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Yeah, I got that, but the only coding I'm aware of on Blahaj is the cutesy voice thing. Which I didn't think was enforced until right now. I figured you thought I must be a cis man because I don't talk cute, and you were pointing out I didn't sound trans which makes me sound like the outsider you think I am. Did I misunderstand your reading?

Tbh I think the social pressure to talk in a cutesy voice in queer spaces comes from societal misogyny. Places like Blahaj are dominated by transfemmes, who are traumatized by masculinity and fearful of being misgendered. While all my cool trans friends are accepting of gender nonconformity, I think a lot of people don't manage to get fully to that place even if they're trans, because it's a fucking lot of work. So certain trans spaces, and I don't know if this is the majority of people on Blahaj or just you, they pressure people to act in line with traditional femininity due to their trauma and fear, reproducing the conditions of the patriarchy like a child who was beaten becoming a violent parent.

I'm butch and I'm not going to stop being butch just because I'm in thigh highs and plushies land.

Complaining here is a waste of effort for accomplishing what you supposedly want.

Making Blahaj a safer place for trans people with less drama? I can't do that on Blahaj?

I read most of the other comments and didn't reply because I don't want to start a ton of arguments, but your comment stood out to me as making a lot of assumptions about what I want that I don't understand.

This is actually a great example of why I'm not a huge fan of Blahaj's guidelines. You're trying to use your sense of cognitive empathy to figure out how I think. And the guidelines say empathy is good. But I don't like it. You're making mistakes, and I'd rather you didn't try to psychoanalyse me. I want you to empathize with me less, please. You haven't read enough of what I have to say to make accurate guesses at the level you're trying to. It's too early for the amount of empathy you're pointing at me.

One of the reasons I created this post is because I assume Ada doesn't like being psychoanalysed by internet people either. This post is a warning that the current system leads to lots of amateur psychoanalysis. It's unpleasant for me, I'd assume it would be unpleasant for her too.

Social interaction is magic. You have an organ for creating special waves that transmit your thoughts into other people's heads? That's just telepathy. Language is a superpower. And it only works because everyone believes a bunch of vibrating air molecules can have meaning, which is some spiritual woo-woo.

Comforting people with your voice is a form of magic and atheists don't believe in magic, so they haven't developed any incantations.

There's no need to "control corruption" or prevent "enforcers not understanding the rules" when the person making the rules is also the person enforcing them.

That's exactly when you most need to control corruption. You're talking about the legislative and executive branches of governance. Most states separate those TO control corruption. I don't think it's practical to control corruption that way on an internet forum, but that's why the other controls need to be stronger to pick up the slack.

People like PugJesus think they're controlling corruption. PugJesus is a transphobe, the specific decisions he thinks are abuse aren't. But people like him don't have the ability to read Ada's mind, so she's got to explain it to every single one of them or they'll all start rumours about what the secret rules of Blahaj are. And Blahaj certainly does have secret rules. They're the rules of how Ada thinks. And everyone is interested in knowing them, since she won't explain them.

No, that's ridiculous. The admins can just change the rules to close the loophole.

That's how the government does laws. They don't just wave their hands and say "don't misbehave". Problems like police brutality are more likely to happen when enforcers don't clearly understand the rules, and aren't held to them.

But the government still makes an effort to control corruption by having clearly defined rules, and that's good. That leads to less abuse of power.

Blahaj is supposed to be a safer space for trans people than the streets of most countries. It should be more careful about the rules, not less.

I've seen lots of people be dicks on Blahaj. Because my understanding of being a dick is different to Ada's. Everyone's is. We all have different life experiences, values, triggers.

Transphobes are going to keep on criticising Blahaj as long as they think transphobia isn't dickish. Which is as long as they're transphobes. The rules complaints are going to just keep on happening forever unless Blahaj gets rules.

The only other communities where I've seen as much drama over the rules are Beehaw, which is designed the same way, and .world, which wouldn't state an admin position on advocating violence for a long time. Ambiguity creates conflict.

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Psychiatrist never diagnosed him with ASD. Psychiatrist never diagnosed him with NPD. It's all rumours and stereotypes. He wants the sympathetic stereotype, Lemmy users who think they're leftists want the unsympathetic stereotype. How about we leave stereotypes out of the conversation to talk about the piece of shit he actually is, instead of which neurodivergencies we think we can use as weapons against him?

That's what I call sh.reddit. it's a regional dialect

Don't forget that Elmo is also an autist. You could just as easily and just as truthfully say an evil autist is destroying the country.

I don't know why you'd want to politicise a mental disorder like that, but since you're already doing it, you might as well go all the way.

Imagine how pants-shittingly-scared the oligarchs would be if one got capped and they couldn't find the killer?

I don't have to. That's how scared they are now. Luigi is a cope. He didn't do that, he's just there to make the oligarchs feel better like a night light

They'll call the actual shooter a copycat.

If Discord were on GitHub with a GNU licence, Revolt wouldn't need to spend all this time re-inventing the wheel.

If Revolt enshittifies, the next replacement won't need to spend time re-inventing the wheel.

Even in the worst case scenario, this is a step in the right direction. And I'm not convinced of your worst case scenario.

Chat is so laggy

https://reddthat.com/post/37286760

I like Revolt better because it's actually designed to replace Discord. Matrix isn't designed to be Discord, and that's a problem, because what I want is FOSS Discord. Matrix doesn't bring any novel features that make me want it more than FOSS Discord.

That episode fucked with me for a long time. She wasn't his daughter, but he had no way to know. They took away his ability to see and tell right from wrong.

That's because people don't know what communism is

Something tells me they didn't survey a representative sample of Gazans