RBWells @ RBWells @lemmy.world

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It depends. Probably, as long as they didn't think I was going to hell, or believe something I found awful, or were evangelistic, needing me to believe what they did.

My mom's family was Methodist, my dad's family was Catholic, my mom stayed Methodist, Dad became just open-minded general Theist but not specifically Christian, I am not religious but not capital A Atheist.

I don't understand how they are not sweaty as fuck? They are made of plastic, yes?

You know, I think cesarean is overused but the reason it is used is because previously if the baby couldn't get out, they had to smash the skull and pull out the body and hope the mother survived. What the actual fuck? The midwife did have to reach inside me to fix the position of one of mine and unstick the cord, which was horrifying enough, but how can a doctor not do that if she can? I have a relative with cerebral palsy from a forceps injury too.

And holy shit, someone posted pictures of the body without even asking the parents? Who does that? Have they no shame, no sense?

What the actual fuck? When this first came around, my eyes saw white and gold, in this post it looks like overexposed brown and blue, and looking at this graphic is fucking with my head! Brains are wee photo editors, aren't they?

Local community radio, monthly.

A little towards anything I read or listen to, not often but as I can I do.

Towards disasters if work is doing a fundraiser, we have a charity arm and I know where the money is going as I work in accounting.

Directly to people, again as I can. This is the biggest $ category probably. If I have cash I will give it, don't think about trying to sort out who "deserves" it, that's not something I can or will do. Will pick up an extra meal occasionally if there is a homeless person around. And have given space in my house occasionally, though at least once did not when I really should have, there is an occasion I regret not offering that to someones I know - I think it would have helped them get back on their feet much faster but I was worried for my safety (from my ex not the people who needed).

I don't consider myself generous in light of what I have, but still digging out from being poor myself.

I like perfume, enjoy smelling it on others but agree, for work particularly you ought not wear one with throw. No other apect of your grooming reaches away from you like that. Wear what you like, for yourself, so that you smell good to you. Not so much that people know you are coming before you arrive. Not so much that I can't get in the elevator with you.

I don't think kids should get a veto but do think kids should get to voice their input and you should listen to it and address it. When I got together with my now husband, 2 years dating then we moved in together, 2 years living together before we got married. Our kids all like each other and are glad to have more family. When we first moved in together, the teenagers played beer pong and bonded, lol. The little ones were happy because they got an upstairs. It was obvious everything was working out.

No I didn't ask the kids' permission, but we are close and they are open with me, I trust them to tell me how they feel and oh boy they do.

I saw a ribbon sticker that said "support ribbon stickers" on a car here.

Yeah I see them parked at my office and always think - someone drove that enormous truck here, then went up the elevator to their office job. What the fuck?

I apologize for the misandry but also we have a saying down here - the bigger the truck, the smaller the cock. If you don't need a work truck for your work, you ought not get a work truck, it's stupid expensive and gas guzzling. I judge you.

I was on Reddit a long time, never had a Facebook or Twitter or Instagram or Snapchat, back in the dark ages I used Usenet but not AOL or Myspace or anything like that. I try not to use much that is not anonymous.

For a couple of years now just Lemmy, in those two years I have put I think 4 posts on Reddit (people with local questions, Lemmy is not big enough for a good local sub.), and look at it maybe once every two months, not browsing but in answer to specific questions.

I wouldn't describe myself as hardcore, though. Regular person. I look at the phone's news feed, talk to other people, get information other places.

I think when the surgery is good, nobody notices it. Two women at my work had to get eyelid lifts for medical reasons, and both came out looking so much better and not at all "done". Really nobody would ever think they had plastic surgery and even I forget then think wow that was great work.

That standard filler face though? I know the look it's emulating and we cannot all look like that! I knew an old old lady who had been a Vogue fashion model in the 40s and 50s and she had that bone structure that ages so well, the high big cheekbones, eyebrows that had started out so high she had room for them to fall, I look at those overdone samey samey faces and it's not going to work. I cannot take my wide round face and morph it into that with filler!

Sunscreen. Retin-A. Sleep and exercise. Those are the way to keep looking good as you are getting old. I can't understand botox because if exercise keeps everything else healthy how is it bad for your face?

I can sort of agree that someone who has to fight their natural inclinations is a better person in a way, than someone naturally "good" who doesn't question themselves.

But drunk guys I think do show who they are. My ex was a reasonable guy for a long time but when he started drinking it all fell apart. He was mean trailer park dad when he was drunk, racist, sexist, abusive. My husband now, when he drinks too much he is just the dopey "I love you" guy.

So I'd argue that, while I absolutely agree with taking a moment before speaking, part of the point of that exercise is to train your mind to be less of an asshole, so over time you become more thoughtful. Mel Gibson does not get a pass from me, he's old enough to know better.

Yeah, she sure does look like someone at least 45 with filler and botox. I think it's a style thing, she got the filler and botox already for some reason. Perhaps evil does age people.

Wow, his view of what makes someone your child is the absolute opposite of what I believe. Any child I raise is "my child". Anyone who considers me their mom is "my child", no matter who their biological parents are.

And, thankfully I've never been in a position to have to give one up for adoption but if so, I would say the parents who raised them are the parents, not me.

I really don't think he's their dad. If he wants to be a mysterious benefactor who gives them money because their moms used his sperm, that's not an awful thing to do, but saying they are his children is lunacy.

I sure hope he doesn't have any stepchildren, as presumably they'd be left out of this largesse.

Fresh corn tortillas.

Tequila.

Haircare stuff

Husband bought "the good eggs" once and has not looked back since. I used to keep chickens and the bougie store eggs are much closer to those than they are to the factory farmed thin shelled light yolked ones.

Whole Foods, oddly enough, is the place I find the cheapest good pasta. Their store brand is less than most places and really good.

They are not corporeal so why would they care what your body looks like? To them it is just some envelope holding you, right? Your soul I don't think would have race, or sex, those are embodied things, skin tone being the most superficial of all.

You what now? I've never met anyone who wanted corn or sugar syrup if maple was available. Plenty who will accept it if it's all that's available though. Maple syrup is very expensive down here.

Better than any syrup is berries macerated in sugar though. On pancakes or waffles. Yum.

Did they describe the sex though? Like came up to you and, unsolicited, said "OMG my husband shot such a big load inside me!", or did they just say they were trying to have a baby?

When someone says they are going to lunch do you say "eew, you are going to chew that food with all that saliva and then swallow it, and it's gonna travel through your digestive system and then you are going to poop? Why are you telling me this?"

Kidneys are right there. Get checked out please.