Thanks a million for all of your advice. It helped get me on track to put it all together. You helped me help someone you don't even know keep there job :) The interwebz can be a magnificent place.
It's just a word for describing, cute adorable things like these two. I inherited it from a friend who used to call their dog 'shmoopy' as an affectionate nickname
Yes boundaries are so important and it can be terrifying when you come from a background of abuse and trauma. You just always assume the worse. Realising that you can stand up for yourself by being calm, rational and diplomatic is like being able to breathe again after holding your breath under water. I'm so glad you're at a place where you know your worth and your strength. I love seeing people empowered :)
For those who were following my comment yesterday about my boss trying to get me to fire another employee on her behalf I have good news. My boss listened to what I had to say and I managed to de-escalate the situation to a written warning. My boss was suprisingly reasonable about it, realised she was acting from emotion and thanked me for talking her down. That is not how i expected it to go at all. As someone who often struggles to speak up/stand up for myself I'm pretty proud of myself for once in my life. I'm going to hold off on looking for something else for the time being, but it's made me realise i really need to get serious about having disaster savings Edit: Thanks to everyone who gave their advice yesterday. It was very much appreciated and helped me so much.
Thanks, i've emailed very reasonable response being like 'so fair work says' and made it about protecting the business. Hopefully she sees reason. But i think i may have effectively checkmated her if she tries to give me grief.
Thank you. Yeah i saw straight through what my boss was doing when they told me. I think because I'm introverted and a respectful person people like my boss think i'm weak and will just do as told. i hate having to deal with people like this
Thank you. I've emailed my boss and presented my objection in a way that is about protecting the business and suggested going 100% by the book. Hopefully they see reason. If they don't listen, i'm going down the i'll be liable route.
Yeah I personally think she is a covert narc there's been a few signs since I started. I've had to fire people many times in the past but i always made sure to follow the correct process.
Thank you. I sent an email to the director this afternoon outlying how the proposed course of action is a risk to the business and proposed performance managing the employee and making sure we have done everything right in the eyes of Fair Work. If they don't listen I'll then hit them with the fact I could be personally liable for not following due process and I'm not prepared to do that.
So to clarify, I am the Store Manager and I report in to the director of the business who is the one asking me to do this. I absolutely agree regarding following the correct process. As I mentioned, the employee hasn't done anything to warrant instant dismissal but has probably behaved in the way that warrants a sit down and verbal warning. It's also behaviour that the owner has allowed to continue for 5 years without giving warnings verbal or otherwise, so the employee would absolutely be within his rights to go to fair work. I imagine the owner is getting me to do it so it's my ass that stomped and not hers.
Team, I need some advice. My boss dumped on me yesterday that she wants me to fire an employee who has been with the business for 5 years, however she wants me to tell this employee that I made the decision to fire them and to not mention under any circumstances that she has asked for it to be done. I'm really not ok with this as I see it as me being thrown under the bus and being made to look like the bad guy, i think it also shows a complete lack of integrity and also cowardice on the part of my boss.
The employee in question has had some behavioural problems which have existed since he started years ago, but they only seem to an issue for my boss now. I personally don't think that this employee has done anything severe enough to warrant termination and my boss absolutely doesn't want to provide this employee opportunity to improve or correct the behaviour. I'm at a loss as to what to do, because I think if i am honest with this employee and tell them that it was owners decision to fire them, I will most likely be on the chopping block as well when my boss finds out. Everyone at my work is casually employed so I can be dismissed without notice. I've felt for some time that my boss is a covert narcissist or at the very least has a toxic personality and this pretty much sealed the deal for me. I feel like resigning over this but have no savings and will need to try and find another job. I just don't know what to do.
Thanks a million for all of your advice. It helped get me on track to put it all together. You helped me help someone you don't even know keep there job :) The interwebz can be a magnificent place.