Ookami38 @ Ookami38 @sh.itjust.works

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Sure, get needlessly antagonistic, provoke a response, decide to run from the confrontation you caused, and I'm the childish one. Fuck outta here.

I'll take my chances.

That's purposely obtuse. Of course guns have a purpose, you even listed one.

Hahah, I have no idea if you're using that right, looks close enough to me.

I think that's the best way to proceed. Each case is different, and each person is different. The only way to know is to talk to them. Like I said elsewhere, you seem like you've got the right mindset, and that's 80% there. The rest you learn as you go, with the person you're supporting.

Yeah, that last line, the transparent bit? Was added in the end as a little joke.

Edit: all good, buddy. Happens to all of us.

The rest of the post wasn't. The bit at the end I added in an edit, yes.

I don't think they're offended. I think they're saying that a tool is a tool. A gun or AI are only dangerous if misused, like a hydraulic press.

We can't go around removing the tools because some people will abuse them. Any tool can kill someone.

What, you think because she's a sex worker she can't climb to a balcony?

Just use your ass to climb, problem solved.

No. The second G is silent. What's wrong with you?

The rabbit lies too.

Depending on what you're needing done, a lot of times IT has to cover their asses. If it didn't happen on that phone call, it didn't happen. I always appreciate the gumption, you probably saved us like, 30 call just from figuring out other issues yourself. If it's anything that will cost the company money, though, like replacing hardware - if I don't take due diligence in making sure those earlier steps are done, it's my ass on the line.

You know you're smart enough to do the troubleshooting, but that technician has probably 1000+ users that rotate weekly, they can't keep a log book of which ones are good and which ones will land them in the shit. I totally get the frustration, but the ones who lie about doing simple troubleshooting ruin it for everyone.

It's the same as going to a mechanic and saying "my car doesn't work!" No shit? That's usually why people come here. Wanna be more specific?

I support doing the troubleshooting yourself. Just be aware, if you call with one of those 9 out of 10 cases, we're still going to have to do ALL of those steps again, so I can document that we tried them before sending any hardware. I've been burned one too many times by someone telling me they've already tried something.

To be fair, I do IT for convenience stores. Sometimes we have to reboot pumps or similar, and all we can do is have them throw a breaker for 30 seconds lmao

The only hesitation I'd give with this advice is, it may be better to wait on pronouns until they're more fully out. It sounds like they have family they are NOT ready to know, and... Well, you can brush off one or two misgenderings without much suspicion, but eventually it could leak some information they don't want out yet.

I had a friend in a similar situation, out to close people, but not out to their family or strangers. We decided it'd be best to keep using he/him, old name, etc. for convenience and safety, until they finally fully came out last year. The only difference from my perspective has been to delay those habits for a bit. No situation is the same, though, and the parent would be beat served talking to the kid.

Sounds like you're doing alright. I'd say keep doing as you're doing. Don't change anything unless asked - make this whole thing seem completely normal. Just be attentive and listen to your child. You probably won't understand, at least not fully, a lot of what they're going through. No matter how hard you try, unless you experience it yourself, it's pretty much impossible, like seeing a new color. Be open to that fact, that things are quite simply fundamentally different from their perspective.

Be a safe space. It sounds like you already are. Keep doing that. No matter the situation the two of you are involved in, your priority is their livelihood. Safety, autonomy, backup, whatever they need in order to provide that.

They were comfortable enough with you to tell you, and ahead of two others who might have a similar "right" to know. Your response was to provide the support you immediately could, and seek assistance otherwise. Keep doing what you're doing, bud.

... I hope one day I have a trans kid. I always wanted to be transparent.

This feels like a bit of an overreaction. There's no identifying information, this is a small corner of the Internet, and they're here looking for advice on how to be better able to support the kid.

I'd say if I was the kid and I ran across this post, if anything it'd make me feel like my parent is taking a ton of effort to understand and support me.

I'd like to... Spend some time... with some witches. Know which woods?

Just run a pushpin through it?