I don't like the "Ally" term. I don't get it. Feminist thinks the equality of man and woman, but the existence of the ally term make a distinction into feminist and allys, that it's just a genre thing. So you are saying there are no equality between male and famele at all.
I say because I have ADHD too. My reaction are more thoughtful and cold in stress situations like theft assaults or accidents are way better that neurotypical ones (I'm from latinamerica so they are very common). But I have so much problems to do normal things daily and they are ruining my life.
Today I was able to sort out a few drawers full of shit in my room and part of a library.