook.

Oh and when I was dating my now husband, one of his kids asked for "mashed potatoes made from potatoes" for his birthday. But he can cook now, his girlfriend has an Italian dad and his standards are high, lol. So both he & the girlfriend are good cooks now.

My ex, he was the worst cook I have ever known, but learned at work and became a very good cook as an adult. Like exceptionally good, could take the produce that was going to be thrown out and make it into something customers would pay a lot for.

This is funny, I drive manual in the US where even most pickup trucks now have automatic transmission, and the two groups who have been impressed (I am a middle aged lady) are valets and mechanic shops.

I do think that for my 21 year old daughter it's an unusual skill and one she values. None of my other kids can drive my car, I had to teach that one because I let her use the car to go to college, I bike to work now since it's much closer than the school.

My ex can drive the big trucks with like 16 gears. And both he & my husband can shift motorcycles with ease, I struggle. I guess it would get easier with practice.

I'm pretty old & geeky so people are often surprised I can do a great cartwheel. One trick pony when it comes to acrobatics, it's just the cartwheel.